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How To Make New Year Resolutions Work

This post was most recently updated on March 26th, 2014

IMG_0339Resolution:  A decision we make to commit ourselves to take action on something.  In other words, “I’m gonna….”

 

“I’m gonna” loose weight, be a better person, meditate every day, make more money, follow my plan of action, etc. Now I’m not telling you not to make your New Year Resolution, and I’m not being a Grinch.  Rather, I find that sometimes we don’t have the stamina to carry it out and it only makes us feel bad about ourselves.

 

Why Most New Year Resolutions won’t work?  

 

Too many people start their resolutions with the phrase “I’m gonna”.  Your great goal is immediately demoted to something in the distant future you are only thinking of doing.  But sometimes it doesn’t work out, or you lose sight of it.  Before resolving to complete an action or attain a specific goal, you must actually prepare to “do” it.

 

How To Make Your New Year Resolutions Work

 

Some resolutions may have worked for you in the past, but others have not.  If you think hard, I’ll bet the ones you actually designed a plan for were much more likely to be accomplished than those you simply said you were “gonna” do… somehow, some day.  

 

Before you make a resolution, consider these factors to give yourself the best chance of following through with your commitment:

 

1.  Be realistic:  Do you have the time to do what you have written down?  How much time are you going to spend per day toward accomplishing this particular goal?  

 

2.  Take baby steps:  If you have a great goal that you want to reach, create a plan for doing it.  Write down each detailed step in the process that you’ll need to take in order to complete the end goal.  Big goals may reached, but only by diligently taking the baby steps that actually get you there.

 

3.  Take “life” into consideration!   You may have a grandiose resolution, but life does get in the way.  A move, an illness, school work… whatever.  Are you ready to make adequate concessions to accommodate your new regimen?

 

4.  Stick to it!  If you fail along the way, pick yourself up, brush yourself off and find another way to complete your task.  You can get from “A” to “B” alright, but it may not be along a straight line.

 

5.  The worse thing to do is give up too soon.  You have made a resolution.  Don’t simply quit the moment it gets a bit difficult or time-consuming.  Don’t get down on yourself and tell yourself you can never do it, just because it’s not as easy as you thought it would be.

 

6.  Don’t expect too much.  Expectations only lead to disappointment.  Take it one day at a time, complete the tasks you’ve set for yourself, and only look at the results of those actions at specific, pre-determined intervals.  That might mean each 3 days, each 30 days… depending on your end goal and overall timeline for accomplishing it.

 

7.  Be Flexible.  If you have made a resolution and tried every which way to accomplish it and then find a better or different way, that’s OK…Maybe your achievement turns out to be smaller than you thought.  Maybe a totally different idea stems from it.

 

8.  If you find yourself saying “I’m gonna,” then you are procrastinating.  Find out why you are doing this.  Maybe the particular resolution you have made for yourself is just not right for you, or maybe just not at this time.  Or, maybe you have issues of fear of success.  Whatever it is, get to the bottom of it.  

 

9.  Forgive yourself.  It can be frustrating if you have a timeline for your resolution and you can’t stick to it.  Forgive yourself instead of feeling defeated or frustrated.  Then try it again the next day or so.

 

10.  Take a break from your task each and every day.  Have you ever considered how much you can do in just one day?  Besides your daily tasks, there is a heck of a lot of room to just smell the roses!  Yep…take time out for YOU.  From meditation to a nice hot bath, grab some time in your busy day and just be still.  You will be surprised how many thoughts can come to you by stillness.  

 

 

So be kind to yourself, my friends.  Go ahead and make those resolutions if you want, but be realistic and tread lightly.  Do it with your heart and through inspiration.  Don’t let anything lead you astray from your ultimate goals.

 

 

Remember, things change quickly in just one year.  Don’t believe me? Look back at last year and see how many changes you have made in your life and/or business.

Have a blessed year ahead.

