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Sylviane Nuccio Guest Post

I am honored to introduce you to Sylviane Nuccio.  She is a freelance writer, internet marketer and life coach.  Sylviane is a Platinum Writer on EZ.  She loves to write and educate.  That is the overriding purpose of her blog.

I’ve been an avid reader of Sylviane’s blog for a long time and she has helped me so much through her life coaching techniques.

Drum Roll Please… Take it away Sylviane!

 

The Three Fears That Will Prevent You from Succeeding

(by Sylviane)

 

There are many different things that can prevent us from succeeding, but there is a very, very strong emotion that is probably more widely spread than any others. The strong emotion I am referring to, you might have guessed, is fear.  But more precisely, there are three fears that can literally paralyze and prevent us from moving forward and succeed in life.

 

The fears I am talking about are:
  

    •    Fear of the unknown
    •    Fear of failure
    •    Fear of what people will say

 

Let’s analyze them one by one and see why such fears are so common and how you can get rid of them.

 

Fear of the Unknown

Fear of the unknown is so strong that it has been observed that people who have been captive felt safer in there captivity even while enduring mental and physical torture, than they would have trying to escape to the unknown.  Not knowing where to go, what to do, or how things would turn out was more frightful to them then their ordeal.
Fear of the unknown is not just strong, it’s downright mighty powerful, and it’s probably the worst fear of all which will prevent you from moving forward.

Fear of the unknown is very powerful because our subconscious mind doesn’t deal well with what it doesn’t know.  In other words, this type of fear is directly connected with our subconscious mind.  While a captive person who endures harsh treatment knows consciously that this is not acceptable, subconsciously, it became tolerable and something the subconscious knows and got used to.  
This is not true only for captive people; it’s true for all of us in any situation.

 

How to Fight the Fear of the Unknown?

Try to imaging the worst case scenario you could think of and see how it feels.  And remember, we are only talking about being afraid of making moves that will lead you to success here, not to jump out of a plane.

Let’s say you are thinking about quitting your job to start your own business, but are afraid of what will happen if your business doesn’t take off soon enough.  What would be the worst case scenario if that was the case?  Could you maybe find another job? Have you asked your boss if you could come back? Could you be saving for a while and then attempt to quit?  What would happen if you lost your job tomorrow?  Would it mean the end of your world?

By consciously playing different scenarios in your head to see what could happen, you are touching the unknown and getting used to the idea.  If you practice this every day for a while, you will subconsciously adapt to that “unknown” and it will be easier to make the plunge.

 

Fear of Failure

 

Fear of failure is a fear that has no basis on any existing fact. Let me say that one more time. Fear of failure is a fear that has no basis on any existing fact.  Why? Because the fear of failure is fearing that you might or will fail on something you haven’t even done yet.

 

I don’t have to go very far on that one to think about examples of such fear. Both my mother and brother, who have always been very skilled people, had each one a choice to make at one point, which was start their own business or work for someone else.  Both could imagine all the hurdles of owning their own business so well that they opted for working for someone else.  Their fear of failure was based in nothing else but their own imagination, not on facts.

 

How to fight the fear of failure

 

Every time you feel the pangs of the fear of failure, stop and try to analyze if your fear is really based on something real, a fact, or on something you are imaging will or could happen. Be really honest with yourself.  More times than not you will be able to see that your fear is completely based on your own negative thinking.  If it’s the case, then turn things around by imaging all the positive things that could happen. See it, feel it and write it down.  After a while you’ll see that your fear will eventually subdue and go away.

 

Fear of what People will Say

 

Ah, don’t you love that one?  This is the most ridiculous fear, yet it’s to be taken seriously since it’s very real for a lot of people.  I’ve heard people do incredible things just for fear of what people might say and think about them.

Fear of what people will say is so strong for some that it totally rules their life. It includes who they marry or not, what work they do or don’t, what church they go to or don’t, and most importantly what they do with their overall life.  Some people’s fear of failure is also related with their fear of what people will say if they fail.  They are totally paralyzed by both fears into not doing anything at all.

 

How to Fight the Fear of what People will Say

 

Do you want to know something? No matter what you do, there will always be people who will have something to say.  No matter how nice you are, there will always be people who don’t like you.  No matter how good natured and successful you might be there will always be some people not liking it, and so on.  
Who cares what people say and think?  

