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Stressless Success

This post was most recently updated on March 26th, 2014

Stressless SuccessMany of my clients come to me looking for success strategies.  As they grit their teeth and get ready to dig in for a tough regimen, they are often surprised when I teach them the principles of what I call “stressless success”.

 

Who Wants Success?

 

Everyone wants to be successful in something.  As a practicing intuitive consultant, I work with many people who want success in love.  They have been disappointed, and often feel abandoned and lonely.  They try hard to find love and companionship, but complain that the harder they try, the more elusive it seems.

 

As a consultant for online entrepreneurs and business people, I work with people who are bloggers, affiliate marketers, and website owners.  They are very commonly deluged with so much information and technology, that even as they learn more and more, their overall success seems to drift aimlessly.

 

Success Begins With A Vision

 

Whether I’m working with a client who has love issues, or business… the process is the same.  Success begins with a vision.

 

Often, people want love or online income, but have no concept at all of what that looks like.  So I begin with helping my clients actually “see” what it is they want.  We often put this on paper, but in the end, it’s all about them continuing to keep their eye on their vision.  I give them specific exercises to do this.

 

Success Requires Hard Work

 

It’s funny that nobody believes in “love at first sight” or “get rich quick schemes”.  Yet, most of my clients are looking exactly for that.  They want to find the perfect relationship over a single cup of coffee, or buy a software that ensures them huge profits while they’re at the beach.

 

Love at first sight happens.  But rarely.  Overnight profits happen.  But even more rarely.  For the vast majority of people, success love, success in business, success in anything… comes only with lots of hard work and consistency.

 

So I work with my clients to design process which, if they work at them consistently over a period of time, will give them an excellent chance of achieving the success they want.

 

The key, here, is to know which processes will be most likely to get you the success you want, in the shortest time possible.  So, that’s what we focus on.

 

Stressless Success Leads To Results

 

The results of your vision and hard work should be success.  The problem I so often find, though, is that my clients  will begin a process, work it a few days, and then complain about poor results.

 

All their focus goes toward results.  This causes intense stress, discomfort and usually disappointment.  You cannot put your focus on the results you want to achieve. Instead, put it on the process you are working.

 

If you’re looking for love, go the the places you planned, or join the groups you said you would… whatever your strategy.  Do it.  Stop asking why, after two days, you haven’t found true love.

 

If you’re looking to get 10 people a day to opt-in to your mailing list from your blog, stop counting how many new subscribers you have every single day.

 

Focus on your strategy and do the process.  Become immersed in it.  Be passionate about it.  Look at results every 30 days, not every 30 minutes.

 

Over a period of maybe 90 days, re-assess your strategy and the processes you have put in place.  Continue them, alter them, add or subtract to them.  But not every day.  I usually recommend a results-oriented review  after 90 days.

 

In the meanwhile, let go of all the stress that is attached to anticipating certain results.  Enjoy the process of creating success, and watch it flow.

 

This is the Stressless Success strategy I teach my clients, and I believe it’s even more important than both vision techniques and hard work.  Unfortunately, it’s also more misunderstood and elusive.  The irony, of course, is that the less you focus on results, the faster they usually arrive.

 

What’s your path to success? 

 

Do you focus on vision techniques like mediation and affirmations?  Do you just  plow into a bunch of hard work each day?   Or have you mastered the joy of the stressless success method I’ve described?

I’d love to hear about the success path you are on, in the comments below.

Many Blessings, Donna

Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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46 Responses to Stressless Success

  1. Dawn Golden November 12, 2013 at 10:27 pm #

    Thank you Donna! The title of this post surely caught my eye. It is a helpful reminder to stay the course and be patient, but most of all… to be true to my passion. You have lifted my spirits!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      November 13, 2013 at 3:26 pm #

      Hi Dawn,

      Well I’m sure glad your spirits are lifted by this post! Yes, Dawn, stay on your course no matter what. Don’t let ANYTHING let you stray. Be true to your passion and you will enjoy your journey.

