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Keeping it Positive


Keep It PositiveWhen you are on your social media sites, I’m sure you frequently see discussions and threads about politics and other controversial topics. 

 

For the most part, these conversations are negative.  Do you jump into those conversations and give your views, or do you sit silently with your own opinions and just let it ride?

 

Sometimes we can get so passionate about a subject that we want to speak out and give our opinion.  But you always have to stop and wonder whether your comment will help or hurt your brand.  How much should you share on negative and controversial threads in social sites?

 

I say Keep it positive!

 

No matter what is going on in this ever changing world of ours, controversies will happen.  Some things go viral and it just hits our passion point.  That’s because we all have our own varying belief systems.  So what do we choose to say?

 

You see, we need to hold ourselves back from jumping into anything negative, no matter how passionate we get.  You could get involved in controversial topics when they involve your business, as long as they don’t involve anger and negativity.

 

Remember, positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.  This is the basis for the Law of Attraction.  Keeping things positive on social media will ensure that you are attracting positive people and positive messages.  Once you wander into negative discussions, you’ll start attracting a lot of negative people and negative messages.

 

So I strongly recommend that you keep your mindset in a positive place.  Put out positive messages on social media sites, and involve yourself in positive discussions.  When you do, you will attract folks who are mostly positive.

 

 

Now, let me ask you a question:

 

 

Would you want to work with people who are positive and eager to learn, share and grow with you, OR do you want to fight an uphill battle of engaging routinely with those who carry negative energy that drains you and either bores or angers your other friends?

 

I’ll tell you from experience, that folks who radiate negative energy can think you are the best thing ever when you agree with them.  Over time, though, you’ll start realizing that the same people expect you to always agree with them, and always be ready to jump into their fights and support them.

 

They often come to depend on you, and expect you to do everything for them.  They might play the blame game and blame each mistake they make on you.  Even worse, if they are negative in their social media conversations, they are sure to be negative with you, too, eventually.

 

 

Social media is where we meet and greet our friends, share our blog posts and even our products.  Whatever you say is going to stay there forever.  

 

So, don’t ruin your brand by hanging out with negative people and consuming your efforts with angry conversations.  Stick with your positive friends, and focus on sharing positive, inspiring, informational and entertaining content.

Many blessings,

Donna

Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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76 Responses to Keeping it Positive

  1. Arleen
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    December 20, 2013 at 12:14 pm #

    I have always looked at myself as a positive person and feel that negativity is toxic. I like to come to a site I knew I am going to feel good about writing a comment. I may not always agree and I will give my view point because if we all agree, there is really no discussion.

    I love coming to yours. You are such a positive person and it rubs off.

    I want to wish you a happy holiday and a very happy, healthy new year.
    Arleen
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 20, 2013 at 5:33 pm #

      Arleen,

      Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, I too keep far away from the “negative.” Gets down to like attracts like. Keeping things positive is the energy I like to be around.

      -Donna
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  2. Shalu Sharma
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    December 20, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

    You know about politics. Its so hard to ignore. In fact, I am surrounded by politics. My dad and husband talks about politics all time and I too am very much interested in it and some of my tweets reflect that. But I try to be positive in all aspects. You are right about not hanging out with negative people who can engage you in an argument and most of them unnecessary ones.
    *Thanks for buying my book. I am honoured.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 20, 2013 at 5:35 pm #

      Hi Shalu,

      Politics can be a hot button. I love it myself, but keep far away from any discussions on social media.

      Weather it is politics, religion, or a specific topic. If it is negative I just ignore it and go on my way.

      I LOVE your new book!!!!!

      -Donna
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  3. Adrienne
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    December 20, 2013 at 4:07 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    I prefer to not talk about politics or religion online or offline. We all have our own thoughts about these topics and we’re all pretty darn passionate about them as well. Most people are always so eager to change our minds when we all know that’s never going to happen and that’s when the arguments ensue. It’s so not worth it to me Donna.

    Now some people will tell you to talk about a topic that is sure to bring on some controversy just to bring attention to you. Once again, I don’t really feel that is who we are as individuals if that’s what we need to draw attention to ourselves.