At the end of the day, you and you alone are the only one who you see in the mirror.   Not people who are approving of you or not.  If they are no part of that reflection in the mirror, they have no business with you and what you do.  The only person that can give any value to what they say about you is YOU.  Just don’t give them that kind of power, but rather take that power back and own it.

Fear is one of the most debilitating emotions and if you don’t control it, it sure will control you.  So, next time you feel any of those three fears, try practicing those exercises and see what happens.

 

You can contact Sylviane at her blog http://sylvianenuccio.com/

Please leave your comments below  – Donna Merrill

 

 

Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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77 Responses to Sylviane Nuccio Guest Post

  1. Kevin Martineau August 21, 2012 at 9:49 pm #

    Hi Donna:

    This is such a great post by Sylviane! Fear is such a powerful emotion. I learned this great little acronym about fear: FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real.

    Thanks for sharing these helpful ways to overcome these common fears!

    Kevin
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  2. Raena Lynn August 20, 2012 at 3:01 am #

    Hi Donna and Sylviane,

    This is an excellent article for many reasons. I like it’s simplicity and it provides practical ways to “face our fears.” We all have them and I’ve spent a majority of my life living with all three of them and not understanding there is a way to conquer them. I can’t count how many times I’ve pushed through the fear, and it always “turned out for the best.” Once I began to get involved with serious personal development, I have been able to handle the mind challenges that surface when I felt fearful.

    There are two specific instances I would like to share. The first one is facing the fear of the unknown. I moved from California to Idaho last year by myself, leaving a lifetime of memories behind in the state I’ve lived since 3 years old. I was fearful of the unknown, but I had grown so much that I was able to make the move and it was not planned. It was a fast decision and I just did it without knowing what was on the other side. All I knew is that it was something I had to do. Looking back, I can’t believe I had the strength to plunge into a such huge life transition. Overall, everything I have encountered since the move was the unknown, but by making the move, the unknown is now known and I wouldn’t have found out if I didn’t have the strength and power to do it. Don’t let the unknown hold you back….just do it!

    The second situation is my job. I am leaving my job by notice tomorrow. I’ve replayed every thought about leaving in the example you listed in this post. It took time to finally make the decision, set a goal, and do it, but I was able to because, as you stated, the unknown became familiar by thinking of all the possible outcomes and accepting them. In fact, I’m looking at it as an adventure!

    I’ve failed so much that it doesn’t phase me anymore. Now I’m on the path to succeeding and believe me, every failure I’ve had has been worth it.

    I’m happy to say that I don’t spend much energy about the fear of what other people think…anymore. That ties into my personal development and the experiences I’ve had working at a debilitating job. In the big picture, a negative thing has turned out to be positive and has given me the opportunity to grow in character and my mindset is stronger than ever!

    Fear has held me back in my life, but those days are gone. Lately, I’ve been doing so many things which I would have feared in the past. Thank you so much for this article, because it validated that I have been applying the “how to fight the fear of the unknown, failure, and what people will say” and I didn’t realize it. This post is a great help to everyone because all of us have fear. It depends upon how we handle the emotion and view it as a signal to create change in our lives.

    Donna and Sylviane….two of my favorite bloggers!

    Thanks!

    Raena Lynn
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    • Donna Merrill
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      August 21, 2012 at 5:22 am #

      My dear Reana,

      I know what you have been through via our chats. You have grown in leaps and bounds. As for the job….you have learned so many lessons there. Even though you didn’t like it, you attracted it into your space to develop your personal growth…Yippie…you have grown. Time to reward yourself my friend.

      Fear also held me back in my life too. The thing is we spend so much energy struggling with fear. When we get that “aha” moment and turn it around, that energy turns to gold.

      I have total faith in you Reana..you are a smart cookie and will turn your business full speed ahead.

      Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 22, 2012 at 2:42 am #

      Wow, incredible great comment Reana,

      I can see how you have grown over the years and became very bold doing what you want to be doing. That is great, and so many people would envy this type of behavior, but fear hold them down.