      -Donna
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  2. Marty Diamond
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    September 29, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

    I resonated to stop looking at your results every 30 minutes – and instead focus on what’s happened every 30 days

    That’s so true with clients – many times they don’t seek help until things way out of control – and they panic if it doesn’t turn around in a flash. Calming them down can be a challenge – so I always have them focus on how long it’s taken for them to get to this place – and the many decisions that led to this point. Then we focus on the steps it will take to turn things around and put reasonable time limits on each – then it’s just a matter of reminding them where we are in the process and what we’ve accomplished to date.

    Not easy – especially for the business owner – but it’s the only way.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 30, 2013 at 7:28 pm #

      Hi Marty!

      Oh so true! And thank you for adding this important advice to the comment. Calming our clients down can be a challenge.

      I find that I have to repeatedly tell those stories of “failure” (I call it a bump in the road) that leads to success.

      I don’t know one person that came into a business and everything went smooth. Look at the “big” guys in any industry. When they reach over a million dollars people think that’s what they can do. But they never research the rest of the story….. And that is, they had many bumps in the road before they reached that pinnacle.

      Thanks again,

      -Donna
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  3. Sherman Smith September 14, 2013 at 10:27 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    You know what! I definitely agree with you on this. It’s funny how people can make money or find love without trying versus those that stress themselves out to getting little to no results. I always wondered why that is LOL… well you pointed it that out quite well. People just don’t focus and enjoy the ride, instead they focus on the results.

    In any venture you take, you have to focus on the process. At least in my experience. It’s much more enjoyable and less stressful. But you definitely want to figure out what process works best for you and the most enjoyable. Once you do this, consistency will be a piece of cake!

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 30, 2013 at 7:23 pm #

      Thank you Sherman!

      Your words ring true! As long as we enjoy and focus on the process it is less stressful.

      Consistency will become a piece of cake when we do this.

      Thanks for your input!

      -Donna
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  4. Corina Ramos September 10, 2013 at 1:45 am #

    Great post Donna!

    I have two goals every month. My personal success and my based on my monthly stats.

    I measure my personal success by making a goal to help at least one person and my monthly stats by traffic. As long as there is forward progress, I feel I’m on the right track.

    Before I get my day started I pray and I make sure to keep positive thoughts throughout the day. When I feel I’m being stressed I remind myself that I can only handle one thing at a time.

    You’re right, success does require hard work and lots of it!

    Happy Monday! Have a great new week!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 30, 2013 at 4:47 pm #

      Hi Corina,

      I believe you have the best way to start your day. I do it myself. Before I do ANYTHING….I do pray for guidance. Somehow it works!

      Seems to me that you are on the right track and a good one too!

      -Donna
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  5. Nile September 8, 2013 at 3:54 pm #

    You’ve said it… all of this is a recipe toward success. It just depends on the person’s actions.

    I always hope when I work with other that they try to exercise what I’ve given them… without shortcuts as building a sturdy foundation is important in any business.

    I can usually tell from working with them if they may fail or be confused and offer to consult for them to get them going in the right direction.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 30, 2013 at 4:45 pm #

      Hi Nile,

      Sorry for the late response, but relocating can be a time vulture.

      When consulting with our clients, it does depend on the person’s actions. They really need to know that there is no shortcuts and it does require action on their part.

      Well, you are a great teacher and I’m sure you are guiding them in the right direction.

      -Donna
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  6. Willena Flewelling
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    September 8, 2013 at 10:53 am #

    Something I long for, and NEED, but which often eludes me, is simplicity. Making a simple plan and focusing on it no matter what else is going on in my life. That alone would greatly decrease stress in my life. Self talk is a valuable tool I use on a daily basis.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 10, 2013 at 12:49 pm #

      Thanks Willena,

      Stress can do a number on us. I know you have been going through so much this summer. My prayers are with you.

      When we simplify things, it is less stressful for us. Life holds so much stress as you well know from your past experience this summer. So we need to take a deep breath and focus a little at a time.

      -Donna
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  7. Mayura
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    September 6, 2013 at 4:53 am #

    Hi Donna,

    “Look at results every 30 days, not every 30 minutes” ~ Love it! 🙂 At the outset, I was thrilled to find out what’s happening in each minute too!