    I’m a pretty positive person and I’ve learned over time that I’m drawing mostly just positive minded people to me as well. We all get in the dumps from time to time and we all get upset over things that are going on. It’s not that we have to ignore it but as you said, how important is it to you to speak your mind over this one thing and have it hurt your brand in the long run! I’ll just keep it to myself thank you very much.

    Great topic and I hope it hits home for most.

    Enjoy your holiday young lady and Merry Christmas.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 20, 2013 at 5:37 pm #

      Hi Adrienne,

      Yes I feel the same way. Keep it to myself online is the only way to go no matter how passionate I can get on a topic.

      Sometimes I even find myself starting to comment and stop myself. It would only hurt our brand in the long run.

      Have a Merry Christmas girl!

      -Donna

  4. Susan Neal December 20, 2013 at 5:27 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I agree with Arleen that you absolutely radiate positivity. I probably don’t spend enough time on social media to get hooked into this type of conversation, because I haven’t encountered anything like this yet. I think it’s important to be honest, but I entirely agree that you shouldn’t do anything to fan the flames of hatred or aggression. It’s not just what you say, but the way you phrase things that can make the difference – a negative, hostile tone should certainly be avoided and I guess if you feel so strongly about something you’d find it hard to keep your temper, it’s probably best to stay out of those debates.

    You make an important point about the fact that what we post on social media is up there for ever – it’s a sobering thought. Over here a few people have already been successfully prosecuted over libellous tweets, and one young woman lost a very high profile job because of stuff she’d posted on Twitter, so if you’re not careful, your intemperate posts could cost you more than a bit of bad publicity.

    Great advice, Donna – spot on 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 20, 2013 at 5:41 pm #

      Hi Susan,

      And thank you! I do see many negative trends on the social media platform. Mostly incited by the media and gets people all passionate about a subject.

      I have passion too, and I can talk about it with friends and family, but never on the social media platform.

      If anyone has a negative tone, I just ignore it. I like and comment to many people out there that have something funny to say or to share something of value.

      But..It always must be in a positive tone!

      -Donna
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  5. Nate Leung
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    December 20, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    What an awesome all around post. This one definitely hits home for me.

    I choose to have positive surroundings at all time. What I listen to, what I read, who I talk to all have an impact on being positive at all times.

    Anyone who does decide to take this path must know that it’s not easy because by default we live in a negative world!

    Very well written my friend!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 23, 2013 at 12:01 am #

      Hi Nate,

      Choosing the positive only begets more positive. When in business, I do attract many positive people …like YOU…. and it is an awesome energy.

      Yes, we do live in a mostly negative world and it isn’t easy for some folks. But once acknowledged, the choice is up to them.

      I’ll take the positive highway any day!

      -Donna
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  6. Sylviane Nuccio
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    December 20, 2013 at 10:16 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    To me social media is really not the place to be negative or the place to tell about things that are really personal and can make people wonder if they should be doing business with us, like talking about our politic opinions and so on.

    For sure if we are negative we are going to attract negative people and it’s going to snowball for sure. Who want to be on social media to do that?

    Thank you for reminding people to stay positive on social media. Some really need this type of reminder.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 22, 2013 at 8:48 pm #

      Sylviane,

      If there is anyone that knows how positive energy works it is you! Yes if we hang out or even comment on a negative issue, we attract negative.

      And you and I both know that only leads to one big headache!

      Thanks!

      -Donna
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  7. nick catricala
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    December 20, 2013 at 10:38 pm #

    Donna,
    I wrote a long comment and click the wrong key and it was gone.. hope you recover it somewhere hahah 🙂

    I wrote that this topic could not have come from no one else but YOU my friend… you are such a positive person, no wonder this is in your mind and love to share with others so they also can be aware in case they do not.

    I see being social means to be positive.. it is very easy to be negative, actually as many people always love to say, we live in a negative world.. I do not like to say that but I like to say that we have choices and why not chose to be positive and increase the positive vibrations?

    It is amazing how I witnessed instances where someone point out some positive news or topic in a negative way… and I feel pity for them because I can tell they have no idea they do that that simply because they are sued to do it.