      When I moved to New York 19 years ago, I was a bit nervous, sure, but fear didn’t stop me. Over the years how many times did I hear, wow, weren’t you afraid to move to the US on your own? Some people think that it took courage, but it didn’t. I was just so ready for a change and just didn’t let fear get in the way.

      Thanks for your great comment 🙂
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  3. Steve-Personal Success Factors August 10, 2012 at 11:19 am #

    Sylviane, thank you for your great article. One of the most powerful ways to get rid of fear is to acknowledge it and analyze it. Once that’s done, the next most powerful thing is to take actions with Faith in the positive outcome of what we are doing.
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  4. Nathalie Villeneuve August 7, 2012 at 7:55 pm #

    Hello Donna,

    I agree with you, Sylviane is a is a wonderful write. She has so much soul and I can definitely see how you were attracted to her. Thank you so much for introducing us to her. Her article on fears is right on! We all need to pay attention to our fears and understand them so we can conquer and become the wonderful beings that were always meant to be.

    ~ Nathalie

    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 8, 2012 at 3:06 am #

      Hi Nathalie, and thank you for your compliments, very touched by it.

      Now, I know I’ve seen you before because being French I sure noticed your name “Nathalie Villeneuve” 100% first and last french name!

      Yes, paying attention and understanding our fear is a start and then we can work on them.
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  5. Julieanne van Zyl August 7, 2012 at 6:39 am #

    Love your article Sylviane! I believe that “fear” goes hand in hand with “procrastination” also. Fear is what often causes us to procrastinate.

    I wish I’d known the things you wrote when I learned to scuba dive, I was so scared and yet, I had nothing at all to be scared about, it was ridiculous! The instructors helped the whole class, and were there all the time, there was really nothing to be scared of, when I think back to it.

    Thanks for bringing Sylviane to your blog Donna!
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 16, 2012 at 1:45 am #

      Hi Julieanne,

      Don’t we all have memories like the one you mention. We were sacred of things that we shouldn’t not be scared about, but at the time, there were no can do.

      You know what I think every so often? Why was I scared of the bullies that ruined my school life. Now, it makes no sense to me. They could even try to kill me with pushes and kicks I would still not be scared and I would beat the crap out of them 🙂 But back then, I was terrified.

      Thanks for your input 🙂
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  6. Sonia August 6, 2012 at 9:21 pm #

    I have so many “other” words about Fear, but you summed it up perfectly with this post. I know fear is what has held me back from financial freedom and each day is a battle strive through. We aren’t perfect and I loved the way you used examples to explain the different types of fear too.

    Maybe its a little voice in the back of our minds that tell us “tales” that really don’t exist and for most of us its a constant battle that I am willing to fight. I can see allot of me in this post and I appreciate your valued solutions to see it through. Sylviane, I respect you like you don’t even know and what a great person you are. Thank you! Excellent post girl!
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:46 am #

      Hi Sonia,

      Well, thank you so much for your extreme kindness, Sonia 🙂 Really warms me up 🙂

      You know we all have fears that we are, I don’t want to say “fight” because it invokes resistance, but I want to say trying to “release” on a daily basis. Each time we succeed we win!

      Thanks for your excellent input, Sonia.
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    • Donna Merrill
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      August 7, 2012 at 6:16 pm #

      I totally agree with you Sonia,

      I am truly blessed that Sylviane is here as my guest blogger. Thank you gals.
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  7. Oliver Tausend August 6, 2012 at 1:13 pm #

    Hi Donna, hi Sylviane !

    Great job on this joint venture…

    Fear is an interesting thing. It’s part of human nature and it fulfills important purposes. And it can destroy lives.

    In general terms, fear is anticipation of pain. This antipicated pain prevents us from taking action and from doing the things we should do and can do.

    As it’s part of human nature, there’s no way of getting rid of it. Only trying to do so makes matters worse because of the resistance that’s being created. It would be the same as trying to get rid of death. We all face fear, that’s why I don’t find it debilitating at all when it is accepted as what it is. Fear is an important pointer to our soul and even cell memories. I learned to dive into the several layers of fear. By doing so, I learned more about myself and the fears lost their power.

    Thanks for sharing your insights.