-Donna

Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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57 Responses to How To Make New Year Resolutions Work

  1. Kareem Williams January 26, 2014 at 3:54 pm #

    This is very very powerful because will all make New Years Resolutions but fall off our game early in the game. Thanks a million for sharing this post.
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  2. Willena Flewelling
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    January 12, 2014 at 3:54 am #

    Hi Donna,

    You’re so right, that saying, “I’m gonna” (or “I should”) pushes it into the future and you end up procrastinating.

    I also like your point about actually preparing to do what you resolve to do. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve “resolved” to make a change, only to dive completely the opposite way the night before. A last fling, so to speak, which only serves to make me less able to make the change.

    Great post!

    Willena
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 12, 2014 at 9:31 pm #

      Hi Willena,

      Oh yes those “I’m Gonna or I should” are words that only lead to procrastination.

      I’ve failed many times when trying to make those resolutions, then finally realized that I need a plan!

      -Donna
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  3. Susan Cooper
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    January 6, 2014 at 2:17 pm #

    I hear you. It’s so easy to say “I’m gonna” and that’s the end of and then we feel bad. I had decided a while back to set three to five goals for the year. Plan for them, create bench marks to check my progress, and as you said, plan for life’s unexpected events, and don’t worry if things done always go as planned. It has worked well for me so far so it will do the same this year. 🙂
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  4. Kyle Nelson
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    January 6, 2014 at 12:50 pm #

    This is a great list to give me a jump start on my goals for the upcoming year. I think my biggest challenges is not procrastinating and forgiving myself. These two things I typically can give myself a hard time about but with your list I can hopefully change that and make sure to implement them in my daily life!

    thanks!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 6, 2014 at 11:38 pm #

      Hi Kyle,

      Ahhh The two biggies! Procrastination is something that can grip you and stop you in your journey.

      When it comes to forgiving yourself, it can be a long or short journey, depending on which way you will handle it.

      Just writing this down is the beginning of your journey.

      Good luck with it.

      -Donna
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  5. Amiti
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    January 6, 2014 at 6:35 am #

    Like you said, “stick to it” is the best (in my opinion) way to make a resolution come to fruition. Making the resolution part of your daily schedule is the challenge, but once that is overcome there is nothing but oneself stopping the resolution from being reality.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 6, 2014 at 11:31 pm #

      Hi Amiti,

      Absolutely! If one is going to make a New Year Resolution, one must stick to it. Just like a business plan, a goal in mind, it goes nowhere unless we take action upon it.

      -Donna
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  6. Sue Bride
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    January 5, 2014 at 11:09 pm #

    I have been too busy smelling the roses to do any real planning but I am gonna. I am finding it hard to get into the swing of things after a really busy lead up to Christmas. Apart from doing some reorganisation, email and program culling I have been enjoying reading and doing some neglected things around the house.

    I will take your advice on board and instead of “gonna” it will be “I am doing” but my online work life is not going to be all consuming this year.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 6, 2014 at 11:24 pm #

      Hi Sue,

      The holiday season has been a slow go for me too. I was doing just minimal work on line.

      It’s important to live our lives the way we want. Hey, that’s why we have our own business!

      Just thinking in the present like “I am doing” will help so much with the subconscious mind that somehow always has funny way of keeping us in the “I’m gonna” mindset.

      Enjoy!

      -Donna
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  7. Rebekah Radice
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    January 5, 2014 at 9:03 pm #

    I completely agree with your thoughts here Donna! I’ve never been one for resolutions. To me, why use one time of the year to make changes in your life? I’d rather take baby steps as you said and make changes stick throughout the year.

    Take a break is such an important tip! I take multiple breaks throughout the day. Whether it’s to walk my dogs or to go workout, it’s important to get away from the computer!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 9:34 pm #

      Hi Rebekah,

      I’ve tried once or twice to make resolutions, but they were just words and no plan of action. As a result, they didn’t work!

      I like to take baby steps toward any goal I have, so I can get pleasure crossing off each step I take.

      I too take a break every day and sometimes, I just give myself the day off!