    Hope I have friends like you around so in case I slip out .. for certain I will receive a positive reminder to stay on the positive roadways…

    Thanks for sharing this great post Donna,”

    Marry Christmas and Happy New year to you and yours.
    _niockc
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 10:49 am #

      Hi Nick,

      Thanks for your wonderful comment! Yes, some people say we live in a negative world, but if you are negative, you will only see the negative. And that’s not such a happy life!

      Staying positive will attract positive people around you. I noticed on social media that people will complain about politics and of course I don’t blame them if they are hurt or angry about something. But we must not put it on social media if we are in business.

      No matter what our viewpoint is, we have to have the positive mindset to be in a good positive world.

      -Donna
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      • nick catricala
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        December 28, 2013 at 9:46 pm #

        Donna,
        I am here again just to see if my comment went through.. well, it did and you reply, THANKS, so now I know this one here did not get lots hahah 🙂

        Understanding how important is to be positive and spread positive vibrations in the world is not as easy as we say it.. BUT I know with some effort, it is possible no matter what is the situation.. because in order to have the negative side we always have the positive right opposite to it..

        Just as light and dark.. we can say that the day gets darker and at the same time we can say that soon the days will get lighter earlier (just as you pointed out in one of my article comments that you made 🙂

        Yes, as you mentioned, it does not matter if we are in business here, there is people that love to bring the negatives of the government socially… wasting their precious time that they have to just forget about that negativity and focus on the positiveness that exists in front of them.

        Thanks for be as you are Donna.. and I only want to say.. Keep Smiling.. life is beautiful 🙂

        _nickc
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        • Donna.Merrill
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          December 30, 2013 at 10:11 am #

          Hi Nick,

          Thank you so much for adding more flavor to this article.

          Yes there is that polarity of positive and negative. Can’t have one without the other Eh?

          And staying positive is something that is a learned behavior. We have both feelings inside of us.

          It takes a good learning curve and a lot of discipline to keep it positive.

          Once we apply that to our lives, it gets easier and easier.

          Good seeing you again here,

          -Donna
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  8. Disha Sharma December 21, 2013 at 12:15 am #

    Absloutely right Donna, I do agree with your this such a great post ! I will always keep in my mind this post for Keeping it Positive in life forever.

  9. Michael Belk December 21, 2013 at 1:38 am #

    Donna, it is funny you mention this because I try to stay positive, but I left a comment on a blog last week and some guy corrected my spelling.

    I sarcastically thanked him for correcting my spelling.

    The truth I was thinking he must be bored to go around correcting people in spelling.

    What a life? I did not bite into his controversial attempts.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 10:54 am #

      Hi Michael,

      Good for you! Maybe he was bored, but I think he was trying to flash his ego around he he. I’ve made some mistakes on my blog and my readers would Facebook PM me privately so I can correct my mistake.

      I’ll take constructive criticism any day, but not the way this guy did it!

      Jeeezzz Sounds like he was trying to open up a discussion for himself.

      -Donna
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  10. Amiti
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    December 21, 2013 at 12:52 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    This was a great post. You wrote on one of the more simple topics, but yet still managed to teach us something.

    One of the best ways to keep a blog’s outlook positive is by always finishing a post off on a positive or inspirational note!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 10:56 am #

      Hi Amiti.

      I have many people new to blogging that I engage with. There is so much they need to know and this is one of the things that can ruin their branding.

      I like your idea of the inspirational note!

      -Donna
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  11. Lisa
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    December 21, 2013 at 5:46 pm #

    Hi Donna, oh yes, positivity is the way to go! Negativity can really drag you down and those around you. I try to avoid it like the plague. It really can make a difference in your life. When things are bad I usually don’t post on social media – maybe just share others stuff and keep low key until it passes.
    I also remember that anything you write online can be seen by anyone at anytime, it’s always good to think about that before you go off on something. Excellent topic Donna. Hope your weekend is going well and that you have yourself a Merry Christmas!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 10:58 am #

      Hi Lisa,

      I too avoid that stuff like a plague. I can get heated over a topic but work it out by myself.

      Posting it on social media is a big no no! Yes, once it is there, it lasts forever.

      Imagine trying to do business….you just cut off half of the people that would have “liked” you!