    Be blessed

    Oliver

    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:39 am #

      Hi Oliver,

      Really interesting comment you left here. Fear is a lot like food, it has a very important purpose, but too much fear is like to much food it can also kill. When used the right way it can be an asset, but that’s where the trick is, in many cases we have too much fear.

      Thanks for your input, Oliver 🙂
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  8. Anne August 4, 2012 at 12:45 pm #

    Great post. I’m happy to say I don’t really care that much about what people say. I care about my immediate family and how my actions will impact them – that’s it. Most other people can just mind their own business 🙂
    That’s not to say I don’t care about hurting other people. I do because ultimately, I want to please God.

    I’ve long gotten rid of fear of failure. I’ve had to fight failure so many times in my life. I’ve overcome it so many times and have proven so many people wrong. Failure can’t hurt me any more. I’ve conquered it.

    Fear of the unknown is what I’m working on. I can get a bit stressed with this one.

    Thanks for a very helpful post. I’ll keep it in mind.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:31 am #

      Hi Anne,

      Thanks you for telling us where you are standing with those fears. It seems that you are doing pretty darn well 🙂

      Fears of the unknown is a biggy and I think we are still all working on that one!
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      • Donna Merrill
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        August 7, 2012 at 6:08 pm #

        I Agree Sylviane,

        I thank you Anne for sharing. The first step of admitting fear is half the battle.

        I myself don’t have fear of the unknown – just a little but not so much. I think it is because I believe in God. I have trust in a spiritual sense that God wont throw me anything that I cannot handle.

        I try not to let myself get those thoughts of what ifs…when it comes to the “unknown” because it is a useless battle.

        Thanks again for your candid response, Donna
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  9. Mariella Lombardi August 3, 2012 at 8:04 pm #

    Hi Sylvianne,

    I think the last one is the worst. Fearing what others will say seems to drive our lives sometimes. It’s like everybody is really worried about reputation and impressions, instead of being worried about how they are going to live their live…happy or not happy.

    Mariella
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  10. Justin Mazza August 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm #

    Hi Donna & Sylviane,
    Fear is an invisible inhibitor of our true selves. I have heard of people who thrive from the feelings of fear. I would say that it is our reactions and beliefs about fear that either move us into action or keep us stuck.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:26 am #

      Hi Justin,

      That’s right, I’ve heard that many times myself some people do thrive from the feeling of fear, but that’s only possible if the fear is kept under some type of control. Very good point and input.

      Thanks, Justin.
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      • Donna Merrill
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        August 7, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

        Hi Justin,

        I am so happy Sylviane brought this topic up. Fear can keep us from accomplishing our goals and dreams. I totally agree that it is our reactions to fear that either move us or stop us in our tracks.

        I personally find fear as a challenge. When fear comes up, I go into my SELF and ask why? If I cannot get an answer and it keeps me from my journey, then I go out to get a counselor to help me with the problem.

        Sometimes we just cannot do it by ourselves.

        Donna
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  11. nick catricala August 2, 2012 at 1:56 pm #

    Hello Sylviane,
    your post say it vey well what is that you intend to say and share here.. THNAKS so much for making it so easy to understand especially because you offered, not only the challenge that we may have, but you also shared one solution to overcome the challenge.

    I happen to look into this long time a go… and come ouut with many solutions… and use them along my somehow, up and down pathway of life and discovered that one way to solve a challenge, sometime is not enough… and that is why I believe I need more then one way to solve it.

    Thanks again for your time you dedicated to write this very important post… hope you continue sharing your wisdom in tis field that touches everyone at one time or another.

    And thank you Donna, for making it possible to heve Sylviane as one of your guest on your site.

    All the best in every way.. and always!!!
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    • Donna Merrill
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      August 4, 2012 at 2:27 am #

      Hi Nick! Thanks for your comment. Sylviane did a wonderful job on this post and I am honored to have her here.

      This topic on fear is something we all share. The best thing is that she wrote the solution to the problem.

      Donna
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      • nick August 4, 2012 at 2:52 am #

        You are welcome Donna.. love to comment when possible especiallt on such touching topics…

        All the best in every way
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:23 am #

      Hi Nick,

      Sorry for my late reply, but comments just flow and flow, but don’t get me wrong, I LOVE it!

