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The Shocking Truth About Facebook

FacebookFacebook is one of my favorite social media places to hangout.  It is a place where I share the many blogs that I have read, belong to several communities, from business to health and wellness.  I also share my latest blog posts there each week.  

 

Facebook is social and no matter what changes it is going through, it is still a platform I enjoy.  But, did you know that it can also be a big support group. 

 

How many times have you seen people post about someone being ill, or reporting a death in the family?  Did you ever notice the compassion that so many people express in these threads?

 

Well, I posted such an update this past week. 

 

The response convinced me that Facebook is not only a platform for social media chatter, but a pretty cool platform for grass roots support group sharing, too.   Yes, you read that right!  I was shocked at the many people who came to me last week when I had to euthanize my 20 year old dog.

 

Sheba, my American Eskimo, was part of my life for two decades.  Now, that’s a long time for a dog, but I still wasn’t ready to let go.  Logically, I had to make the decision to put her down because she was starting to cry all through the night.  She would shiver and hyperventilate in apparent fear and confusion. Nothing would console her.   

 

Sheba lived with a malign tumor in her mouth for the past 8 years.  After her last surgery, the doctors said that she couldn’t undergo another one because her kidneys were too weak and there was no way she would survive the ordeal. 

 

But my little heroine still stayed strong.  She managed to chew up anything I fed her with no problem at all.  Then, her legs failed.  She could no longer walk over the past several months.   My husband devised a way to hold her up with two leashes so he could still walk her outdoors.

 

I could go into so much detail about her, but I know so many of you reading this are animal lovers and are plenty familiar with the many ways that our pets are so special to us.

 

Because I was such an emotional wreck, I called my therapist whom I haven’t seen in months.  She asked me if I had a support group around me.  No, not yet I told her.  I just moved a few months ago and don’t know many people in my area.  

 

So I posted on Facebook that I had to put my fur baby down.  

 

All of the sudden, people came out of the woodwork.  They were sending condolences, praying, sending virtual hugs.  But most of all, they shared their stories about when they had faced a similar predicament.

 

I received many emails and countless PM’s from so many people. 

 

It was truly helpful.  I was calmer, didn’t feel alone and felt so much gratitude that I was bursting with appreciation that I was blessed to know so many people who truly cared.  They were with me every step of the way, starting with my having to make the decision of what to do, and right up to the day I finally put Sheba down.

                                 Talk about a support group!  

 

 

For me, this was The Shocking Truth About Facebook that I had not been aware of!  

 

I called back my therapist to give her an update and she couldn’t believe how I found a support group so quickly.   “Easy!” I told her.   I just posted it on my Facebook wall.   She told me that she wasn’t on Facebook but that she was now inspired to check it out.  She made me come up with the title of this article, too, because she was a bit shocked how well I was able to get through it all.

 

So, this post is dedicated to each and every person that has helped me get through this trauma in my life.  I am deeply touched that folks from all over the world came so quickly to my side, to help hold me up emotionally.  

 

 

So what is the shocking truth about Facebook?  

 

It is a place where you socialize, for sure.  But when the chips are down, you may be surprised how many real friends you have in this virtual world.  They may not be there physically, but it works just the same.  Facebook Friends can be a comfort when you are down.  They can lend a hand when you are stuck with a problem, but most of all, they very often share from their hearts.

 

So the next time you are down, feeling lonely, or have a problem, give a shout out on Facebook.  It may shock you how many people will come to your aide.  You’ll find you are never really alone and many feelings of helplessness can melt away.

 

Gratefully yours

-Donna

Donna Merrill
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72 Responses to The Shocking Truth About Facebook

  1. Chery Schmidt
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    January 19, 2014 at 11:33 pm #

    Hello Donna I did see your post about your pet and yes I did comment as well. I do agree with you GF! I Can Feel Your Love right through the computer.. HUGS DONNA!! Thanks for sharing your wonderful story and I am happy that your friends were there when you needed them most. Chery :))
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  2. Sue Price
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    January 20, 2014 at 3:12 am #

    Hi Donna

    What a great post and I agree Facebook is a great place to get support.

    I know you got a lot at your time of such pain. I think the longer we have our pets the more difficult as they have been with us for so long. Nirvana was not 20 but 17 is up there too. I got some great support via Facebook when I went through the same ordeal as you know.