    Obsessing with numbers almost killing folks out there 🙂 I’m not sure about businesses, but bloggers are expecting six month or less success from blogging. I know there are awesome guides out there written with years of experiences and experiments. But just a guide can’t lead you to success, eh? 🙂

    They are very intelligent and smart personalities! Even they tend to achieve more within six months with very hard working attitude, but then give up on it after all. They all reminds me that we are running a marathon. Isn’t it Donna? 🙂

    I do really agree when you say if we have less focus on success, results come out naturally before even we think of ’em 🙂 I can recall Sylviane once told about it in her Personal Development blog too.

    Here’s for more success Donna! You always have food for thoughts which really works 🙂

    You have a fantabulous weekend at your new home place ahead dear 🙂 Hope everything is fine over there!

    Cheers…
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 10, 2013 at 11:50 am #

      Hi Mayura,

      I think in the beginning we do get obsessed to look at our numbers when we first start a campaign. But that’s because it is new to us. Then we must discipline ourselves to keep going forward with our plan and not to pay that much attention to those numbers.

      We can put time on our goals, but must be flexible with it because life always comes in the way doesn’t it?

      If we know what we need to do, and stay in the moment of it, then we can reach our success levels without stress.

      -Donna
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  8. Jon Patrick September 5, 2013 at 8:24 am #

    Great message this morning Donna!
    I’ve got a personal story I can relate with this. I’m an optimistic person, and several years ago my life began to change when I changed my prayers at night. I’d go outside, stand beneath the moon, and just be *grateful* – just like Tony Robbins teaches. Thanking God for all the blessings in my life.
    Later, I added to it to ask for my heart to be opened to hear HIS plan for me.
    Some success came my way….
    … I’m not a huge fan, but I’ve listened through The Secret a couple of times, and implemented those strategies.
    But the big thing that has made all the difference? Just as you say. Stop checking your list size daily. Stop looking at webmaster tools every.single.day. Stop checking my back office (sometimes hourly. :))
    Set a 30, 60, and 90 day goal, lay out a simple plan, and get to work.
    Focusing on the long term gets your mind off the stress of what you need to be doing THIS SECOND to feel busy, and refocuses you on the next piece to complete.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 10, 2013 at 11:39 am #

      That’s the ticket Jon!

      Once we are open and ask “What is YOUR plan for me?” and then listen. Ahh that is the real secret to success.

      Yes that 30, 60 or 90 day goal works well Jon. I like doing that and working backwards. I have my “big” goal, then write a list of all those steps to achieve it. Each day focusing on one step will get me there!

      -Donna
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  9. Ryan Biddulph
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    September 4, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

    We do not need to kill ourselves to succeed. Smart, persistent work, driven by a pulsating reason why we do what we do can help success find you without the stress. Great share Donna.

    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 10, 2013 at 11:31 am #

      Thanks Ryan!

      Even now, in the middle of extreme changes in my life (moving) – stress can come up in my mind, but I just push it away. Just gotta do what we gotta do!

      -Donna
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  10. Nate Leung
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    September 4, 2013 at 5:37 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Instead of focusing on the goal at the end of the year, why not break it down into small bits any pieces. If the goal is to generate 50 leads a month, then focus on 1-5 leads per day. Focus on what’s in front of you is more realistic at times vs the long term. Either way, you’ll get there, but focusing on the task for the day is more attainable. This is the same as weight loss… instead of trying to shoot for 20lbs in 3 months, focus on losing 1-2 lbs per week. Set yourself up for success and get small daily results. Thanks Donna!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 11:38 pm #

      Hi Nate!

      Yes, we cannot make ourselves all stressed out by putting so much pressure on ourselves.

      Taking things a little at a time, chipping away at it…will help reach your goal before you know it.

      I think it all comes down to enjoying the process.

      -Donna
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  11. marquita herald
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    September 3, 2013 at 10:35 pm #

    Sign me up girlfriend! Seriously – I think you hit the proverbial nail on the head about the problem people have defining what they want. It’s pretty hard to work toward achieving a goal when it’s little more than a shadow. As far as love, well personally I think the fact the romance and erotica genres are selling off the charts these days speaks volumes about how many people find fantasy more attractive than the real world.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 11:37 pm #

      Awesome Marquita!

      People really need to define exactly what they want! We have to write that goal down and then take tiny steps to reach it. It’s never going to be easy. It takes work, dedication, but most of all enjoyment of the process.

      -Donna
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  12. Gladys
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    September 3, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

    Hello Ms. Donna
    I hope you are moved in and enjoying your new home.