      You sound like a very wise person, Nick, and you are totally 100% right; sometimes there are more than one way to solve a problem, most of the times I should say. I am glad that you seem to be someone who have found many so far 🙂
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  12. Michael August 1, 2012 at 4:39 pm #

    This is an excellent article about these 3 common fears. But what really sets this post apart form others I have read is the simplicity of the methods that Sylviane proposes to help alleviate those fears.

    So often you see articles about fear, but all they do is describe how afraid somebody is, never addressing what to do about it, and that makes this article very powerful for me. Thank you.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 2, 2012 at 12:41 am #

      Hi Michael,

      Thank you so much for the compliment. I really appreciate that. I always try to use the simplest way possible to explain anything because there is really nothing except math maybe 🙂 that need to be hard to understand.

      I also like to use illustrations a lot, because not only people love that, but they can relate and understand much better with them.

      Thanks for your feedbacks.
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  13. Tim Bonner July 31, 2012 at 9:03 pm #

    Hi Sylviane & Donna

    I think along the way, I’ve had all of these fears at one time or another.

    We’re moving house in a few weeks and I’ve been thinking recently, what if this goes wrong, what if that goes wrong?

    I find though that after a good night’s sleep, I have so much more clarity and then the fear seemes so trivial but it was so real at the time!

    Thank you for some great tips on conquering these fears.

    Tim
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 2, 2012 at 12:38 am #

      Hi Tim and nice meeting you.

      I completely know what you are talking about. We are inventing stories in our head and say, what if it goes wrong! We are so good at that, aren’t we? I am glad that your realized it though, that’s a start. Some people do that all their life without even realizing that they do it at all.
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      • Donna Merrill
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        August 4, 2012 at 2:13 am #

        Oh my..The “What If’s” Whenever I go there with my thinking I put that international no symbol in front of that word! What if thinking can get me in a full blown panic attack if I let it.

        Thanks for your comment Tim.
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  14. Patricia Gozlan July 31, 2012 at 6:02 pm #

    Thank you Donna and thank you Sylviane for sharing with us these common fears that stop us from being who we are at our core.

    We all have fear an din Europe right now many business people feel challenged by the environment when wanting to stay at the top.

    Having a mentor or a coach is very helpful as it helps us gain clarity on our goals and as you say there are many ways to restructure these negative emotions to attract more love, abundance and health most of all.

    Thanks for sharing Donna and Sylviane, your posts are always inspiring!
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    • Donna Merrill
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      August 1, 2012 at 2:27 am #

      Absolutely Patricia,

      The way the world is going can provoke fears.

      We need a mentor or coach for clarity. Sometimes our thoughts or emotions or both, can bring us down to a point of almost giving up.

      Yes, we can restructure these negative emotions, but it is best to do with a coach or mentor.

      Thanks for visiting,
      Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 2, 2012 at 12:34 am #

      Thanks for coming by and read my post on Donna’s blog. I agree, Patricia, some guidance with a coach or a mentor really helps when we feel that overwhelming fear creeping in.
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  15. Gabriele July 31, 2012 at 2:17 pm #

    Hi Donna, thanks for this inspirational interview! I have just checked Sylvia’s blog, and it’s really cool! I don’t know how I haven’t found it before, there are some really useful tips in there. I really like her explanation of fighting our fears and about its importance, really motivational.
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  16. Kelvin Myles July 31, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Great post from Sylviane. Fear is an incredible de-motivator and knowing how to deal with it allows us as marketers to target emotional needs at a fundamental level.

    It interests me that most fear is based on what we ‘think’ might happen at some point in the future and has absolutely no basis in fact. As Susan Jeffers said so many years ago “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”.

    Kelvin

    • Donna Merrill
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      August 1, 2012 at 2:23 am #

      I like that Kelvin! “feel the fear and do it anyway” I just may post that up on my mirror! It is a good motivating quote.

