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It was a chilly grey Autumn day with a biting mist in the air when I met Wendy.
She recognized me in this small ocean front town as Donna the blogger.
I’ve seen her about town, too. I remembered her because she seemed different than the other women.
I couldn’t help but notice how those other women whispered and pointed their crooked old fingers toward me. When I looked back at them, they would quickly put their heads down.
It was quite difficult working from home and not being the norm of the town, so I usually minded my own business.
Wendy walked toward me that day, though. I had my defenses up because no one ever came to me to say hello. I couldn’t figure out if her rounded shoulders displayed a meek disposition or that she was cold. But I greeted her with a smile and said hello.
She asked “Are you Donna The Blogger?”
“Yes,” I replied.
Then she asked if I could spare a few minutes with her because she wanted to ask me about the “bloggers grave.”
We went into a cafe together and sat in the rear booth where no one could see us. I noticed her shoulders relaxed as she sat back in her chair, legs crossed in our secluded nook. We both held our coffee mugs with two hands to warm our cold hands.
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The Bloggers Grave
“The blogger’s grave?” I asked. “What is that?”
Wendy told me that a long time ago, the women in the town were selling beauty products from their homes. Everything was going well until the internet took the world by storm.
They didn’t know how to sell things anymore and were pretty riled up about it.
Nancy, another woman in town, told them to start a blog and from there, they could continue their business.
Nancy was part of the same beauty product company, too, and began to run meetings with the town’s women to teach them all about blogging.
She told them how to set up a blog.
Give good content to readers, and always use the 80/20 rule whereby only pitching a sale 20% of the time. There are so many ways one can monetize their blog. She told them about branding, marketing techniques… just about everything they needed to know.
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But she warned them that it required patience and persistence.
Now, Nancy was making sales through her blog, and she was happy to help the others. But suddenly, she announced to the women that she was going to move away to purchase a home on the West Coast.
And just like that, she was gone.
Now the town’s women didn’t worry too much because they had already put up their blogs. They could continue without her.
But the town’s women didn’t heed Nancy’s advice.
They believe they were smarter than her, and decided to “sell sell sell.”
They didn’t allow comments on their blogs to have discussions. They thought it would be a waste of time to have to talk to people.
They never even read anyone else’s blog posts.
“Why should we?” they argued. “Who cares about anyone else…we just want to sell.”
So they were convinced that they had outwitted Nancy.
Eventually, though, their blogs fell silent, and really were to no avail.
Nobody visited them, nobody signed up under them, nobody bought from them.
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They didn’t know what to do but blame Nancy. But Nancy was long gone. She was happy and they were not.
So the town’s women got together one cold Autumn day and agreed that Nancy had somehow tricked them. Blogging was useless. So they printed out their blogs, went to the cemetery and set them on fire.
As the smoke rose, the town’s women danced in a circle and cast curses upon Nancy, promising her nothing but failure and misery.
They went back to knocking from door to door in search of customers, but never had a sale again.
The unhappy town’s women all had to take jobs that they insisted were beneath them.
But not Wendy. The town’s women thought she was just pinching her pennies at home so they left her alone.
But Wendy had a secret.
She was sill blogging and making sales like crazy. She hired a coach and developed her own product line.
But Wendy was frightened that she would be cursed if the town’s women found out. This is why she came to me.
Puzzled about all of this superstition that Wendy held tightly to, I asked her “Do you really believe they can put a curse on you?”
“Not really, but they can be mean.”
I then asked her if that would stop her from going forward with her business.
“No,” she replied, “but it sure is uncomfortable living here.”
She went on to explain that she didn’t want to move, but the town’s women could make her life miserable, and so she was afraid.
She asked me if they would do anything to her, if they found out that she was still blogging.
“No,” I answered. “They are just wrapped up in their own anger. That won’t hurt anyone except them.”
Wendy saved her most important question for last:
“Do you think we will end up in the blogger’s grave?”
“Not at all,” I replied, “because we are blogging for others and not ourselves. That is our secret protection.”
Because I knew Wendy was quite superstitious, I talked her into taking flowers and spreading them throughout the bloggers grave.
As we walked into the graveyard together, we layed down a dozen red roses. To our surprise, they took root right before our eyes. They had instantly bloomed into a strong, hardy rose bush, protected by long, piercing thorns.
Happy Halloween!
-Donna
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November 5, 2015 at 7:54 pm #
Wow, very creative and a fun read, and powerful. It is easy to let others discourage us, but we have to keep having faith in what we can do, and only hang with those who will encourage us and we can show those naysayers they were wrong all along.
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Hi Miriam,
Glad you liked the read. You sure got the moral of the story lol.
-Donna
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November 4, 2015 at 11:28 am #
Hi Donna,
Delightful story. No, I guess we’ll have to call it a ‘fable’ because of the attached moral.