      -Donna
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  8. Kathy from Bliss Habits January 5, 2014 at 3:41 pm #

    Great tips! I’m not a resolution maker as a normal course of things but I think these tips will work with any good goal setting! Thanks so much for sharing!

  9. Shalu Sharma
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    January 5, 2014 at 9:26 am #

    I have made some resolutions for this year too, surprise surprise, but manage to ditch them after a few weeks. But this time, I plan to keep them after reading your tips.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:16 pm #

      Hi Shalu,

      I don’t make them myself on that particular day. I kind of have my own calendar which is goals. After I complete one, then I start another.

      But I do this with all plans in place and enough room to have a life!

      -Donna
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  10. Angela McCall
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    January 5, 2014 at 3:50 am #

    P.S. Donna, have you check your design on tablet? I cannot see your sharing buttons hon, I thought I’d tell you.
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  11. Angela McCall
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    January 5, 2014 at 3:44 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I did specify 7 things on my list this year. Normally I don’t make New Year’s Resolution but since I’m already doing it, I thought those are just my plans of actions. If I fail to make all of them and do only 5 out 7, I’ll be happy and just try again the leftovers for next year.

    Some people think that New Year’s Resolution are like the marathons that they have to hurry. They get too stressed. But to me this is like a reality check saying, “Okay Angela, you need to focus.”

    I never say things like, “I’m gonna run for one hour 5x a week M-F.” This type of promises to themselves are doom to failure. Only to find out later they hate running. I believe my new year’s resolution are more enigmatic…I’m already doing it. Anyhoo…

    I hope you had a great holiday my friend,I’m sorry for being late commenting but I had you in my mind. Have a wonderful weekend.

    Angela
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:09 pm #

      Hi Angela,

      I read your latest post and it was great! You certainly have a lot of things to do in 2014 girl.

      Yes, I agree that sometimes people get stressed when they think that New Year’s Resolutions are like a marathon.

      Oh and I too never say the phrase “I’m gonna” because it just never works out.

      -Donna
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  12. Marty Diamond
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    January 5, 2014 at 2:05 am #

    I prefer goals to resolutions – probably just a matter of semantics but somehow goals has a positive feel for me and resolutions has me feeling like I’ve done something wrong and need to correct it….

    Agree totally with the baby steps – it’s what really works for me if I’m serious about reaching a goal and try to do too much all at once – I flame out quickly – slow and steady wins the race!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:06 pm #

      Hi Marty,

      Me too! The word Goal to me is something more tangible that “resolution” because when we make a goal we do resolve ourselves to take action.

      A resolution to me is like a goal without a plan. I love baby steps because I just jump for joy when I cross out each one accomplished.

      -Donna
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  13. Chery Schmidt
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    January 4, 2014 at 8:19 pm #

    Hello Donna What an Awesome List to keep our resolutions going, #6 & 7 truly stick out for me as I am always very hard on myself and do expect a lot. I like your advice to take it one day at a time and to be more flexible as I do know Life Happens!
    Thank You for sharing Chery :))
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:04 pm #

      Hi Chery,

      Yes, Life happens as we well know it. When we expect too much, we usually are headed for a let down. That’s why having some room for flexibility will help to achieve those goals.

      -Donna
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  14. Marquita Herald
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    January 4, 2014 at 4:15 pm #

    Great tips Donna. Personally I’m not a fan of NY Resolutions – too many of them look far too much like “shoulds” than representing any meaningful change or growth. Still, for those who prefer this approach to long-term planning, you’ve provided some solid steps to making progress. Thanks for the inspiration!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:03 pm #

      Hi Marty,

      I don’t do it myself either, but so many people do. This is why I just had to write this post.

      For those who like to make their resolutions on New Year’s, I would not like to see them give up on a goal they wanted to achieve.

      -Donna
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  15. Heru Prasetyono January 4, 2014 at 2:56 am #

    Hi Donna,

    It sounds having a vivid ditailed plan for future will work better. An unobvious plan will weaken a goal and in turn it will make someone give up easily.
    This is a useful posting for me.
    Thank you very much for sharing.