      Of course the famous one that comes to mind is “there is nothing to fear but fear itself”

      Thanks for visiting,
      Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      August 7, 2012 at 1:17 am #

      Hi Kevin,

      Thanks for your comment. You are so right, most fears are based on what we imagine, not on reality. I love what Susan Jeffers says about fear.
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  17. marquita herald
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    July 31, 2012 at 1:24 am #

    Terrific article and tips. While the fears you’ve listed are surely among the most common … there is one other fear that many people don’t think about and that is the fear of success. Hard to imagine but I’ve seen it over and over again with many of the people I worked with in direct sales. Someone gets just to that point where they are on the edge of crossing over to the world of truly successful entrepreneurs and they up and suddenly quit. Success means the spotlight is on you, it means change and bigger responsibilties, and it means you have to keep up the momentum … all very heady stuff. Regardless of the focus of fear, the better you become at working through it the less hold it will have on you. Thanks for your inspirational article and advice!
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    • Sylviane Nuccio July 31, 2012 at 1:30 pm #

      Hi Marquita,

      Oh, yes the fear of success, tell me about it, very strong and powerful fear. However, in this post I mentioned 3 fears which include many other fears such as the fear of success. The fear of success can be included in the fear of the unknown.

      For someone who has never been successful, success is into the unknown, and it can be scary, indeed. the unknown is not only negative it can also be positive.

      Thanks for your feedbacks 🙂
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      • Donna Merrill
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        August 1, 2012 at 2:22 am #

        Hey Sylviane, about fear of success – I think if they apply that “fear of the unknown” and you say imagine the worst case scenario. That would work for that particular fear.

        As I read through the comments I imagined if I had a fear of success what would it be and the first thing that came to mind is family and friends.

        The relationships there will change. I can relate to that because as I changed and stepped outside of my family and friends, and grew “myself” their reactions to my growth were pretty negative.

        My family and friends started thinking I thought I was above them somehow.
        But that’s their problem, not mine.

        Just a thought!
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  18. Ken Pickard July 30, 2012 at 11:52 pm #

    Sylviane,

    Ahh…those ever loving fears. Funny how they always seem to pop up even when we have the best of intentions not to give them any energy.

    I’m so glad to see your special guest post here on Donna’s blog. It’s through these relationships that some of our fears can be addressed. As you know I love the mastermind and mentoring process. When we are left to our own devices we are troubled at best. But when we surround ourselves with those who bring out the best…then we succeed.

    One way…in a recent post I did…for me to move past my fears was to ask, “What’s the worst that can happen?” It took me a while, but I soon realized that I can over come anything, by just realizing that my fear is there to try and protect me even if I don’t need protection.

    So instead of fighting it, I just let it be and did what I needed to anyway.

    Thank you for addressing these issues and keeping this topic very real. I know many others could use this information.

    Ken Pickard
    The Network Dad
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    • Donna Merrill
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      July 31, 2012 at 1:15 am #

      Well Said Ken!

      I read that post and it was great! I don’t think our fears ever leave us, but sometimes when it pops up we have to fight that monster, it can be exhausting.

      The only thing that matters is that we do conquer it.

      Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio July 31, 2012 at 1:24 pm #

      Hi Ken,

      I’m glad you could resonate with the post and I know that you are writing about personal development and improvement yourself and I enjoy them too.

      As Donna said, fear doesn’t ever leave us entirely, but we can definitely learn how to control it better.

      For example, I used to have a terrible fear of speaking publicly when I was a child. This fear had been brought up to my life because of bullying, so I cured it with acting. My acting classes and acting practice really helped with that. However, that fear is still in me I know, but I can master it much, much better though.
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  19. Adrienne
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    July 30, 2012 at 8:54 pm #

    Hey Sylviane!

    Great to see you here at Donna’s place. Wonderful post too, I can relate to them all.

    Fear is a horrible blinding setback for most people. I know for me that the fear of the unknown is probably the scariest of them all. To me it’s kind of like it’s really really dark and you’re lost in the woods. You can’s see so you don’t know if you’re walking over snakes or coming around the corner to meet a dangerous wild animal that’s standing right in front of you. I know we judge ourselves so much more than others do us I’m sure so just the “not knowing” is a lot more scarier then if we turned on the flood likes only to see that there was the road five steps in front of us.

    Fear of failure is just embarrassing. Having all those people who think they know it all telling you what a fool you were. I think as far as true entrepreneurs so, that doesn’t faze them at all but for the rest of us, it’s just hard.

    Fear of what people will say, that doesn’t bother me much. I never took that to heart anyway because I am who I am and I’m pretty happy with that. I have a lot of people who disagree with me but it’s my life, not theirs.