You’re a wonderfully inventive writer.
Thank you,
Edward
P.S. Two dozens of red roses for you!
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Hi Edward,
Yes it is a ‘fable’ because of the attached moral. Thanks so much
-Donna
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November 3, 2015 at 11:55 am #
Donna – I was totally convinced that you were relating a real event until the roses “took root”. I was sort of afraid of the town women, also. I guess this can be considered a blogger’s fable.
Well done, excellent points:)
Patricia Haag
Hi Patricia,
Kind of spooky, huh? The roses, yes, but those town women even more… lol.
I like that, “a blogger’s fable.” It would have been an excellent title for the post.
Thanks for pitching in.
-Donna
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November 3, 2015 at 4:26 am #
Hello Donna,
It’s my very first visit to your blog and wow…I just have to make this a MUST VISIT site in future.
Your story telling skils simply blew me away and I could vividly see those flowers blooming you and Wendy spread in the graeyard.
The message you shared was just so important and one that many bloggers in my niche (internet marketing) need to hear. To this end I have proudly shared your post far and wide.
We should all be very much aware of the demons re a “blogger’s graveyard” in all our actions and activities online.
Thank you again Donna and will be back for more
Best wishes from Thailand
Peter
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Hi Peter,
Nice to see you here.
Internet marketers certainly know that there are many ways to promote products and services. Blogging is a great vehicle for that.
But selling does not mean selling… especially on your blog. Selling always means engaging, first… then providing value not only with rock solid content, but by promoting products that are congruent with the needs of your readers.
That’s what these ladies in the town just didn’t seem to understand.
-Donna
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November 2, 2015 at 12:52 pm #
Hi Donna,
Wow, what a story! Right off of a little town fiction book 🙂
It’s so sad that there are still some people who think that hard selling is the way to go. They don’t get it that it take more than just selling to sell. And their behavior also shows that they don’t really care for people which nowadays is not a good point when one wants to sell.
I’m glad I caught up with this post, even late.
~Sylviane
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Hi Sylviane,
Hard selling is far from dead among bloggers. I think we get spoiled being part of a great blogging community where most people “get it.” But there are many bloggers who are out there just trying to sell things on their blog without putting their readers’ well-being above their own self interest.
Glad you made it here… even late 🙂
-Donna
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November 2, 2015 at 12:36 pm #
Sorry autocorrect messed me up. In the beginning I meant to say *You magnificent lady you*
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November 2, 2015 at 12:34 pm #
Donna,
You magnificently to you.
This was such an awesome story that you wrote Here and I am honestly blown away.
The bloggers grave is something very serious and I’m reminded of how I once was when I first started off my blog having that sell sell sell mentality.
Not only was that the wrong mentality that I have but it set me back so much for years.
There’s so much to learn in this post that you wrote and many people showed seriously pay attention to each and every single word you wrote here.
Such a tremendous job from such a tremendous blogger.
– Andrew
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Hi Andrew,
Thanks so much for all the kind words.
I think we’ve all been to the “bloggers graveyard” at one time or another.
Learn and assimilate all the knowledge that comes your way, and run with it. That’s how you grow. I’ve seen your blogging grow by leaps and bounds, Andrew, so I know that you know… exactly what I’m talking about 🙂
-Donna
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November 2, 2015 at 7:50 am #
What a way to tell a story with a halloween theme. Love it Donna!!!
Definitely agree with you all the way. We blog to serve and inform. It’s our way of giving back.
I’m glad that Wendy had you answer that question!
That’s also a creative way to end the story. Keep up the wonderful work Donna!
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Hi Dennis,
“We blog to serve and inform.” You’re so right!
I’ve been playing around a bit with story form posts, and they’re real fun to do. I’m glad to see so many of you are enjoying reading them. I always value your input, Dennis.
Thanks.
-Donna
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November 3, 2015 at 11:35 pm #
and I missed reading your stories. Sorry for being away too long! 🙂
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Hi Dennis,
Now I have to come up with more stories lol.
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November 1, 2015 at 1:28 pm #
Blogging for others is key. Great story Donna.
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Hi Barrie,
Thanks for stopping by, and yes, keep blogging to help others and you’ll be on the right track every day of the week.
-Donna
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November 1, 2015 at 12:27 pm #
Great story and subject Donna
Reminded me of my small town, though I don’t think
the women have pointed old crooked fingers. lol
Loved the selling beauty products from their homes ala
Mary Kay, I can relate. “Branding techniques and monetizing
their blogs but with patience and persistence, with comments
and engagement” Looks like Wendy learned a valuable lesson
from Donna the blogger. The blooming rose bush was the
branding symbol I am sure for her. Great article Happy Halloween.!
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Hi Kathryn,
Wendy did learn a lot as she moved along, didn’t she?