      -Donna
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  12. Rick Lelchuk December 21, 2013 at 7:26 pm #

    Donna,

    With all that his happening in the world keeping quiet on some subjects just ain’t gonna happen. There is just too much at stack and we’ve never had a platform like the Internet from which to express an opinion or make ourselves heard.

    Keeping it positive, this too can be a challenge. With American civil liberties the target of certain political factions it’s difficult to say the least to express oneself in a positive manner.

    Your point is well taken and I shall strive to keep t in mind the next time something stupid comes across the screen.

    Oh, by the way the 2013 Darwin awards are out. Worth a chuckle.

    Best,

    RICK
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 11:12 am #

      Hi Rick,

      I do get the picture and it is very difficult for us to not get involved in politics. It is a hot topic and we sure feel strong about our opinions. I know I do…but I’ll never tell lol.

      That’s the challenge..and the point of this post! There are so many things I am tempted to comment on or write about. But as the old saying goes “keep away from politics and religion” because it only causes conflict.

      Takes a lot of self control these days to do that.

      I do have to check out the 2013 Darwin awards! lol

      -Donna
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  13. marquita herald
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    December 21, 2013 at 8:36 pm #

    This is a perfect topic right now Donna because in the last day or so there has been a few FB posts that I was SO tempted to jump into. I swear there are days when I am so tempted to create an online alias just to be able to fire back with my real feelings. In the end I agree that it’s better to take the high road – that said I have today unfriended several people who posted comments that I personally find offensive and barf worthy.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 25, 2013 at 11:15 am #

      Hi Marty,

      Well said. I too find those things offensive and barf worthy he he. I too take the high road.

      I do believe in freedom of speech, but if there is something offensive, I don’t get into it. I just BLOCK! At the end of the day it’s not worth being sucked into negativity.

      -Donna
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  14. Leslie Denning
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    December 21, 2013 at 9:07 pm #

    Hi Donna. This is great advice. When I first got on Facebook, I got sucked into some political stuff. Hard as it is sometimes, I’ve tried to stay away from controversial topics. I agree with your idea of being positive and only hang out with positive people. Great words to live by in 2014. Thanks!

    All the best,
    Leslie
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:33 pm #

      Hi Leslie,

      Oh it is so easy to get caught up in political stuff, especially these days! I’m at the point where I don’t even discuss it with family members because it just isn’t worth it.

      Putting it on line will only get into issues that will enrage us more. Plus it ruins our brand.

      Thanks so much,

      -Donna
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  15. Jeevan Jacob John
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    December 21, 2013 at 9:35 pm #

    Interesting topic, Donna 😀

    To be honest, I hate social media discussions.

    The main reason is that they are just discussions, no further actions.

    Yeah, it is great to discuss what the problem is about, but what is the use of discussing if you aren’t even going to do anything about it?

    There are some topics that I do want to join, want I try to stay away from it, because the fact is that more I try to justify my own views, the more I help others to strengthen their arguments (I can never convince another person that he/she is right/wrong until that person decides to leave me behind what they have been taught and accept that they could be wrong. But, not many people are willing to do that).

    I do agree with your points on our reputation. We really don’t want to come off as a negative business (unless we can afford to lose a lot of our potential customers).

    Anyways, thank you for the interesting discussion, Donna 🙂 Hope you are enjoying your weekend!

    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:36 pm #

      Hi Jeevan,

      Thanks so much for putting such value to this conversation. I feel the same way you do.

      In essence, we cannot convince anyone of their values. We can respect them and agree to disagree.

      Putting it on the social networks, just causes trouble and yes, we can lose a lot of our potential customers!

      -Donna
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  16. Dr. Erica Goodstone
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    December 21, 2013 at 11:57 pm #

    Donna,

    I agree with you. There are only a few of my social media friends who post negatively about political figures or our government – and I tend to shy away from those conversations. I don’t want to feed into them. By posting about it and then by adding my comment or clicking on the political link, I am adding to the negativity surrounding that. So I prefer to read the beautiful posts about our super-human potential for love beyond all understanding and our amazing internal power to create our lives exactly the way we choose.