    I did not know about her mouth so thanks for sharing that and it certainly points to the fact she was such a strong spirit.

    I like you love Facebook.

    I hope you are feeling stronger with each day. I know what it is like.

    Take care my friend.

    Sue
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 20, 2014 at 1:28 pm #

      Hi Sue,

      Yes, Facebook is a great place for encouragement. You were there all the way with me.

      I remember last year when you went through the same thing. We were on our Google+ Hangout and you shared all about your lovely dog and how you and your husband had to make that decision.

      All through the process, I kept thinking of that experience.

      Thank you for being there for me,

      -Donna
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  3. Harleena Singh
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    January 20, 2014 at 8:54 am #

    Hi Donna,

    You are so right in saying that, FB is a great place to seek support, especially our friend’s, though we never get to know of it till times like these.

    I didn’t want to share much with you because there were already so many comments on your updates, except the few lines I did, but if I may do now…I’ve always had a pet dog under my bed right from the time I was born, and to this day, they are a part of me. Losing them – is painful, and I just don’t know how you could get the courage to say yes to putting her down. I know it all had perhaps reached to such a head where nothing else could be done and you just see her suffer more, so it’s better to take such a decision, but it’s just not easy. Thankfully, I haven’t had such an experience and all my pets have died their natural death, very peacefully, except two who had an accident and then died. But this is like you are agreeing to things your heart says no to. I wonder what I’d have done had I been in your place, Donna. You surely are brave and very strong too.

    Thanks for sharing a part of you with us. May He give you all the courage….yes, something my Dad used to do when we lost one pet was get us a new one within the next 1-2 days, so no harm going in for a new one. It’s tough initially, but then you start loving them too – try it :)
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 20, 2014 at 1:35 pm #

      Harleena,

      Tank you for sharing your experience. I must say it brought a tear to my eye. You were there for me too and I appreciate it.

      The decision was difficult because my husband and I kept thinking that we cannot “Play God” and that was the hardest part. But seeing her in such misery, it was the logical thing to do.

      Like you, I always had a dog. They teach us unconditional love and are truly our best friends. I do have two more dogs with me. A 4 year old Blue Tick Hound that was on death row because his ears didn’t reach his nose, so he was useless to the breeder. I had to adopt that little guy!

      I also have a six year old, that was rescued from a puppy mill. He has many issues, but is always by my side.

      They too are mourning the loss of their sister. They sniff all around the house, go to every corner and bark. I do explain to them what happened because I know they understand.

      Thank you so much for your dad’s wise words: “May He give you all the courage”

      -Donna
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  4. Amiti
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    January 20, 2014 at 9:16 am #

    Facebook is unfortunately/fortunately part of all of our lives, and hence it is a forum for not just the bright spots in life, rather the good and the bad…it is now a norm.

    I hope that everything is fine, and wish you and your family the strength to push through.
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  5. Rachel Lavern
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    January 20, 2014 at 1:01 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Again, I am so sorry that you lost Sheba. She was a beautiful dog and sounds like a wonderful companion.

    I am happy to hear that you found solace in your Facebook Family’s support. I have noticed that response is high when a poster expresses sorrow. I hope that you are feeling better :)
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 20, 2014 at 1:51 pm #

      Hi Rachel,

      Thanks so much! Yes I too notice that when a FB post expresses something sorrowful, many people will comment and support others.

      This is one of the perks we get from being on this platform.

      -Donna
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  6. Susan Cooper
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    January 20, 2014 at 1:05 pm #

    I agree with you Donna. I have always been surprised when I post something that is personal and the response that it elicits. I am by nature a very private person. Because of that, I rarely post something that deeply affects me. What you said has given me pause and may change my mind when I m having an issue and need support.

    PS: You are so welcome my friend. I have been there, and understand the pain a grief of losing a beloved fur family member.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 20, 2014 at 1:58 pm #

      Hi Susan,

      My husband is like you..a very private person. He hardly uses the social sites.

      Because I’m a social media fan, I have engaged with many people, especially on Facebook. Keeping things light and fun at all times.

      But when this happened, I had to post it because I was going off the radar for a while and wouldn’t be online. I just wanted people to know my situation so I couldn’t go to their blogs, nor engage with them on FB.