That just goes to show how you can learn the things you need to know if you are open and willing, and if you surround yourself with a supportive crowd.
Unfortunately, the other women in the town were not so open to learning, so they ended up in the graveyard.
Scary stuff, huh?
-Donna
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November 1, 2015 at 11:55 am #
Bravo Donna!
and the moral is, we do for others not for ourselves. Isn’t that absolutely the best way to live a fruitful and enjoyable life.
Such a funky story, and loved the many blogging tips you wove into it. I was imagining you listening to Wendy, like as most stories come from experiences, you have had many conversations with despondent bloggers and then put them back on the right tracks.
Just adore your image 🙂
Thank you for our Halloween Treat
~ Jacs
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Hi Jacs,
Thanks for highlighting the moral of the story. You’ve got it right, for sure. “Do for others.” That’s the secret.
And you’re so right about my conversation with Wendy. Even though this is a piece of fiction, it clearly is based on the “true story” of my many interactions with “despondent bloggers” needing to get back on the right track.
-Donna
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October 31, 2015 at 9:13 pm #
Hi Donna,
What a fabulous story – sitting here on a dark Halloween night. Brrrr….
Before I met the fabulous community of friends I now consider myself part of, my blog was in the bloggers graveyard and a very lonely and boring existence it was too.
But somehow I found you all, and you all breathed life into my blog – a much happier experience.
It’s sad any bloggers who never made it out of the graveyard – and even sadder for those in your story that were thriving businesses until they tried to reinvent the rules.
Happy Halloween, Joy
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Hi Joy,
This was not an article to read in the dark, especially on Halloween night… lol.
Thanks for braving through it.
I love our blogging communities, too. So much more fun than sitting all alone in a dark graveyard. We really need to stick together as bloggers. That’s what breathes life into our community, but also into each of our blogs.
As you say, it’s definitely “a much happier experience.”
-Donna
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October 31, 2015 at 4:33 pm #
Hi Donna,
What a wonderful story! I had to read it when I first saw the title. You drew me in and held my attention throughout the entire story.
I love the Halloween theme and how you weaved the story around the Blogger’s graveyard with your pearls of wisdom. Your answer to Wendy, “because we are blogging for others and not ourselves,” says it all.
Thank you for sharing this story! I have shared it and will be sharing it again, my friend and Happy Halloween!
~ Robin
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Hi Robin,
Thanks for sharing this story. I’m glad it drew you in.
As for “blogging for others,” think of this: The title for this post attracted you and, I know, quite a few readers. Yet, if I was blogging for myself, I’d want to make it a great SEO title. It’s probably one of the worst SEO titles you could think of, though. I really do blog for my readers, not for Google.
-Donna
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October 31, 2015 at 3:43 pm #
Hi Donna,
Really enjoyed your Halloween story! Blogging is really all about sharing with others 🙂 I have dumped a few blogs in the “bloggers grave” myself lol but now I know better lol
Thanks for sharing this great post! Very unique indeed!!
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Hi Joan,
I’m sure we’ve all had trips to the bloggers grave, and undoubtedly will again from time to time. It’s okay as long as we don’t bury ourselves there, but see what we did wrong and make it better.
And even more than that, it really is all about sharing at the end of the day. That’s the key to great blogging.
-Donna
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October 31, 2015 at 3:08 pm #
Hello Donna,
The blog post is indeed the captivating one. I loved the chit chat you had with Wendy. Luckily I haven’t sent my first blog to grave. My first blog is still my main blog i.e. techtricksworld.com. However, I have been improving since last year because due to a few knowledge in the beginning I have done so many mistakes on the blog, but I haven’t thought of leaving it and kept trying to improve. And you can see that the blog is running well now.
Thanks for the post, Donna. Liked it. I am off to share this with my circle. have a nice weekend, and Happy Halloween.
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Hi Atish,
Nice to hear you enjoyed the “chit chat.” Yea, that’s a little different for me, but I’m seeing people like the story form.
Your blogging certainly seems to be far from the graveyard, and I agree, that you are improving it all the time.
That’s what it’s all about, right? Not getting it right from day one, but watching it mature over time and just keep getting better.
-Donna
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October 31, 2015 at 6:18 am #
Hi Donna
What a great story for Halloween! A real ‘treat’ indeed. Is it true? Don’t answer that. ha ha
I reckon my first blog was in the bloggers grave. Unloved for sure. It hardly got any comments, not that I would know – I only checked once a month!
I could never figure out why so few people would leave comments. I’d see other blogs that were getting loads of comments and say to myself ‘why them, and not me?’ If it wasn’t for the fact that my blog gave me credibility I would have abandoned it long ago.
And then I discovered the world of blog commenting, community and networking (Ryan Biddulph was the original catalyst). Finally the penny dropped, and less than 3 months ago I started on this new pathway.