    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 8:02 pm #

      Hi Heru,

      Good to know you found this useful. As long as we are detailed and leave some room for flexibility, one can reach their goals.

      -Donna
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  16. Mary Stephenson
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    January 2, 2014 at 7:33 pm #

    Hi Donna

    Got to agree with you 100%. My goals last year were very ambitious. I soon found out they were not going to happen in the time frame I had set out to do. Of course I had also not counted on being limited by the broken wrist in August.

    This year I have 2 goals, but no particular amount. Will write and continue with my online psychology classes. The rest I will take as it comes. Have some hopes for the year and if it starts happening there will be plenty to occupy my time.

    Happy New Year and wishing you a wonderful 2014.

    Mary
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 7:57 pm #

      Hi Mary,

      Now that’s a great mindset you have girl. We all learn that life, like a broken wrist, can get in the way of our New Year’s goals.

      This is why it is so important to put in flexibility in our plans, if we do decide to make those new year resolutions.

      -Donna
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  17. Barbara Charles
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    January 2, 2014 at 3:28 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Happy New Year! Glad to see you back! 😉 I’ve been away too coping with a death of a friend around the holidays and just basically trying to get some rest to ramp up for the New Year.

    Your tips are almost everything that people need to be reminded of when they are coming into the New Year and have to determine resolutions.

    If each one of us practiced all, then everyone’s new year resolutions would be done and we’ve had a perfect, healthy, business world. LOL!

    But alas, many won’t follow more than 2 or 3, but I know I’ll be coming back to remind myself of what I need to do to have success.

    Thanks for the reminders.
    Hope you holiday was wonderful and great.
    Much happiness to you in the new year.
    God Bless,
    Barbara
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 7:49 pm #

      Hey Barbara,

      Happy New year to you too! Resolutions are a funny thing. I see too many people making them and then can’t keep up with it. The worst of all is that they feel like they have failed.

      This is why if we want to make them they must be realistic and flexible.

      Thanks for stopping by,

      -Donna
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  18. Jeevan Jacob John
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    January 1, 2014 at 10:44 pm #

    Great points, Donna!

    I just wrote a goals related post (focused on the motivation part of goal setting), and this post is very timely. I can link back and use this post as a reference for my readers. Hope you don’t mind 😀

    Each and every one of the ten points are important, but to me personally, #10 is the most important.

    Taking breaks is perhaps one of the best ways to stick with our goals. Give our self a timeout, in window of time in which we can violate those goals (we don’t necessarily need to do it, but can).

    Expectations are also important. Sure, we could be ambitious, but limit our ambitions, gauge our strengths and weaknesses and then plan accordingly (of course, we need to test it out first..so my suggestion is be a little ambitious at first day/week, use the ‘data’ to analyze and tweak your future goals accordingly).

    Anyways, thank you for sharing these awesome tips, Donna 🙂

    Happy New Year!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 5, 2014 at 7:48 pm #

      Hi Jeevan,

      Thanks so much for adding your insights. Yes, taking breaks are extremely important otherwise we find ourselves going round in circles. We can easily get so caught up in what we are doing, that we look up at the time and realize oops I forgot to eat lunch!

      Breaks relieve our minds and gives us a fresh new view on what we are doing.

      Oh those expectations! It is something that can stop us dead in our tracks, unless as you mention above we can tweak it and test it. We just cannot let expectations stop us. Where there’s a will there’s a way!

      -Donna
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  19. David Haines January 1, 2014 at 6:59 pm #

    Hey there Donna!! Great post. I just posted something similar. Great minds think alike. 😀

    Keep up the great work and here’s to a prosperous and wonderful 2014!!

    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 2, 2014 at 3:00 pm #

      Hi David,

      I just read your post and yes, we did do a similar post. I agree, Great minds think alike he he he.

      I am so glad you are back in the blogging game my friend.