    Wonderful post so thank you for helping us realize what’s really holding us back with each of these fears. Wonderful to see you at Donna’s place too so I hope both you ladies have a wonderful week.

    ~Adrienne
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  20. sandeep kumar July 30, 2012 at 5:24 pm #

    Hi Sylviane….

    First of all i would like to say that you are really beautiful (I am not flirting, i am serious)

    I like your article…..all the three fear factor you have mentioned are part of our day to day life….

    I also have fear of Unknown (usually i saw in dreams that my family is in danger)…..
    It might be because i love very much my family and i am very emotional person….

    Well i try to follow your trick to overcome these Fear…and hopefully I’l see some positive result.
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  21. Carol Lynn July 30, 2012 at 2:41 pm #

    Two of my favorite bloggers in the same place today! Both so inspiring. Sylviane, I know you have awesome insight into the crazy things we think and the ways we sabotage ourselves. I love your last point especially about fear of what people will say. Ugh, I deal with that one all the time. But you’re right, and I tell myself exactly what you said: people are going to say things. Period. You can’t change other people. The only thing you can change is yourself and how you react. You can’t make everyone happy but that’s not the point anyway, is it?

    The funny thing is that I bet everyone has these same fears and yet we feel like we must be the only one.

    Fear of failure is probably the biggest one for me. Fear of doing something wrong and looking stupid. I’ve had plenty of practice, lol…. you’d think I’d get over it by now 🙂

    Your idea to write things down is great – of course you know how much I like to write. It really helps me put things into perspective and sort of “talk” through it with myself.

    Thanks for your insight as always and for writing so fearlessly!
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  22. Sylviane Nuccio
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    July 30, 2012 at 12:58 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    How nice to see me here 🙂 Thank you so much for the opportunity and I hope that your readers will enjoy this theme.

    Have a fantastic week!
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  23. Simmeon July 30, 2012 at 11:39 am #

    Hey,Sylviane

    However hard we try to keep them at bay, we will always have fear. Without fear we would be “Perfect”? No but we could be putting ourselves in danger, fear keeps us from progressing and accomplishing what we have the potential to do but also makes us vulnerable which most people don’t like.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      July 30, 2012 at 1:51 pm #

      You’re right Simmeon, no matter how much with try there will always be a degree of fear. Our job is to work at it constantly and try to beat the odds.
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      • Donna Merrill
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        July 31, 2012 at 12:48 am #

        Hey Simmeon,

        Fear does keep us out of danger…that’s the good fear. But other fears as Sylviane mentioned above do get in the way. Just keep on working at it.

        I had many fears I had to work on that were irrational. But when digging deeper I found it was neuro-linked to something in my past. Working on those issues did help.

        Donna
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  24. Sue Price
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    July 30, 2012 at 9:09 am #

    Hey Donna
    Great to see Sylviane here 🙂

    Sylviane – oh yes those fears! I was thinking as I was finishing reading it you have missed off the “fear of Success”. But I think it probably falls into what people say. I know it is often sited as a fear.

    It always seemed weird to me – how could anyone fear success as isn’t that what we are all chasing. Until it happened to me.

    My husband and I moved across Australia from the west coast to Sydney in the mid 90’s. We were to head up a business with some partners and within the first 6 months we made a serious amount of money. We were already making multiple 6 figures before but this took us to a whole new level.

    We renovated an old house and it was my dream house. I was traveling a lot with the business and when I arrived home one day a cab driver said to me looking at our home “geez lady you must be rich!”

    I got out of the cab and had the most stupid head stuff going on and from then on I got cab drivers to drop my down the road at a small old house and I walked back!!!

    I only raise it as sometimes when success comes faster than we are ready for it can be difficult to deal with.

    Stupid fears!!

    Thanks Sylviane and Donna

    Sue
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      July 30, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

      Wow, Sue, That’s very interesting what you are pointing out here! you would think that people would have asked the cab to drop them far from an ugly house not a beautiful one, but I totally get what you are saying.

      When I was going to primary and middle school the stop of the school bus was right in front of my house. It was a huge 17 room house and I hated the fact that the other kids saw that big house. That tells you what fear of what other people think can do.