Now I get comments on my new blog almost every day.
Does blogging work? Absolutely. But people must re-orient their thinking. If they keep doing the same old stuff their blogs will be piled onto the ever growing heap in the blog graveyard.
Happy Halloween!
Kim
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Hi Kim,
We certainly don’t want our blog piled up on the heap in the blog graveyard 🙂
That’s exactly what happens though, when we are not engaged. I know bloggers who complain that people don’t get engaged, don’t comment on their blogs or show any interest in building a relationship with them.
Almost always, these are the same bloggers who don’t engage with others to begin with. You’ve got to get the ball rolling if you want it to come back to you.
Glad to see you getting into the swing of things here 🙂
-Donna
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October 30, 2015 at 9:47 pm #
Wow Donna what a great story
When they say tell a story now I understand why I was transfixed trying to figure out what was going on.
May the ghosts have fun on the grave Hallow’s Eve
Yes blogging is a sharing exercise for sure.
Thanks for a fun read!
Mary
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Hi Mary.
Glad you like the story.
You always hear that storytelling is a great way to keep people’s interest and I’ve been trying to do a bit more of that in my business and on my blog.
So it’s good to hear that you had fun with it.
-Donna
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October 30, 2015 at 8:46 pm #
Hi Donna,
Your story and picture fit’s very good to Halloween,
It is true what many here say, blogging is not only
for ourselves or to do business. But in some way it
is for ourselves as well, because if we can, like many
say, uplift others, isn’t it uplifting for ourselves as well?
I think whoever started and build a relationship will also
learn from others. I wonder why Wendy was scared
of the others.But anyways she did good to continue
and use what she had learned from Nancy.
Thank you for your interesting story.
Erika
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Hi Erika,
I have to agree. Blogging is really all about building relationships, and in doing that, we start to build a brand for ourselves. People see you in a more positive way when you are truly trying to help others, and show them how to do things right.
That becomes your brand. People see you as a helper and someone they want to spend time with. That can set the foundation for everything else you do online, which is why I always say that our blog is our home base.
-Donna
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October 30, 2015 at 10:53 am #
Love this Donna. I was the same clown who turned off comments because it’d be a waste of time to talk to people. Just wanted the sale. Actually I wanted to reduce calls to action taken. No need to chat. No need for me to respond. Just buy. I just wanted to sell. This went on for years before I finally began to get it. My blog should be cool. I would be detached from sales and selling and I…..gasp…..would not do things to make money or to get traffic or to get shares or anything like that. Insane. I fought me, but finally caved in.
Your Halloween tale is a reality check for me; after 7 years online, and yep even after building strong bonds for years I am finally learning how to network and create from a detached space, a bit, here and there. I am stepping out of the grave and into life because a bit at a time I am seeing that I am whole and complete, and that the Universe and the process will take care of me and I can just have fun and make friends and create from a chill space, and all will take care of itself. FUN post Donna with a fab message. Please consume as many sweets for me as possible. I’ve no clue if they celebrate Halloween here in Nicaragua.
Ryan
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Hi Ryan,
Sounds like you’re doing a lot of great work these days.
I can remember, like you, when I didn’t really grasp the importance of building relationships on my blog. Little things like answering comments and visiting back to all my guests.
These are things that are just hard wired into the DNA now, but I can remember those graveyard days. Well, we all learn in our own time and at our own pace. The important thing is to learn and move forward, not hold onto bad habits and misconceptions and refuse to let go.
-Donna
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October 29, 2015 at 1:07 pm #
I was totally captivated by your chilling tale and pleased it had a happy ending, for Wendy and Donna the Blogger. I’ve sent a blog to it’s grave because I didn’t have a Nancy to help me. It was my first attempt at monetizing and I ignored a lot of what I already knew about blogging.
You get full marks for unique content for this post, Donna. 🙂
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Hi Sue,
Glad you enjoyed this chilling tale for the season lol. So many people I know have sent some of their blogs to the grave and started again.
Indeed, it happens when we don’t take heed of the advice we are given, or at worse, not hiring a coach or a good program to guide us.
-Donna
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October 29, 2015 at 1:31 am #
Hello Donna,
That’s creativity at its best. I was curious to read this post as the title is so catchy.
You made up such a beautiful, inspiring and creative story to mark Halloween. I didn’t take my eyes off my laptop screen for a moment while reading this….it was that interesting!
I’m glad Wendy asked a question, we’ve all asked ourselves in the time that we have been blogging.
It’s amazing how we usually react when faced with problems. We doubt ourselves and tend to step back. We don’t want to feel uncomfortable or annoy others.
Close to two years since I began blogging, I am so glad I’m not after the money. My focus is more to uplift others. I put my heart and soul in every single post. If it helps even one person, the sense of satisfaction is incomparable.