      -Donna
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  20. Lisa
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    December 31, 2013 at 6:04 am #

    Hi Donna, I think the hardest one is realizing life happens and you may have to make adjustments along the way. #8 is an interesting take on words. #6 is a tough one as we are tought to expect so much from ourselves. Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a wonderful and Happy New Year!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 2, 2014 at 2:58 pm #

      Hi Lisa,

      Procrastination can stop anyone in their tracks! It is the one word that needs to be addressed within our selves.

      As for expectations. We all have them, but need to consider that if we get too caught up in them, we are headed for doom! lol.

      Thanks for coming by,

      -Donna
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  21. Harleena Singh
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    December 31, 2013 at 4:02 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Great tips on making our resolutions work 🙂

    Yes indeed, we tend to make resolutions left right and center each year, but when the year ends, how many of us have actually carried out what we planned or said we would. This is one reason I stopped making mine, though I do keep mentioning a little of what I plan doing off and on, as you said – in baby steps and going gradually because I am honestly in NO rush.

    I think when you have planned things out, executing them doesn’t take time, provided you plan a little or take up few of the things and not take up too much that you know you cannot handle. And if you can’t accomplish it at the year end, it doesn’t matter! I see so many people feel sad or pity themselves for not achieving what they set out to do, but then it’s alright. We all have other priorities in life that sometime crop up and it becomes tough to cope with it all. Yes, forgive yourself and move on – a very simple thing that only few can do.

    Thanks for sharing this with us. Wishing you and yours a very Happy and Prosperous New Year 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 2, 2014 at 2:56 pm #

      Hi Harleena,

      Yes I agree with you 100% – The reason I wrote this post was because I see too many people making their New Year Resolutions then feeling sad or even worse..giving up if they cannot achieve them.

      This is why I don’t like to make them unless there is a big goal with those baby steps to accomplish.

      Sometimes life gets in the way. My last goal was interrupted by a move that took 4 months out of my business life, but it just had to be done! It was a great opportunity and I just had to jump on it.

      I “forgave” myself for not letting things happen in the time line I wanted, but when all is said and done, I’m sure happy I’ve accomplished that one!

      -Donna
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  22. Nate Leung
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    December 31, 2013 at 12:16 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Many years ago, I stopped doing New Years Resolutions. I believe in goal setting more than setting resolutions. I know that when people set up New Years resolutions, they usually go in without a plan. That is why you see gyms across the nation packed with people starting January 1st. The problem is that they usually do not set themselves up for success. Goal setting, planning and taking small steps along with consistent daily action. Thanks for the great post and Happy New Year Donna!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 2, 2014 at 2:17 pm #

      Hi Nate!

      Exactly my point. Resolutions are only good if you have a plan and stick to it. I usually resolve myself during the year to certain goals. When I achieve them, I go on to the next one.

      -Donna
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  23. Bren
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    December 30, 2013 at 6:40 pm #

    These are fabulous tips Donna. I gave up a long time on resolutions. The best I can do is say “For today I won’t do _____.” Taking it one day at a time is what I’m all about. Will you be making a resolution?
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

      Hi Bren,

      No, I don’t make New Years Resolutions because it only leads to overwhelm for me. I do it in chunks at a time instead.

      I have a goal, write down all the baby steps I need to do to accomplish the goal. Then I take each one. When I finish one I reward myself by doing just about any little thing.

      That’s how it works for me.

      -Donna
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  24. Nile December 30, 2013 at 6:19 pm #

    I’ve found writing things down for a resolution doesn’t work well. I just make a decision, do it, and stick with it. This works for most things for me, except exercising. I’ve finally gotten to the point that I can invest in going to the gym regularly, and it solves my issue of not being motivated to work out within my home. The lure of the computer is always there, so now, I’ve put aside that temptation.

    And it has everything I need both in cardio and in weight lifting… so I can start doing 2 hours everyday again.

    And apparently Kim is joining in with her own diet and may come to keep me company at the gym sometimes. 🙂
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

      Hi Nile,

      A commitment for one entire year as a resolution won’t work unless a person is really dedicated to it. That’s why I don’t like to make “New Years Resolutions.”