      If you ever have an issue that needs support and don’t want to just blurt it out, there are so many FB groups that deal with every issue one can think of.

      So think about that!

      -Donna
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  7. Bren
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    January 20, 2014 at 1:37 pm #

    Hi Donna. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss :(

    I have found FB to be annoying sometimes but a great support group for me as well. One of the reasons I started the MGP group was so we could support one another and talk about girl issues. It’s been awesome.

    However, in recent months with all the turmoil going on in my life, I never came out on FB to say what was going on. But my friends, my support group, new from my status updates, something was going on and started sending me messages. They have helped me through my marital situation which I’m forever thankful.

    I’m glad that you too have found the power of FB in your time of need Donna. This is a fabulous post for sure!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 8:59 pm #

      Hi Bren,

      It is a great support group isn’t it? I don’t get out there and share all my stuff, but needed people to know why I wasn’t going to be out there for them and not visiting their blogs.

      Wham…the support came flowing in. Thanks for your support too!

      I hope everything is working out for you. I don’t know details, but life happens and we need others to hold our hand sometimes.

      Blessings to you,

      -Donna
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  8. Jeevan Jacob John
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    January 20, 2014 at 2:37 pm #

    I have never had a pet. Well, technically I have. We had three dogs, but we gave them all to our mom’s brothers (my uncles), who we knew would take good care of them (they did…one of the them even had babies – they were cute. Although I was a little nervous whether the babies would bite me :D).

    I never took care of the dogs (my uncles did all the work). But, I did take care of something else – fishes (yeah, they also have fishes). I took care of them whenever I visited my uncles (It was really sad when I discovered that some of the fishes had died).

    Anyways, I am sorry about Sheba. I know that she is in a better place now :)

    As for FB support, yeah I saw the updates. It’s great that you have so many friends to support us. Then again, it might be because you are well connected. I have heard of a real life story of a guy posted an update about ending his own life…no one bothered to comment or console the guy (can’t say people didn’t see the post as it had received a few ‘likes’). Perhaps if at least one person had said something, he would been alive now).

    Anyways, thank you for sharing your experience, Donna :)
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 1:55 pm #

      Hi Jeevan,

      I’m a dog person…had them my entire life. I still have two boy dogs around. I must say they are my best friends.

      The support that came from one FB post to let people know I wouldn’t be around so much, received so many replies, that it helped me through that situation.

      How terrible about that buy who posted he wanted to kill himself! That is a touchy situation. It could have been real or not. Sometimes I get people who are very depressed and PM me. I’ll take time out to lend a helping hand, but encourage them to go to therapy. Once a guy was so down, I asked him if he wanted me to introduce him to a therapist friend of mine on Facebook. They connected and at least he received some help.

      -Donna
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      • Jeevan Jacob John
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        January 23, 2014 at 8:32 pm #

        I am glad that it did help :)

        Yeah, I am not sure whether it is real (but, I have seen people writing about the incident..perhaps it is a fake story. Then again, we are known for our compassion..similar incidents have happened in the past – you know, bystander effect).

        I am glad that you helped the guy out, Donna :) Not a lot of people would that (wish more people would..but, the world is like that. Unfair, at least for many folks).

        • Donna.Merrill
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          January 26, 2014 at 2:25 pm #

          Hi Jeevan.

          Sometimes we don’t know if it is real or not. But the essence is, if we know someone that needs a helping hand, just reach out and give it.

          To me, that’s what life is all about. Each day we encounter so many ways of doing service to others.

          I strongly believe that is the purpose of all of us being here.

          -Donna
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  9. William Butler
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    January 20, 2014 at 3:17 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    I looked at the title and I was thinking along the lines of privacy violations, or such. Quite the opposite. So, last week, Facebook went to the dogs. This week it will be the cats, and everything will balance out nicely. 😉

    On a serious note, I’m glad that there are social media platforms that allow us to instantly gather the support that we need and deserve during an emotional upset, or any other time. Even though the front end of the platform is virtual, Facebook friends are still real people. It’s just a different form of friendship.

    Have a nice week!
    Bill
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:12 pm #

      Hi Bill,

      Ha Ha I tricked you with that title….Lately I’ve been playing around with titles and doing a little experimenting.