    Warmly,

    Dr. Erica
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:38 pm #

      Hi Erica,

      EXACTLY! I too just skip over them. I like Facebook posts that have value. It can be something like you mentioned above, or something funny that makes you all warm and fuzzy inside.

      I too like to reinforce things that show us that internal power we have to create our lives exactly the way we want.

      -Donna
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  17. Sue Bride
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    December 22, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

    I agree Donna, if you are using social networks for business purposes then you need to maintain a certain distance from controversial subjects. It always surprises me the extent to which some people publicly share personal information and opinions online – things they would normally only share with close personal friends.

    Hanging out too much with negative people, online or offline, is not good for you emotionally either.

    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:41 pm #

      Hi Sue!

      Absolutely…it can be off line or on line, hanging out with people who are negative surely brings us down emotionally.

      I have put up my boundaries a long time ago for that one!

      I had to block so many people that were using social media to vent, and to be negative.

      -Donna
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  18. Marty Diamond
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    December 22, 2013 at 2:46 pm #

    Great advice – we have a rule in our business – NO angry clients.

    That’s the surest way to be a former client of ours.

    Sure things go wrong and we all get disappointed and frustrated from time to time – but taking that frustration out on vendors, clients, friends, and colleagues is not OK

    I’m not trying to surround myself with pollyanna type people – everything being rainbows and unicorns – because things do happen that are unpleasant, distressing and uncomfortable – what I want are relationships with people that when bad things happen they pick themselves up, work something out, and move forward.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:44 pm #

      Hi Marty,

      Thank you for adding your awesome comment. Oh those Pollyanna people lol. I love that phrase! It can be so overdone on the social networks that it becomes quite boring.

      And as you said “No angry clients!” Who the heck wants to attract folks that are angry? It just causes one big headache. I like to work with people that are open minded and willing to learn.

      -Donna
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  19. Rachel Lavern December 22, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    There is so many people hurling insults and negativity on social media, isn’t there? I do not get a lot of it personally (most likely because I’m not there often; however, my focus would be to keep my brand healthy which means that I would not tolerate their distractions.

    A friend told me that she posts positive information 99 percent of the time with little engagement. Now when she posts sad news or expressing empathy with something awful, the haters come out in droves. Weird.

    Like you, I chose to surround myself with positive people
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:47 pm #

      Hi Rachel.

      I post two to three times a day. Sharing a bit of myself that made me happy and I get a great engagement rate.

      Your poor friend. It’s not weird at all because people that are out there with fear, or anger just love to jump on the wagon of sad news. I notice it all the time. But I won’t post on it or even give it a like.

      -Donna
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  20. Kyle Nelson
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    December 22, 2013 at 9:12 pm #

    Donna this article was like a breathe of fresh crisp mountain air. Keeping it positive is always the way to go and surrounding yourself with. I have been in so many situations where if I would have just had the right mindset or could have been surrounded by people with a positive mindset, the outcome would have been so much more pleasing!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:50 pm #

      Hi Kyle,

      I think boundary is the key word here. Put one up with no tolerance of negativity and you will attract those with a positive mindset.

      I’ve been doing it for so long that people kind of sense not to cross the line. Not that I’m playing hard ball here, but I need to keep positive and wear my magical shield around me so no negativity comes in.

      -Donna
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  21. William Butler
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    December 23, 2013 at 4:36 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I know some people are gung-ho to jump on the bandwagon with
    I too have seen some fairly serious rants/tirades that have disintegrated into meaningless blather. I would never enter into something like this.

    I prefer to observe and always aim for being positive and being with positive people. I’m too busy to engage in anything but uplifting, motivating, encouraging discussion. Otherwise, you can pretty much count me out.

    That’s for every area of my life.

    Speaking of blessings, I hope you and your loved ones have a most enjoyable Christmas. 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 1:52 pm #

      Hi Bill,

      You are at that stage where your mindset is strong enough to keep it positive and loving. Good Job! But it does take some time to learn that doesn’t it?

      It took me a while, but once I did there was no turning back.