      I too resolve myself to things as I go along. Ugggg Exercise! Funny you mention that. I just joined a gym today. I need to get in shape and get more healthy due to lack of health insurance.

      It’s good to know you are resisting computer temptation he he. That would be awesome to have Kim as a gym buddy!

      -Donna
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  25. Sylviane Nuccio
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    December 30, 2013 at 5:55 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Excellent tips to keep a resolution going.

    I really like the first point you made of not speaking in the future tense. Future and past tenses mean nothing to our subconscious mind, or should I say, it actually means now. So, for example, if you’re saying I will not eat cookies or I’m not eating cookies anymore, all you’re doing is talking about cookies as far as your subconscious mind is concerned.

    Instead say, I eat healthy and feel and look great.

    We can do this with any affirmation we may have. This is just an example.

    As you said, life happens, so that’s very important to be flexible and not feel terrible if we fall short of our expectations. Instead we need to deal with what we have and make the best out of it. As long as we don’t give up, we’re good to go!

    Thanks for all such great reminders!

    Have a wonderful New Year ahead!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 9:44 pm #

      Hi Sylviane,

      Thanks so much for adding more juice to this post. Yes dealing with the subconscious mind is in the here and now…not the future because it doesn’t understand it.

      Affirmations are great…believe me I use them all the time!

      And yes, we always need to have the mindset that when “life happens” we need to maintain flexibility.

      Thanks again and blessings for a new year ahead.

      -Donna
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  26. Monna Ellithorpe
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    December 30, 2013 at 5:13 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Great post. I’ve found in the past I have “bitten off more than I can chew” and therefore the plan or goal is too enormous to complete.

    I’ve started making my goals and plans in smaller blocks so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming and I tend less to want to give up.

    Thanks again for the great ideas. Monna
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 9:41 pm #

      Hi Monna,

      Good plan to get things done. Making your goals and plans smaller and doing it in blocks of time will go a long way.

      It can be too overwhelming if we “resolve” ourselves to do something for that new year resolution.

      Good to see you here,

      -Donna
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  27. Michael Belk December 30, 2013 at 4:36 pm #

    Donna, I feel like we should try to change ourselves everyday not put that pressure on one day.

    It is silly to believe that we can do bad all year and change our behavior over night.

    The principle itself is flawed. That is why we fail.

    I stopped making resolutions because I am realistic as you mentioned.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 9:38 pm #

      Hi Michael,

      As I was reading all the “I’m gonna resolutions” online I just shook my head. I don’t make them myself because I resolve myself to particular things that come up during the year.

      I just had to jump in the band wagon and write this post.

      The principle itself is flawed I agree! Unless….one is determined and follows a plan. Some do, but I don’t know how they can lol.

      -Donna
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  28. Jeanne Melanson
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    December 30, 2013 at 2:11 pm #

    This is a wonderful post, Donna. I think I’m famous for saying, I’m gonna,” followed by procrastination, and really need to dig deep down to find out why that is. I think it’s called “laziness”, I dunno. Anyway, thanks for your insight and lots of food for thought. Peace.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 2:34 pm #

      Hey Jeanne,

      Ah Procrastination is a tough one. When we find ourselves saying “I’m gonna” just stop for a moment and ask yourself when?

      I don’t think it is laziness because that has a deeper level. It could be one of many things. But if you need help with procrastination, there is an opt-in on my side bar as of this date that is free and it can help you.

      -Donna
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  29. Cararta
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    December 30, 2013 at 2:05 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Two points I really like, If you screw up, get up shake off the dust and start over….

    Take some baby steps…to often we load up with a goal or task that
    takes a lot of work. Break it down into smaller bites. Finishing something will reward you with a “UP” that helps to begin another task.

    Happy New Year.

    C
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      December 30, 2013 at 2:32 pm #

      Hi Cararta,

      I’m happy to know that you picked up a few things here that you can implement when trying to resolve yourself to doing a task.

      I like that one too…If you screw up, start over because we need to walk before we can run!

      -Donna
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