      Yes, friendships on Facebook are virtual, but they are real people. It always amazes me how wonderful it is to have such a large variety of friends from all over the world.

      How we all get along together with the human spirit. It’s such a good thing that reinforces me all the time.

      -Donna
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  10. Adrienne
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    January 20, 2014 at 5:58 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I think for someone perhaps that isn’t very social or doesn’t have a Facebook account then they might find it shocking that you received so much support when you posted about Sheba. In all honesty, I’m pretty sure that you weren’t as shocked about it because there are so many people who truly care about you and are dog lovers as well.

    You and I have of course talked about this as well because I had to do the same thing eight years ago with my 19 year old Cocker Spaniel. It’s hard girl, it’s really really hard when that’s your child. I mean he was to me and to know that I had a hand in ending his life although I did not want him suffering, it’s just heart breaking.

    I’m so glad you had so much support because those well wishes really do help. People genuinely care about you Donna and never want to see you in pain nor any of your children (two legged or four). I’m glad that you received so much support and it helped you through your horrible time.

    Thank you for sharing this with us and I hope your therapist will sign up with Facebook. I think they’d love it.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:17 pm #

      Hi Adrienne,

      I must first give you a big virtual hug because you were with me all the way during this process. Your prayers sure did work my friend.

      But I was shocked! I didn’t expect so many people coming to support me. I posted because I wanted people to know I wouldn’t be on line to blog or engage with them.

      When everyone started sharing their own stories, and sending prayers and well wishes, yes…it was heart warming.

      As for my therapist, poor thing cannot be on Facebook because of her job and where she works.

      See you on Thursday night!

      -Donna
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  11. Kareem Williams January 20, 2014 at 6:00 pm #

    This is a great post about Facebook. i have made a lot of money with Facebook. Great place to network and meet people as well.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:18 pm #

      Hi Kareem,

      Oh I know you are the Facebook Master of making your money on this platform. You are doing so well with that.

      Business is business and it is a good place to do it in.

      But then there is the human connections. Oh boy it is worth more than money can buy!

      -Donna
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  12. Lisa
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    January 20, 2014 at 7:30 pm #

    Donna, I missed that post and I am so sorry to hear about that. I think with the algorithm changes we don’t see everything like we used to plus we all probably have bigger feeds. (and more friends.)
    I posted about my mom’s cancer a few weeks ago and was amazed at the outpouring of support though some relatives had not seen it.
    You are right about learning about deaths and such too from it. I’ve learned of a few right via Facebook.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:39 pm #

      Hi Lisa,

      I missed yours too. So sorry about your mom. All I can say is take it one step at a time girl.

      It’s good to know that we can connect even with our relatives via Facebook.

      When things like this happen we need all the support we can. I will keep you and your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

      -Donna
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  13. Sylviane Nuccio
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    January 20, 2014 at 7:33 pm #

    That’s really great Donna.

    As soon as I saw your announcement about your Sheba there was no way I could ignore this, and I bet anybody else who saw it too felt the exact same way.

    So the result of this was a wonderful long thread of support:)

    I think that it’s really incredible how Social Media is affecting us in ways that nothing else could, because it’s like we are instantly speaking to hundreds to thousands of people in one click of the mouse.

    I’m glad you’ve got that support at such a needy time, Donna.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:47 pm #

      Hi Sylviane,

      Thank you so much for being at my side through this. I know the compassion you have because of your fur baby too.

      Then at the same time your cat had to go through surgery and you were a wreck. But there was support from us too for you.

      I was so happy to read your last post explaining the terrible week you had and how everything ended up well.

      -Donna
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  14. nick catricala
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    January 20, 2014 at 9:52 pm #

    Donna,
    I am not sure you get truly believe me when I will say that I missed all the happening about Sheba being gone… SO SORRY for missing to just say I am sorry for the loss and SO SORRY for reaching out to you in any way I could…

    I will not go into details but I did not had a great week my self, and that is why I done the minimum on FB, just what I call essential. What have been going on in my life lately has devastated me at a certain point and I am just getting over the fact that even so I always have some great advice for others, and support others as best as I know how, sometime I am not very good for my self..