    What a great article regarding success without the stress.
    Donna you gave us excellent points to think about especially Stress less is hard work. Yes it is. we hone on become a success and we are not consciously thinking about how stressed we are because the one thing on the mind at this point is the success. at what cost?

    Excellent and I will share this on my page.

    Thank you
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 9:35 pm #

      Hi Gladys!

      Oh yes, I’m in my new home and having fun decorating it! Plus enjoying my new surroundings. Thank you!

      Success never comes with stress. When we are stressed, how can we enjoy the process?

      Once we step back a while and start enjoying what we are doing, success does come to us.

      -Donna
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  13. Ade - Mr Wisdom September 3, 2013 at 8:22 pm #

    Yes Donna,

    I have a vision about what I want my blog to be. I enjoy writing the posts and I trust that with consistent hard work and a good dose of wisdom, things should turn out better. Ideally I would eventually want to generate a full-time income online but right now, I want to focus on creating something that is of value to my readers!

    I like the idea of reassessing my plans every 90 days. I have a spreadsheet that I use to document my results every week. That way I can see my progress and have a clearer picture at the end of the 90 days like you wisely suggested.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 30, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

      Hi Ade,

      I must apologize here because I didn’t see your comment until now. Life has been a little upside down for me because I have re-located.

      Ahhh…you have vision and that is so important. As long as you are consistent, your vision will come faster than you expect.

      Wow..you have a spreadsheet? You are so organized my friend.

      -Donna
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  14. Jeevan Jacob John September 3, 2013 at 8:01 pm #

    My path to success? Experimentation 😀

    I like to experiment with my methods. Experiment Analyze, Learn, Adjust – Rinse and repeat until I find what works better (or best) for me 🙂

    When I started blogging, I didn’t actually have a vision; all I wanted is a hobby that I would enjoy.

    But, all that changed when I learned about blogging about blogging 😀 My goals changed, although I didn’t do much to develop a vision. I had goals, but I never planned properly.

    I do have a vision now – a plan to achieve my goals 😀

    I do agree with your points, Donna. There is no point in expecting instant reward. We have to work hard (and work smart – know when to quit and reassess our methods :D), persist and be patient.

    We also have to be impatient, because impatience can serve as a great motivator (if used right). Use impatience to work harder, to see results faster 😀

    Of course, don’t be obsessed with results and don’t forget to celebrate our small victories 😀

    Thank you for the wonderful post, Donna!

    By the way, how have you been? I have been on a long blogging vacation; just got back to blogging. Good to see that you are still blogging 😀

  15. Adrienne
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    September 3, 2013 at 1:55 pm #

    I use to do that Donna can you believe! I wasn’t exactly expecting instant success but I was expecting to have better results quicker. Yeah, I believed some of that hype back then I admit. What an idiot!

    Once you finally understand that this is just like anything else and there is no magic bullet then you’re right. Focus on the action steps, be consistent with those and just keep going. Nothing is going to happen overnight and for me it actually took about four months but guess what! It happened and it’s been going strong ever since.

    I wish I had met you several years ago when I was still struggling with some things because you are just so grounded in your thinking. At least I met you now and am constantly learning from you too.

    Thanks for sharing this formula for stressless success Donna. I love that term, so cool! So here’s to all of us achieving this. With your help that’s so possible.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 9:09 pm #

      Hi Adrienne!

      Thanks for your flattering comment! It made me smile girl. Being in business for myself off line for many years taught me this and I carried this onto my on line business.

      One step at a time, until I reach my goal is what I like to do. I don’t like to look at those numbers, because it ruins my pace. Oh hell yea…it is tempting, but with a little discipline, I wait, then I can get a good perspective of my campaign and where it is going or what I should be tweaking.

      -Donna
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  16. Lori Gosselin September 3, 2013 at 1:10 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    My path to success is a hodge podge of different things these days! I visualize what I want – the way I want to feel, I work a solid, slow-but-steady plan,and I try to let it go and enjoy the process.
    I love your stressless success strategy! If it’s stressful, how can it be successful as well?
    Lori
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 9:06 pm #

      Hi Lori!

      You are absolutely on target. If it is stressful, it cannot be successful!