      In this post I didn’t detailed every single fear, but fear of success in within the fear of the unknown as well as fear of what others think.

      Thanks for sharing this, Sue.
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      • Donna Merrill
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        July 31, 2012 at 12:27 am #

        Hey Gals,

        I enjoyed your story Sue. Thank you for sharing that. And Sylviane, I think fear of success comes under fear of what others think in a way.

        My dear husband had fear of success for a long time. I never did. But he wouldn’t deal with it until about 2 years ago. Now he is so motivated!

        It is difficult and I watched him, never saying a word, just mentioning it to him here and there. I think he got tired of it and went to get help to handle it lol!
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  25. Matt July 29, 2012 at 5:30 pm #

    Fantastic article. I really enjoyed reading this. I used to have a fear of what people would say as well. Always felt that when I did something or wrote something I shouldn’t share it in case someone disagreed with me, then I realized that even if you are the ripest, most colorful juiciest apple on the tree, someone out there hates apples lol.
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  26. Mayura
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    July 29, 2012 at 5:03 pm #

    Hi Sylviane,

    Wow… Love to see you here dear 🙂

    Oh I have fears. I had fear of what other people might say about me since I was a kid. Anyway I was always a good boy (According to parents, teachers and friends) and fear to hear something bad about me or fear that if I do something and if it fails, I will knocked out. Yeah, I know what you think, it was controlling me 🙂

    I’m really really on it now. Conquering fear? Yeah. I can say who cares fear, but I don’t ’cause still I have it 🙂 Don’t we all? It can push us or ruin us. I’m on exact point of making choice that shall I work for someone else or just do my own business which is the one I love to do. What would be the best option to live my live happily in future? I’m on making that choice.

    I’m controlling my fears for some extent and compared to most of my last years back then, I’m proud of what I’m doing and about what I’ve changed in my life. Way to go dear… Way to go 🙂 But I’m not gonna make excuses and let the time or something else handle it how it goes.

    Thanks for great post Sylviane as always, it’s motivating 🙂 And Donna, thanks for having her here with this topic dear, and yeah, wish you all the best with your new project too…

    Have a great week ahead my favorites 😉

    Cheers…
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      July 30, 2012 at 1:36 pm #

      Hi Mayura,

      So nice to see you here. I totally understand the fear you are talking about, I think it’s very common.

      I am glad that you are working on such fear and seem to get it 🙂 I can totally understand that every one around you see you as a good person and while you don’t want to disappoint them, don’t let fear of doing so controlling you 🙂

      Have a great week, Mayura!
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      • Donna Merrill
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        July 31, 2012 at 12:19 am #

        Sylvaine,

        Mayura is the sweetest guy I know! Don’t you just want to jump through the computer and give him a hug?

        Mayura, we all have fears, but as Sylviane mentioned, at least you know what it is and working on it.

        It does take time, but you will get there.

        (Virtual Hugs)
        Donna
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    • Mayura
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      August 1, 2012 at 10:27 pm #

      Wow… Thanks Donna 🙂 Back to you with hugs my friend. That’s very kind of you dear.

      Thanks Sylviane and Donna, for responses which makes me feel confident myself 🙂 Love your guidance always…

      Cheers…
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  27. Amit Shaw July 29, 2012 at 4:00 pm #

    Sylviane Nice to see you on Donna’s Site… As usual i always love your article 🙂 So how can i miss this article 🙂
    I am very much agree with your 3rd point Fear . .. Its always leads us to failure. I have faced some issue and for fear i lost that….
    BTW for getting success we should surround by Positive people not Negative.
    Thanks for this superb Article.
    Thanks.
    Cheers.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio
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      July 30, 2012 at 1:31 pm #

      Hi Amit,

      Surrounding yourself by the right people is so important that it can either make or break you. I am glad you brought that up!

      P.S:I know I also owe you a guest post 🙂
      I haven’t forgotten, just want to find a good theme that fits with your blog 🙂
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      • Donna Merrill
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        July 31, 2012 at 12:13 am #

        I must agree with Sylviane here, It is so important to surround ourselves with positive people!

        I was just on the phone with someone with that problem. He was trying to politely bow out of some friendships that were toxic and didn’t know how.

        He’s working on it!

        Donna
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