    I only knew about Sheba from what you wrote on FB here and there, but reading that she was with you for 20 years, I can imagine the state you were in when you had to make the final decision…

    As I read most of your article here, I can tell you had enormous support my friend, SORRY once again for me being absent to support you but I am HAPPY that you received all the support you needed to get over the hardest first week…and for certain the loss have been compensated (in a small way) by the love received from so many and in many ways…

    One thing that I can say in case you did not think of it or did not hear it yet… God know when it is time to let go of anything and anyone…

    I WISH that you, David and your family have found the part of Sheba that did not go with her… and that is LOVE… so cherish that Love you all remember and Sheba will be happy where she is resting now.

    _nickc
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:54 pm #

      Hi Nick,

      From the little bit I read, you were going though your own problems for a while. I hope this finds you well.

      I was very shocked when I wrote on Facebook what was going on and all the support I received.

      I wrote it because I wanted people to know that I wouldn’t be around much because I had to make that decision and then mourn the loss.

      Then came all the people who comforted me. And they sure did help giving me the strength to put Sheba down. David and I prayed that God would take her, but she was in too much pain, and we had to make that decision.

      We did pray on it a lot, and when we took her to the Vet, I felt a sense of peace for her. I loved her too much to witness her suffering.

      Oh yes…through our prayers, we know we did the right thing. David and I prayed over her and told her God will receive her with His great Mercy and Love..the love a human cannot give. I think she understood..

      Thank you Nick.

      -Donna
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      • nick catricala
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        January 21, 2014 at 4:33 pm #

        Donna,
        thanks for your reply…

        Yes, your intuition was correct, lots have gone on for a while in my life, but you know what? I have FIRM believe that GOD never give me anything that I cannot handle and EVERYTHING is always coming along my path to benefit me in many ways… I just have to be Grateful, Endure and Believe and I DO… and soon all will be calm and in harmony again according to God Will.

        I am happy that you and David prayed in such a way that could bring peace to Sheba… I was just told a while beck that we see dogs as they are “Dogs: But we are wrong, Gods are just like us and in most cases MUCH better than us, the come down here to comfort someone special and they scarify them selves for that “someone” just so they can deliver the love or anything else that will come out from the relationship… In your situation, Sheba completed that mission over and above the normal and now it was time to go because you a d David have received all what was due to you in love and compassion and much, much more..

        Glad I did not miss this part Donna, and again wish you and David all the Love you deserve and much more now and for ever.
        _nickc
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        • Donna.Merrill
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          January 21, 2014 at 9:04 pm #

          Thank you Nick!

          I believe dogs are in our lives to show us unconditional love. If humans had a dog’s heart, we would have a peaceful world.

          You are ALWAYS there Nick for so many people. You are the most empathetic person I know and I am so glad we are friends.

          Now, If you ever need anything, please PM me on Facebook. I don’t know all the details of what’s going on, but if you ever want to talk, let me know.

          Blessings to you and you will be in my prayers,

          -Donna
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  15. Barbara Charles
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    January 20, 2014 at 10:02 pm #

    Awwww Donna. This is an awesome post!

    Even though I have experienced the ‘love’ and support from various people when my dad died or when I’m sick, I never once thought of it as a support group and you’ve made me aware that that is exactly what it is!

    That’s awesome!

    I know it was a hard week for you and we all sent our love and support for what you were going through. 20 years in an incredible long time and Sheba was a friend and companion for most of your life. That is phenomenal.

    I’m sure everyone will continue to support you and send their well wishes and love your way. I know I do and send you much love.

    Thanks for sharing with us your pain of your loss, but more importantly, the love of a lifetime.

    She is in Rainbow heaven now! May she rest in peace.
    God Bless.
    Lov ya Donna,
    Barbara
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 2:58 pm #

      Hi Barbara,

      I remember when your dad died and what a wonderful story you wrote about him. There were so many people that were inspired by that.

      When you got sick, we were all by your side, praying, and sending well wishes.

      You and I believe in prayer and when someone prays for us, we know how it works. It is the best thing anyone can do for a person.

      I don’t know how I would ever face any loss without my faith. I know God was by my side to lift me up as he promised. That’s what gave me the strength.

      I thank you so much for your prayers and your support my friend.