Blogging has changed my life forever and the best thing about it all is coming across awesome bloggers like you, Harleena, Ikechie.
Thank you for giving us all hope with this beautiful story.
Happy Halloween:)
Hema
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Hi Hema,
How great to know you liked this Halloween tale. I used to feel uncomfortable to annoy others when faced with a problem. But that was a long time ago. A lot of self talk got me out of that one lol.
You are on the right track focusing to uplift others. Putting your heart and soul in every post and having the mindset that if you helped one person the sense of satisfaction is incomparable is where we all need to be as bloggers.
Monetization will follow when you want it. It is the only way I see it!
-Donna
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Hi Lorraine,
Glad you found this interesting. Ha … yes I know the perils of trying to do this by phone. I ALWAYS screw things up when I try to do it. he he he.
Thanks for stopping by,
-Donna
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October 28, 2015 at 6:53 am #
Oops. I meant INTERESTING. Darn phone. Lol.
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October 28, 2015 at 5:59 am #
Hi Donna,
Creative post indeed. It’s amazing how people are so quick to push the blame on someone else rather than take accountability for their actions.
Patience and persistence are a couple things required to sell anything and you can’t push products down someone’s throat. As you know that is a disaster. You have to give someone a reason to buy by helping them in some way – solving a problem, teaching a new skill, etc.
You need to hire a coach to get you where you need to go or find the answers yourself. It’s up to you to make that decision and choose your outcome.
I like the Halloween twist.
Happy Halloween.
Kurt
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Hi Kurt,
Yes..the moral of the story is your comment above! Patience, persistence and of course a good coach will get one skyrocketing. We all need to be on a learning curve as we go. There is never too much to learn and apply because blogging is a business.
I just had an urge to decorate my blog for Halloween by writing a story lol.
Thanks for your great input,
-Donna
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Hi, Donna,
You got me in here once again, what a nice blog. I once visited this tribe of yours when it was created. I love reading your posts; to say.
Your tips has helped me in so many fields. At least, it has helped me to come back to my blog again.
We missed to follow the blogging culture, we blame it on nobody. Thinking we are bad-fated. But not.
Thanks for dropping what a wonderful post, am motivated. Wendy did it right. I like her part in the story – i must admit.
Have a nice day, madam.
Regards,
Joseph – Blogfulpath
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October 27, 2015 at 10:07 pm #
Hi Donna,
I know I’ve been absent lately and I apologize for that but been getting things set up. So sorry I’ve missed out on your fabulous stories. This was a great, great, great story! 🙂 Couldn’t help but smile as I got into the story. Good story tellers do that to you! It was really awesome. You continue to amaze me as even you have come such a long way as all of us have. I was completely drawn in. Love your imagination and your style of writing. Great, great, great post.
Inspiration in a post to stay motivated and not let others get drag you down. Love it.
Talk soon. Miss you.
Barbara
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Hi Barbara,
I was wondering what you were up to and then found out on your latest blog post. I love your new blog and how it is niche specific!!!
So glad you enjoyed this story. I had to celebrate Halloween in one way or another and tie it in with blogging of course lol.
Thanks for coming by. I know you were making some changes and were uber busy. Great connecting once again.
-Donna
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October 27, 2015 at 5:33 am #
Hi Donna
Hats off to you. You are just amazing and as usual you got me hooked to this post from start to finish.
Now I was fascinated by the concept of the Blogger’s grave and I could understand why Wendy was spooked by it.
Nancy moved on with her business and you shared an insight on how people react to problems when they occur. Rather than women to go back to the drawing board and learn from their mistakes, they decided to blame Nancy (laughing)
Loved this story and happy Halloween to you. Take Care
Ikechu
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So glad you enjoyed my Halloween story Ikechi.
Sort of a fable whereby a blogger needs to stay focused, believe in themselves, and keep on moving forward no matter what.
There will always be people around us trying to put us down because it does take time to gain traction. But if we let it fall upon deaf ears and believe in ourselves, help others and know we cannot go it alone, we will, in time be successful.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 11:27 pm #
Wow, such a good story Donna I got to the end and wondered.. Did that really happen or was it just a great Halloween story? 🙂 at any rate, I’m sure the bloggers graveyard is plumb full. Especially with those people who thought it was just all about them and didn’t care about their readers. I guess some just have to learn the hard way.
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Hi Susan,
Glad you enjoyed the story. Yes…I am sure that bloggers graveyard is full because so many people start and get disappointed because they cannot attain quick cash. They don’t understand the complexity of blogging.
BTW…It is just a Halloween story lol.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 9:05 pm #
Donna, what a creative story! Love it. Oh yes, we are all in this blogging thing together and we cannot do it alone. Those that do will end up in that blogging grave. It’s great that Wendy didn’t give up and continued on. Great way to do a post for Halloween Donna. Enjoy the rest of the week and happy Halloween!