      When we work with ease and enjoy what we are doing, we are giving it our all. In doing this, that good old law of attraction steps in.

      Before you know it….business comes to you, instead of you chasing business! Well that’s the way I like to work!

      -Donna
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  17. Sylviane Nuccio
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    September 3, 2013 at 12:39 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    This is a great post.

    First off I want to confirm that love at first sight does exist, since even though I can’t talk for anyone else, it did happen to me. But, as you said it’s rare, and even it happens, it doesn’t mean that it’s an ever after happy love story.

    Now over night riches, as you said, is even MORE rare, and most of the time is just people flat right lying or embellishing.

    I love it when you’re saying, check your results ever 30 days, not every 30 minutes. Good point. people tend to be impatient and want it to work yesterday. The more you stress about something, the more you activate resistance, and that’s why they don’t see successful results. On the contrary, in turn they get even more stressed and depressed. It’s a vicious circle we don’t want to get into.

    Thank you for your very good advice.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 8:47 pm #

      Hi Sylviane,

      Thanks for your input on this topic. You of all people understand that energy flow of how anxiety brings blocks. When we keep checking every 30 minutes, we can block it on an energy level too. Hmmmm I should have added that to the post.

      Plus it does get you depressed an stressed if you keep checking and there is nothing there. Sometimes I am surprise at the ebbs and tides how people opt in.

      -Donna
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  18. Barbara Charles
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    September 3, 2013 at 11:55 am #

    I love this post Donna. The bottom line is we, as people are impatient and what success ‘right now!’ I like your 90 day strategy as it allows us to see if its working then adjust as necessary. 90 days gives them a ‘not so long’ timeframe to work in – not too long and not too short and if committed, we can assess and adjust. I like that.

    Good plan. Thanks. Think I’ll try it for a few things I’m doing.

    Thanks for the tips.
    Barbara
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

      Thanks Barbara!

      Try it …you will like it. It does take patience and discipline not to peek at your opt-ins. But it does work!

      -Donna
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  19. William Butler
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    September 3, 2013 at 11:06 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I think your strategy may be somewhat similar to mine.
    I’m a firm believer in living in the moment, of being in the moment.

    For example, when I am with someone, I honor them by giving them my full and undivided attention. Little else feels worse than being in someone’s presence who is absent; they’re there physically, but their mind is tuned out.

    I focus my energy and attention what I need to accomplish, then move forward, but I also keep in mind that I’m a human being, not a human doing. I am grateful for every moment, from one to the next.

    I do not stress about things beyond my control. I put my energy into managing what I am capable of. The results will come. I always expect a favorable outcome.

    Glad you got moved. Enjoy your new home. Have a great day!

    Bill
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  20. Silviu September 3, 2013 at 8:24 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I don’t use meditation techniques but I am interested in affirmations and positive thinking. I work every day as hard as I can. However, I think I started to feel how being less stressed and less obsessed with results and numbers make you advance faster.

    Focusing on the process? Be passionate and patient. Enjoy what you are doing. This is an interesting method. Can you tell me what happens when you apply this strategy? Maybe you can give us an example from one of your clients.Somebody who was very stressed, result-oriented and obsessed with numbers and then he or she changed and mastered this stressless success method. What were the results?

    Have a wonderful day
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 5, 2013 at 8:40 pm #

      Hi Silviu,

      One of my clients used to check her stats every day. She would see who is opting in, where they came from, age, sex, etc. Now this took her at least an hour a day.

      More than that, she would change her add too fast just to reach those who were coming in. It made no sense at all. We need at LEAST 30 days to figure out how well our add is doing.

      Bottom line: She wasn’t getting good results! I asked her to wait 60 days before changing anything. It was hard for her to resist, but when she did, she seen a better opt-in rate.

      -Donna
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  21. Sue Price
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    September 3, 2013 at 4:06 am #

    Hi Donna

    I love this post. Yes people do expect instant success and gratification but they will seldom admit to it.

    My first husband was almost love at first sight and clearly the relationship did not last. Ivan my husband now of 32 years was not love at first sight but when we knew it was right we moved pretty quickly.

    I have had one business in my life that did have instant success but it did not last… to come in my current series 🙂

    I agree success begins with a vision. On the relationship one I know several people who have written down exactly what they want and ended up with their ideal partner. It does work and it works with business. Of course we need to take actions but we can relax about it.