      -Donna
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  16. Gladys
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    January 20, 2014 at 11:09 pm #

    Hello Ms. Donna

    First of all I am so sorry for your lost. I know Sheba was special.
    Then, sorry I missed your post.

    I can relate to the mourning because I experienced the loss of my Labrador Retriever.

    Yes I agree there is so much negative things said about Facebook, but there is the other side of the coin. You experienced the love and support from many. Thank God for Facebook.

    Gladys
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 9:07 pm #

      Hi Gladys,

      Oh yes, as Facebook goes through its changes, there will be so much negative things people say. I say like it or leave it! Remember My Space years ago? Everyone was on it until Facebook took over.

      And yes, there are some people who don’t act appropriately on Facebook, so there is the button to “block” them.

      I like to get to know people on Facebook, and when tragic things happen, there is so much support.

      Thank you Gladys,

      -Donna
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  17. Corina Ramos
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    January 21, 2014 at 12:21 am #

    Hello Donna,

    I never looked at Facebook that way. All I’ve ever heard was the negative about how it plays a part in divorces and other dramas, which is why I never opened up there. But you’re right because I have seen on more than one occasion that it can also be a great means of support.

    I’m not sure if it’s just our circle (and I’m honored that we’re in some of the same circles) or the blogging community as a whole but they do extend an olive branch when you really need one.

    I’ve lost a couple pets in my life and I know how much it hurts so my heart went out to you girlfriend.

    Great post Donna! Hope you had a fabulous Monday! See ya in the socialverse :)
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 9:16 pm #

      Hi Corina,

      I think it is the people who we run with in our circles. Not much drama, but lots of olive branches extended.

      We are bloggers and marketers, so we don’t want to ruin our brand by getting into hissy fits or drama.

      The other circles that are there for just the fun of it get into all that negative stuff. I had to block family members and some friends for that reason.

      What goes on Facebook stays there forever. I won’t allow any degrading, or drama-esque stuff on mine!

      Thanks so much for your support!

      -Donna
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  18. Kumar Gauraw
    Twitter:
    January 21, 2014 at 7:17 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Wow! Your experience is so very uplifting. It is also unique because it is easy to find people complaining about what is wrong with Facebook and how Facebook is ruining businesses and people’s lives.

    And here you are with a personal testimonial of the incredible benefits of online socializing.

    By the way, good people attract good people to them wherever they go and so even if it was some other place, I am sure you would have garnered the support you needed anyway :-)

    Thank you for sharing your story and letting the world know about some of the intangibles of using Facebook!

    Regards,
    Kumar
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 21, 2014 at 9:20 pm #

      Hi Kumar,

      Great point! We hear so many stories of how Facebook is a place to ruin people’s lives and businesses. I haven’t seen that at all. Like attracts like I guess.

      However, if I do see something inappropriate, and I have in the past, not only will I block that person, but if it is crude or hateful, I do report it as spam. It’s like pulling out the weeds from a beautiful garden.

      Thanks again!

      -Donna
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  19. Donna.Merrill
    Twitter:
    January 21, 2014 at 9:22 pm #

    Hi Sherman,

    Thank you. Yes, I firmly believe that it’s not the end, but we will be together again.

    I have made many people I consider real friends on Facebook. It always amazes me how we can all come together globally and be on the same page. How wonderful is that?

    -Donna
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    • sherman smith January 24, 2014 at 2:09 pm #

      Hey Donna,

      It’s one of those things you just can’t top!

  20. Dana January 22, 2014 at 7:04 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I know what it’s like to have to say good-bye to a beloved pet…and the only thing I can say is how sorry I am that you’re enduring this pain.

    The comfort and well-wishes from others does help though – and it’s cool to know that you were able to get this from Facebook. Even though social networking, at times, almost reminds me of being back in high school (not in a good way…lol) – there are some gifts that come out of it.
    Your example being one of them.

    I send you thoughts of well-being Donna :)
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  21. Dawn Golden
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    January 22, 2014 at 8:16 pm #

    Awe… Pets are such an important part of our lives. Sheba was the name of my first dog as a child and your story touched my heart. Your post is a nice reminder of the good that FB can do because it often is accused of mostly being a time vampire!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 26, 2014 at 2:43 pm #

      Hi Dawn,

      Yes, Facebook is accused of being a time vampire and many other things these days.