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Hi Lisa,
I guess I got into the holiday spirit with this post lol. It is so true, we are all in this blogging thing together. If anyone thinks they can do it alone they will end up in the “Bloggers Graveyard” lol.
Happy Halloween!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 6:12 pm #
Hi Donna,
What an interesting story! I felt like I was reading a novel and I just couldn’t wait to see how it ends.
A lot of people can be mean, really mean and annoying but we shouldn’t let their attitude eat us up amd stop us from succeeding.
I love the fact that Wendy didn’t give up but she succeeded with her blogging and am excited that you gave her hope.
Thanks for sharing this inspiring story wih us.
Because we have a secret protection, this story ended happily.
Have a happy Halloween.
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Hi Kore,
What a great compliment you have given me and I thank you…maybe I should be writing more story form blogs lol.
Indeed, there are those who I like to call naysayers and if we allow them to get to us, we are in that blogger’s graveyard.
But, we can let it roll off our shoulders, get down to business and focus on our successful journey.
Thanks for coming by,
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 5:24 pm #
Thanks for sharing such an inspirational post Donna!
And sadly I suspect, the so called, “Bloggers Graveyard” is chalked full
individuals, that simply forgot or choice to ignore Nancy’s excellent advice!
We can all definitely take a great lesson or two, from your extremely practical advice!
I’ll bet a lot offline direct sales company reps still feel like the explosion of
the Internet is the major reason why they continue to struggle!LOL!
Thanks for sharing another excellent post Coach! i truly enjoyed it!
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Hi Mark,
I’ve seen too many that end up in the “graveyard” because they either give up too soon, or they just have false expectations.
They will lack stamina and patience, but most of all lack reciprocity.
I just felt like having some Halloween fun with this post to give a simple but strong message.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 5:21 pm #
Hey Donna,
I knew you were great at what you do..but I had no idea you were so creative.
I love it!
What a great way to weave a story into a story.
And it was fun to read 🙂
Interesting how in your story, everyone decided to become angry at the woman who taught them what they needed to know – rather than to consider starting over again and heeding the original advice.
They say when you point the finger at someone – there are three pointing right back at you.
And where there’s blame, there certainly could be greed…as the two usually take up space together within the same (lowered/ me, me, me) level of consciousness.
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Hi Dana,
So great to know you liked the story. I do have those creative moments he he he. Actually I had fun writing this. I wanted to do a “twist” for Halloween.
I like that saying “When you point the finger at someone- there are three pointing right back to you” There…I wrote it down and now it is etched in my brain so I won’t forget it. 🙂 Thanks for that one Dana.
Oh blame…and greed…some of the “deadly sins” that can cause only misery.
Thanks so much for your feedback,
-Donna
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Hey Donna,
This is a great way to end the month of October. With a great blogging Halloween story like this!
Those mean women reminded me of quite a few people. People I know offline and those I’ve met online. Greed can definitely blind you of all things that can help you along your journey. It can also turn you into a mean spirited, bitter person and this can hinder you from succeeding.
Wendy on the other hand made the right decision to keep practicing what Nancy taught them all. In this case it would be wise to follow the saying “If it ain’t broke don’t try to fix it.” This is why Wendy kept getting sales but it sad that she felt like she had to hide the fact.
But sometimes hiding it is the best thing you can do and finding some one that’s like minded is even better!
Thanks Donna for sharing! I hope you have a great week ahead!
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Hi Sherman,
Couldn’t help myself and had to write a Halloween story lol.
You are so right…greed can not only blind one on their journey, but always stops one from success. Even if they attain large quantities of money, it means nothing and has no value when greed is in their hearts.
Sometimes when surrounded with negative people, one must hide the fact that they are doing well, or at least not even mention it. If so, they can get pounced on by negative words and who the heck wants to fall into that trap?
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 3:56 pm #
Ha! I loved this story Donna! I felt like I was there with you and wendy. It’s true the group mentality can hold us back but if we know that our individuality will take us further we need not fear the gang. Blog for others and not ourselves. I like that. It’s so true! Have a great week 🙂
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I am so glad you loved this story Lisa,
Oh that group mentality….I never was a fan of that. I was always the odd ball in the bunch.
I have to walk to the beat of my own drum, so that is probably why I could never be stuck in a job and had run my own businesses for years.
Yes…blog for others, and not ourselves!
Enjoy your week,
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 3:18 pm #
Hey Donna,
What a fun post in celebration of Halloween. I was stuck on every single word and really enjoyed your story.
See, this is another reason I’m doing away with my series because when you have posts always schedule at certain times and then something happens or a holiday is at the same time you can’t really change things up. This was just pure entertainment but a great lesson as well.
Isn’t it funny how some people want to know our secret and it’s so obvious that it’s not even funny.