    I so agree with you on not checking your results so frequently and expecting things to take time. Consistency is so important and one I must confess I have not been so good at in my online business. But that is changing.

    Thanks for a great post Donna.

    Sue
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 3, 2013 at 9:32 am #

      Hi Sue,

      Yes, when we keep on checking our results all the time, it can be frustrating. I like to give things time in business and in relationships.

      When we look too closely at what we are doing, it can take us away from our primary goal or “vision.”

      I read your last two posts and it was a wonderful share. It is a fine example of how life can throw us a curve ball and we have to bounce back.

      After all, it is the truth about how things go. Nothing in life runs smoothly, unless we take action.

      -Donna
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  22. Harleena Singh
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    September 3, 2013 at 3:11 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Wonderful post indeed 🙂

    Well, for me success is trying my best each day and being happy at the end of it. And I really DO put in my best so I am pretty satisfied at the end of the day I’d say, or perhaps sometimes I might even go overboard, which becomes stressful, but then I’ve my kids and hubby as reminders who don’t let me over-work!

    It all actually depends a lot on what success means to people. For you and me it might mean something totally different, while for another person it might mean something different. Overall, I think you need to just doing what you do at the pace that suits you, because you matter to your family and yourself more than anything else. Nor do you have to check on the results of how you have done too often, just as you mentioned, though occasionally is alright to improve, or else it just becomes a reason for stress.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 3, 2013 at 9:28 am #

      Hi Harleena,

      I agree with you that success is being happy at the end of the day! Thank goodness you have your kids and hubby to balance out your life.

      They are the most important aspect of life after all.

      Yes, every one has a different idea of success. We can all reach our success goals, but as long as we are having a good time doing it, and not getting stressed out, life is good!

      -Donna
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  23. Arleen
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    September 2, 2013 at 10:57 pm #

    Donna- I just wrote a blog this week about how doing agility with my dog has helped me overcome business obstacles. The biggest lesson I have learned is patience. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You have work through everything piece by piece. Your example reminds me of the person who looks at their stock portfolio everyday and when the market goes down are ready to sell and get out. Great results come slowly over time. If you don\’t give up it will come.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 2, 2013 at 11:37 pm #

      Arleen,

      Yes, you gave a fine example here of a person who looks at their stock portfolio every day. Silly isn’t it? Because great results do come over time.
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  24. William Earl Amis, Jr. III
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    September 2, 2013 at 7:40 pm #

    Donna,

    You are right with people looking for instant gratification and that is fantasy. Everyone may want to get to the basics and learn fundamentals of a thing and take action with making adjustments on the way.

    For success as only each can determine theirs. No one is going to make millions of dollars overnight. You may want to understand yes you can have it all. But in time and as far as money take it like a four year plan.

    You want love get the heck out and be real with developing a relationship with people who have the same outlook on life as you. You can not do it online and then met someone who you magically fall in love and live happily ever after.

    Please, you have to get out and have fun with the thought of there is someone for everyone. Do not live desperately longing for the perfect person. You have to be friends first and work you way up to the other. Knowing your vision of a person is a mirage and nothing else.

    People are just that, human with all our faults. You just have to choose which ones you can live with. No one is going to change no mater what you want until they are ready. So, speaking as one who has been married for over 18 years, just accept the good with the confusing and have fun with it.

    As far as those who desire to create a real business then you may want to understand what I had to come to share daily.

    My business is Amis Interactive Communities, which has been established since the 70s and still alive with excitement each day. I had six sources of revenue until four to five years ago. I decided that the only two I currently have was well more than I would ever need. Get a hold of your greed now and do not allow that monster in your life.

    This was just a part of my latest article Donna and you inspired it for that nothing but love here. You are surely one of our great mentors and those around you are blessed.

    • Donna.Merrill
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      September 2, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

      Thank you William!

      I just read your latest post and it was wonderful. We have to have fun and be open to people. It can be for love or business or both!

      It’s all about making relationships. When we give, without expectations of receiving, everything seems to fall into place.

      We have to give ourselves time to create a business and not get all caught up each day in numbers or who did what. We have to know who we are and what we can offer. Then, and only then, we can live our lives in a stressless way.

      -Donna
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