      But, just like anything else, when used correctly, Facebook can be a powerful tool and can bring in many sincere friends.

      -Donna
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  22. Maneesha Malhotra
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    January 23, 2014 at 12:52 am #

    Donna.Merrill, Thanks for making aware about this Shocking Truth About Facebook, This is really wonderful to know truth about Facebook. People must be aware about any shocking & non shocking truth of Facebook :)

  23. Monna Ellithorpe
    Twitter:
    January 23, 2014 at 9:10 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I am still so sorry about your ordeal and it’s so good to hear that the people of Facebook were there when you needed them.

    I found the same thing after my husband passed away. So many people stepped up to be there for me and a few went beyond that to call me and send me cards and books to read and to this day are still very cherished friends online.

    I guess a lot of people would not understand it or believe it unless it happened to them.

    I hope you are doing better. Monna
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 26, 2014 at 2:52 pm #

      Hi Monna,

      When we loose a loved one, we do have that need to be consoled. So sorry about your husband. I didn’t know he had passed. That must have been so difficult for you.

      Yes, people don’t understand the power of it unless it happens to them.

      And Yes, I’m doing much better these days and I thank you,

      -Donna
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  24. Amy Hagerup January 23, 2014 at 10:16 pm #

    This is sooooooo true, Donna. Our car broke down when we were about 1.5 hours from home on a 13 hour trip. I posted on facebook of our dilemma asking for prayer from our church family. I had about five immediate responses on FB of offers for help. Several people offered to come bring us our other car and one couple came in two cars to give us their van to take on our trip and then drive their other car back home while our broken down car got put into a local shop! So cool!! Yay for FB. I’m glad you got your support group so fast. So sorry about your sweet dog. blessings, Amy
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 26, 2014 at 2:54 pm #

      Hi Amy,

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Yes, Facebook can be powerful! When using Facebook for business, it is a great place to socialize and get to know others.

      I’ve met so many great people, I’m blessed. But what people forget sometimes is that we can also use it for help.

      Your car broke down, and Bam…people came right to you. What a blessing!

      -Donna
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  25. Holly
    Twitter:
    January 25, 2014 at 10:26 pm #

    Sorry to hear about Sheba.. I bet it was difficult.. We had to put our Navine down 2 years ago.. It wasn’t easy but she was diagnosed with a 10 % chance of survival with liver cancer.. We had to make the decision quickly.. She was fine one week and then next not moving, not eating only watching with sad eyes.. We knew something was wrong! My 12 year old son was with me when we took her for the news at the vet. He had been 2 when we got her. It was a tough 24 hours and then such a quiet house.. I can only imagine what you are going through, 20 years.. thats a very long time to have the same pup hanging around!! All the best!! I am sure you the most wonderful memories to cherish!
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 26, 2014 at 3:14 pm #

      Hi Holly,

      Thanks so much. Yes 20 years is a long time and I sure do have cherished memories of my Sheba.

      I do, however, have two more dogs with me. My two boys! The 4 year old hound is still trying to get over it. Now matter how we explain to him that there is No More Sheba….he still goes over to where her crate was, then looks upstairs and cries.

      It is sad, but I am blessed to have two other fur babies with me. Oh yea..I am a dog lady lol.

      -Donna
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  26. The Food Curator
    Twitter:
    January 26, 2014 at 8:21 am #

    Donna, sorry to here about your dog. Good support is where you find it whether online or in the “real” world. It’s also where you find out who your friends are and even find some new ones!
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  27. Sarah Arrow
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    January 26, 2014 at 9:50 am #

    Sorry for your loss donna, and I know it was a tough decision for you. I’m so pleased that everyone showed their support and love when you needed it. Facebook does really well when you share something personal in this way, it helps to know other people feel the same way you do. Sending you love and hugs.
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  28. Rebekah Radice
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    January 26, 2014 at 2:00 pm #

    I couldn’t agree more! Facebook is so much more than “just a social network.” When you posted about Sheba, my heart broke for you. However, reading through others comments was so encouraging and uplifting. I can only imagine how they made you feel.