      Have a blessed Christmas season,

      -Donna
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  22. Jon Patrick December 23, 2013 at 6:58 am #

    It’s an easy trap to fall into… little frustrations in our lives and there is facebook… just begging for a little update.
    If you interact with complainers, you will complain more. More importantly, high-achievers keep it to themselves and don’t want to relate to complainers… if that’s you, you’re pushing away business! 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 2:04 pm #

      Hi Jon,

      Absolutely! If we want our business and brand to be successful, we cannot hang out with complainers. Plus…who wants to do business with them anyway? It can only lead to our time spent with those who are negative.

      I don’t play that way!

      -Donna
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  23. Nile December 23, 2013 at 2:25 pm #

    I sometimes jump in, but a lot of times, I stay out of it. Politics gets really passionate and sometimes ugly. It’s just better if you do jump in that everyone hopefully agrees to disagree, rather than change each others opinions.

    I think the best thing to do for anyone negative is to handle it on a per issue basis. If it looks like they’re trying to drive in support, you don’t have to respond. If you want to respond and put your opinion, hope that the person respects your opinion.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 2:12 pm #

      Hi Nile,

      Politics gets ugly sometimes and I find that more times than not people don’t agree to disagree.

      I only wish that was the case. But I find that there are not many folks out there that will do it so personally I just keep out of it.

      -Donna
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  24. William Earl Amis, Jr. III
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    December 24, 2013 at 12:03 am #

    Donna,

    You are right on point with staying away from responding in a negative way. I feel that what ever once decides to interact no matter the subject be yourself and that will always guide your choice of words. You find the common ground per say and locate a positive thing to share.

    We all have our insight on a given subject and interaction is what blogging is all about. Being on a Social location is different and it it is one that they strive on negative junk maybe it is the wrong location for you? I mean we can not be members of every Social location which would run you to thin to make a difference for all the worthy causes you decide to become involved in.

    The good thing about us is we have choices to engage with people who conversation on positive things to improve understanding on a given subject for that week. Take it serious yet just interact to the point that makes your understanding of the core message and you can never go wrong with negative stuff. Do not allow the feelings of others make your choices to speak your mind. People respect those of us who speak based on experience and truth. I do not say things to gain agreement yet open peoples’ eyes to see it through my prospective. That is what we interact for and keep coming back to get more stimulation with people who will stand their grounds no matter the cost.

    Donna, you are one of our grounded insightful people who has always spoken your mind no matter who may feel different and cause a negative share. We can agree to disagree and move on…
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 26, 2013 at 2:27 pm #

      Hi William,

      Oh yes, agreeing to disagree is wonderful! But engaging with negative social media stuff is like reinforcing it for me.

      On the social media platform, I wouldn’t waste my time on something hateful, or anything negative.

      However, on a blog post I can comment my view. But I don’t find many that are negative. Maybe its the power of the Law of Attraction or just dumb luck. But people I engage with on blogs don’t carry negativity.

      It’s not all a bed of roses sometimes, but it is open for a good discussion and that I will do.

      -Donna
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  25. Sherman Smith December 25, 2013 at 4:15 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    This is a great reminder of focusing on those positive people. With being around positive people all the time it’ll affect the way you think. It took me a while to realize that, but I have a great understanding of it and I can definitely feel this. Staying positive keeps your mind open and helps you keep growing! Thanks for sharing this Donna. This was a great positive message to bring in the New Year!

    • Donna.Merrill
      Twitter:
      December 29, 2013 at 2:25 pm #

      Hi Sherman,

      Absolutely ….as you say “staying positive keeps your mind open and helps you keep growing.”

      That is one of the core business development subjects we must do. We cannot grow our business without growing our inner selves.

      -Donna
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  26. Mayura
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    December 26, 2013 at 5:56 am #

    Hey Donna,

    Negative people are not about those who talk about negative stuff after all, isn’t it? 🙂

    I still find people who seem to very optimistic by their talks all over social media, but get to know REAL person when things kinda get harder for ’em. You know, blaming on others and revealing that they were expecting something in return for the good they did. Ugh… Where’s the optimism or positivity?

    I just love my cute little group of most faithful friends I’ve made online and they have been proving how awesome they are even in the worst moments in their lives.