Really great share Donna and thank you my dear. Loved it and I’ll be sharing it as well of course.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
Seems like this story is a big hit….maybe I should be writing more lol.
I know what you mean…sticking to a tight blogging schedule leaves no room for flexibility. Things like holidays or any events we might want to hone in on and write about. Glad you are making changes.
It is so funny how some people want to know our secret and it is so obvious!
Have a great week,
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 1:39 pm #
Donna,
All I can say is “Wow”! What a great story. So much fun to read and throughout you continued to remain on purpose, to share with all of us what you know to be the truth and the value of blogging.
Your post has inspired me. My mind is spinning with holiday ideas for my own blogs now.
Warmly,
Erica
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Hi Erica,
So great to know you liked the story. Glad you had some fun reading it. I wanted to do something for Halloween but put a blogging message in it lol.
I am also happy that this inspired you and look forward to what you will be creating with holiday ideas on your blog.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 1:04 pm #
Hi, Donna
It is a interesting story. You amazingly brought out the most important principle of blogging
:In these few words “because we are blogging for others and not ourselves. That is our secret protection.” you powerfully nailed down the main principle for bloggers.The principle of building relationship by lifting up others. This secret protection serves well on both newbies and seasoned bloggers.
It was sad to see the accused and hostile altitudes of Wendy’s friends towards Wendy who was the one laying down the good foundation for them (blame game).
This post fully demonstrated your excellent ability in story telling.
Will share over SM!
Happy Halloween!
– Stella Chiu
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Hi Stella,
So glad you enjoyed the story and caught my “secret protection” It is powerful when we are helping others and building them up as much as we can from our hearts. This is the real nature of bloggers that does serve newbies as well as seasoned bloggers.
Thank you for your compliment I do appreciate that.
Happy Halloween!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 12:08 pm #
Hi Donna,
What a fantastic illustration of the power of blogging for our audiences instead of pushing sales for ourselves.
I always say the key is to learn how to write one article, for one person, with one solution.
You’re article through your story does this eloquently. I love the way you wrote this one. Not only did you draw me in but you related to almost anyone’s frustration with blogging.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone in the business world say “we tried blogging and it is a waste of time” I would be filthy rich!
As you said, it does work when the emphasis is in the right place.
I can assure you there will be no bloggers graveyard for me; or anyone else for that matter if I can do anything about it!!!!
Have a great week my friend and a Happy Halloween!!!
~ Don Purdum
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Hi Don,
I do have to laugh because it is so true: If we only had a dollar for every time we heard that phrase “I tried blogging but its a waste of time.” we would sure be rolling in the money.
Although we need to put out content, part of the equation of being a successful blogger is time. And time management because there is more to blogging that putting up a delightful post as we well know.
Plus the black cloud attitude that there is instant gratification with blogging. Now way!!! It takes time just like any other business on or off line.
Happy Halloween!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 11:31 am #
[ Smiles ] Those who hire a coach have the advantage!
And, never forget to add value for your readers.
Splendid post!
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Hi Renard,
One can hire a coach or if they cannot, there are many ways to learn. Signing up on people’s lists on a specific topic is one of them. Also going to other blogs and reading what you need to step up.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 11:31 am #
Donna, Donna, this is a lovely post! What a fabulous way to tell a life lesson! I’m glad to see people walk to their own beat, rather than follow the norm. Set yourself apart no matter what and you can succeed. Thanks for this creative story, Donna.
Passing it along!
B
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Hi Brenda,
I couldn’t help myself…had to write a “spooky” story for this season. Oh I love when people walk to their own beat. You do and do it so well!
Following the norm is just plain boring!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 10:49 am #
Hello Donna, Wow Girlfriend, I couldnt take my eyes away from your story, what have you and that hubby of yours been up to. You both really got to me with your blog posts LOL
I love your story telling, and with si much meaning as well. My blog was a graveyard for way to long but I never gave up!
Of course I did find me a coach and Yes he did have me join a blogging community and this was just the boost I needed to figure out that SHARING IS CARING!
I have learned so much from visiting other blogs and just love the participation I get from this.
You Rock Girl! Thank you so much for sharing, such a great way to start the week
Chery :))
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Hi Chery,
He He…glad you liked my story. Maybe I should do more of them to get a point across. Yes…David has written in story form also lately on his blog. This idea of story form has sprung from writing to our list. When we do that, we get better open rates. 🙂
I’m so glad you never gave up because you have so much good stuff to share. Indeed, we need a community and we can do so by putting our best foot forward and going to other people’s blogs. Reciprocity will kick in.
Then there are blogging groups too that we can join. All in all…the more we give, the better the return and we can be our own Google.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 10:43 am #
Hi Donna,
I absolutely loved your story and was ready for more when it ended LOL. You know just the right thing to say to people like Wendy who probably would otherwise give up.