    No exaggeration, but I love you for that ’cause wherever you go, there’s a light my friend 😉 You almost made my days many times just using a simple sentence. That’s why I guess we all agree on how inspirational you and your actions are 🙂

    Now, Happy Holidays with snowballing Donna 😉

    Cheers…
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 29, 2013 at 2:28 pm #

      Hi Mayura,

      Once again, thanks so much for your kind words.

      Once we are positive, we attract others that are. That’s why you are so happy with the folks in your circle. You are a positive person and like attracts like.

      I see the one’s you are talking about that do the “blame game” and have no room for that kind of energy. It just sucks the life out of you doesn’t it?

      Thanks again,

      -Donna
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  27. Jullieanne van Zyl December 27, 2013 at 6:13 am #

    Oh I agree for sure, steer away from the conversations where people are complaining or blaming other people. I don’t like it when people gossip about others because you never know what they’re going to say about you when you’re gone.

    I don’t see many negative comments on facebook, and if I do, I usually hide them.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 29, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

      Hi Julieanne,

      Oh gossip is one of those seven deadly sins! When I encounter that, I run. As for other things posted on FB, I either hide them or if they are terrible, I would block the person.

      Thanks for coming by,

      -Donna
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  28. James December 27, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    what an explicit piece of content!! I love the phrase and quote you used here ” positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative”.

    Over the years, I have come to understand that negative minded people no matter what you say or do, they will never follow in your vision and set objectives; there is nothing like having people and team of like minds.

    I quite agree with you on the relevance of social media in this; the use and presence of social media gave more impetus and power to being democratic, what we say and share stays there!!

    For example, when i was about launching my new SEO consulting blog, some pessimistic friends discouraged me because they were not seeing what I am seeing. it got to the point that they hardly picks my call because I was consume with my new found love in blogging.

    Thanks Donna for sharing this inspiring and insightful post.

    Hey, I wish you a happy new year in advance.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 29, 2013 at 2:53 pm #

      Hi James,

      Thanks for giving more insight to this post by sharing your view.

      You just cannot listen to anyone but your own heart. When we follow our heart we attract those who will be delightful to work with.

      It’s all in the energy when it comes down to it. Like attracts like.

      -Donna
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  29. The Food Curator
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    December 28, 2013 at 5:12 am #

    Donna, It is so important to remain positive. If a positive attitude emulates from your site then it will attract positive people and comments. Thanks for sharing this 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 29, 2013 at 2:59 pm #

      Hi Michael,

      Sometimes it is difficult to remain positive. When that happens to me, I don’t chat with anyone.

      I just work out whatever problem at hand and then get back in the game.

      -Donna
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  30. Sarupa Shah December 29, 2013 at 6:56 am #

    Oh Donna love how you tackled this topic…it is a tricky one as branding for your business is important…yet sometimes telling it how it is, is necessary… my take on this and it is always changing is if for example someone has posted something highly opinionated on FB bordering on hate which sadly they often don’t see it when they think they are being political – I ignore them and don’t get involved…if it plays on my mind I see how I can channel that energy into something like a blog post…a comment that is thought provoking perhaps but on brand…certainly avoid anger and arguments as you say and i have to say there are some who seem to want to create those situations…which is shocking and hurtful but hey ho – you can walk away and ignore them…never waste your time with people who are time wasters….! Happy New Year and thank you for such an inspiring blog!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 29, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

      Hi Sarupa,

      I too use that method of seeing something negative and writing a positive post on that subject.

      I won’t answer the conversation on FB, but rather turn it around in a post.

      I also agree that some people like to shock others. Well I can see right through that – as you can too- lol Never get involved with that one!

      I like your last sentence that says never wast your time with people who are time wasters! Great Quote to live by!

      -Donna
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  31. David Merrill 101
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    December 29, 2013 at 4:53 pm #

    This is a tough topic, but you always handle it so well, Donna.

    People always comment about how positive you are, and that’s so true. Not only that, but that positive attitude is absolutely infectious. You just have a way of making people feel good about themselves. That doesn’t come from making nasty little comments and snippy remarks.

    I guess when you hang out on social media as much as you do, though, your heart is bound to be on display, and people get to see the type of person you really are.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 10:13 am #

      Hey David,

      Good to see you here on my blog lol.