I did think while I was read this that I might put a poster up in the recreation room of the gated community I live in. Maybe there are people who want books published or maybe even start their own blog.
Got those cogwheels in my mind turning over again. 🙂
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Hi Monna,
Thanks so much for the compliment. Especially coming from you because you are a “writer!” So I guess you were ready for more is the best compliment I can get here!
So you have the wheels spinning in your head. Indeed, I’m sure that if you put a poster up there will be interest. Everyone has a story. It just takes time for them to take action and write it. I have no doubt that you could be the go to gal to do the job.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 10:28 am #
Very creative Donna! And, with a true message for all bloggers to learn woven in between the lines.
Yes, your pearls of wisdom are in there! Set your goals, compete and outdo only yourself, never give up, your blog is a service you provide, give value, stick with it and you’ll make it!
I hope Wendy listened and just ignores the mean women in town. 😉
Thanks for the inspiration and Happy Halloween!
Deborah
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Hi Deborah,
I can get creative sometimes lol. Indeed, we do have to have goals in place. We can never compete with others, only ourselves.
We do have to know that our blog is a “service” that we provide and give it the best value we can. But most of all, never give up.
Thanks so much,
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 8:25 am #
Love your story Donna! If it we didn’t have to deal with those pesky customers this business would be great fun! Sounds SO familiar from my coaching days. Sadly people can be mean, really mean. But as a “bully” survivor myself I totally agree with your approach – hold your head high and keep doing your thing the best you can. Thanks for the inspiration and Happy Halloween to you to!
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Hi Marquita,
Glad you liked my Halloween story…just had to do something different this week to celebrate lol.
Indeed, people can be really mean, but if we don’t allow them to affect us, we win. Yes, hold your head high and do the best you can is the only way!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 4:32 am #
Hi Donna
You are a gem of story teller and sharing this post you proved you are authority in this field as well. Mind blowing.
I was just hoping to read something about that would turn into happy ending but you between the lines put a great message that many newbies still avoid paying heed to.
Blogging in isolation and I would say now blogging without proper learning could be nothing but waste of time.
Blogging is just like any other business. Did we ever observe a seller working in big market without any speaking terms with other market players. It would be impossible to avoid behaving like social animal in any business just like in life.
Thanks a lot for sharing this very very thoughtful post.
Have a great week ahead.
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Hi Mi,
Glad you liked the story. I wanted to do something special for Halloween lol. Indeed, blogging in isolation and without proper learning is a waste of time.
It IS like any other business and I like the analogy you have given here about a seller working in a market. Of course that seller needs to be on speaking terms with other market players, otherwise there is no point.
Thank you for that!
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 1:30 am #
Hi Donna,
Such an amazing story or Wendy and Nancy.
People get jealous of other’s happiness. Wehn many people are engaged in the same profession and one of them gets success then others get jealous.
I mean how can people be this much mean? It’s about blogging, marketing and more. It’s just a business. People share their thoughts and sell their products.
Wendy did it right. She didn’t quit blogging. I favor her decision. But somehow she is insecure with her own thoughts. She should go ahead to blogging.
Glad to read this article.
Have a great week ahead.:)
~Ravi
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Hi Ravi,
Oh that jealousy! It only affects those who are jealous. What a negative feeling it must be…like carrying around a sack of rocks. But it does exist.
I don’t know why, but some have it in them. If they only knew that it hurts them more than others, maybe they would think twice?
Yes, Wendy did it right and she is blogging away.
-Donna
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October 26, 2015 at 1:05 am #
Hi Donna,
You amaze me! I was so lost reading through such a wonderful story and your chit-chat with Wendy 🙂
Loved the way you weaved this one for us – the blogger’s grave, the superstitious analogy along with the lesson learnt – and your Halloween greetings, all in one! Awesome indeed!
Yes, some bloggers move on, like Nancy, while a few like the town women have their negative mindsets and prefer living in their own shell and won’t network, only to see the deteriorating results later. Of course, their blogs would become graveyards in no time with no interaction and comments! I wish people take back this message loud and clear from your post, which is SO important for bloggers.
Your answer to Wendy were so wise, especially in the end when you said – “because we are blogging for others and not ourselves. That is our secret protection.” – so very true! We blog for others, and we rise by lifting people – it is always about others, and never ourselves.
Thanks for sharing such a lovely piece with us, which I’d surely be passing along. Happy Halloween to you and yours as well. Have a nice week ahead 🙂
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Hi Harleena,
I just had to do something special for Halloween lol. When I thought about it, what always comes to mind is the blogs that stand alone…like a graveyard. No one comes to them, no one reads them, they just linger in space.
Only because the person behind the blog is not putting their best foot forward and building relationships with others, or worse than that, they are writing content for themselves and not to lift up others.
Glad you enjoyed it.
-Donna
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