      Thanks so much for your kind words. Well no one knows me better than you!

      I guess that’s what you were attracted to in the first place Right?

      Thanks for all your encouragement throughout the years,

      -Donna
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  32. Lesly Federici
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    December 30, 2013 at 1:00 pm #

    I’ve seen some comments where I thought of jumping into but then stopped. Some of the emotionally charged comments are trouble. So I just stay away from it. When you get to really know someone, then you can share more. The thing is, the words you use, and how you use them are open to potential misunderstandings. So you have to be thoughtful, careful in what you write, and considerate.Staying on the positive side is the best.
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  33. Rebekah Radice
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    December 30, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

    You know how much I agree with this Donna! We get what we give and I choose to only put positive vibes out into the Universe.

    I love to know that my positive attitude might give someone that one thing in their day that makes them smile. Life is too short to dwell on the negative!
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  34. Karen Hoyt January 2, 2014 at 9:00 pm #

    Donna,
    This is exactly why I love visiting your blog. It is always upbeat and positive! By turning on the television, you can get nonstop opinions and real life stories of political downfalls. When I log on to work on my website, I want to hear some good news.
    Your advice has been really beneficial to me. Learning about marketing and creating a brand is all new. You are the most concise person I know! I love it!
    I’m never a naysayer. I do deal with people who have health issues. Some of them have serious problems. We are honest, but keep it as light as possible.
    Thanks for the great advice and Happy 2014!
    Karen
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:32 pm #

      Hi Karen,

      Thank you so much. I’m so happy that this blog is beneficial to you my friend.

      Being positive is the only way I know how to live. Sometimes it does take a little strength on those bad days we all have, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

      Have a wonderful new year!

      -Donna
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  35. William Amis January 17, 2014 at 11:33 am #

    Yes, we can find faults in every situation which is easier than searching for positive things. That is why most conversation is negative, just look to our media for the lead.

    However, if you live a full exciting life. You will wake-up excited and eager to find good in everything. No, it is not easy and yet challenging.

    I choose to support all and change their situations with being positive and encouraging always. Their attitude will change only when they are ready and hit bottom. Being one who never gives up, is due to my attitude of finding goodness in everyone and thing.

    Great share! Donna you are key to our balance with such articles, Well Done…
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 19, 2014 at 7:38 pm #

      Thank you William.

      I know you and you are always on that positive side! Yes, we are surrounded by so many negative blasts from the news to other people’s energy.

      But once we ourselves are positive, negativity just bounces off of us doesn’t it?

      -Donna
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  36. Yorinda Wanner January 20, 2014 at 6:36 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    great advice!
    This makes me think of a way of putting things.
    Not sure if you have this sayings in America: ‘He got on his hobby horse’ or ‘spat the dummy’.
    It makes a lot of sense to stay positive and not just for our reputation it also feel better!

    Thank you so much for sharing this!
    Love and Light!
    Yorinda

    P.S. I love the picture!
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  37. Kumar Gauraw
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    February 2, 2014 at 11:42 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I think I missed this when I was on vacation 🙂

    What an awesome post on positivity! I consciously choose my surroundings at all time because I believe in the power of association. If I am not careful, it can take me in any direction and I may not like that.

    So, I control what I listen to, who I associate with, what I spend time reading and what I am doing – as much as possible. Yes, there are times when life happens, things go out of control. But the idea is to get back in control as soon as possible.

    Positive thinking takes effort unlike negativity which is automatic and everywhere. Thank you for this great reminder.

    Regards,
    Kumar
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    • Donna Merrill
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      April 4, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

      I missed this one too Kumar!

      Sorry about that. Your comment says it all. We do have to make that conscious decision about who we associate with in our surroundings.

      Reading is a good solution to get back into the control!

      -Donna
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  38. Mark
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    May 26, 2015 at 1:40 pm #

    Excellent and extremely practical advice Donna!

    And while it’s extremely easy to give into lots of the negativity that you find, both on and offline!
    As you so wisely pointed out, it’s best to remain above the fray and just stay positive!

    That way, as you pointed out, you’re far more likely to attract people of like minds and
    values!

    That’s some great and extremely practical advice!
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