    Isn’t it wonderful to know that we never have to go through something like that alone? With the click of the button we can share what’s happening in our lives and know that our friends will be there to support us!
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    • Donna.Merrill
      Twitter:
      January 26, 2014 at 3:33 pm #

      Hi Rebekah,

      Thanks so much for all the support you have given me. Yes indeed, with one push of a button, we can get the support we need.

      I was shocked at the many people who came over to help. There were even those friends of friends who replied.

      Thanks again,

      -Donna
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  29. Kyle Nelson
    Twitter:
    January 26, 2014 at 4:46 pm #

    Donna,

    Thanks so much for sharing this wonderfully testament to how great good friends are. It is amazing what the power of Facebook can do. I think of all the amazing friends i have on there and i probably haven’t met half of them but still would consider them people that i could rely on and trust.
    Hope all is well and you are in comfort!:)
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      January 28, 2014 at 11:29 pm #

      Hi Kyle,

      It still amazes me when I think of how many real friends I have made on Facebook.

      I think we are all of the same mindset…bloggers and marketers. And we mostly work alone, so that in itself brings us closer together as friends.

      -Donna
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  30. Mayura
    Twitter:
    January 28, 2014 at 10:49 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    First off, I’m sorry for the latency dear. Haven’t been to blogs lately and started off with yours now.

    I’m so sorry about Sheba and it must have been a tough time for all of you. 20 years is indeed such a long time. Well, you did what best for her and I’m sure she’s grateful for that dear.

    It reminds me of the time I lost mine and since then no pup could take that place so far, Donna. I just see his face on every doggy I come across. They are family :) They can be even closer.

    Isn’t it wonderful to be among people who really care? :) Now you got evidence to prove. I really love the fact that we can attract so many likeminded friends online who makes our lives wonderful. If it wasn’t for social networks, we might have never known each others. nah?

    Anyway, it’s all about how we make use of social networks. While some others trying to do bad stuff and spread the negativity on ’em, many others make use of ’em to cheer their lives up. It’s awesome how Facebook friends lifted you up when you need it the most and you deserve to have such a lovely friends in your life, my loving friend :)

    You have a wonderful week dear :)

    Cheers…
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    • Donna.Merrill
      Twitter:
      January 28, 2014 at 11:34 pm #

      Hi Mayura,

      First I want to tell you how much I appreciate you supporting me through this time. You even went the extra mile to PM me on Facebook and I do appreciate that.

      Facebook gets a bad name for those who run in different circles than we do.

      As bloggers and marketers, we do have one purpose in mind (at least most of us) and that is to help one another.

      When we get on social media it is just that…social. I count my blessings every day that I can be real friends with people, especially you, who bring not only a learning experience to my life, but more than that…caring.

      When we think how we go on to a social site and make friends with people all over the world, it makes our lives joyous.

      Thank you my friend….

      -Donna

      P.S. I still want to adopt you lol!
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  31. Willena Flewelling
    Twitter:
    February 2, 2014 at 4:20 am #

    Donna, I’ve seen this time and again, on friends’ profiles and on my own. People care, and it’s so heartwarming to have them say so, even in a so-called impersonal place like Facebook.

    Four years ago, FB shut down my account, for reasons I never understood. That was two months after our son James died in a highway accident. FB told me they could not restore my account. But 12 days later, when I told them the real reason I wanted it back, they gave it to me. My real reason? The huge number of PMs and wall messages of comfort when we lost James. It would have been a huge loss, not only for me, but for my family, had we lost those messages forever. After my account was restored to me, you can believe I took screen shots of all those messages!

    Willena
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      February 2, 2014 at 5:27 pm #

      Hi Willena,

      When losing a child, those messages and PMs come flooding in. It’s a shame FB cut you off!

      I’m glad they restored it. I’m sure you were so comforted when all those people; family and friends, came to your side for support.

      Facebook can be such a great place for that.

      -Donna
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  32. William Earl Amis, Jr. III February 2, 2014 at 12:39 pm #

    Donna,

    You are right with those you have as friends on Facebook will be passionate no matter their challenges they may be facing. They even follow up with you until it is felt that situation is handled and time has past to heal.

    The information most share on a social platform is most times shocking to place such stuff! Yet, when their is a real life situation, you have not support at that time in your life. Yes, we are on Facebook hidden within all the web of stuff waiting to give moral support.

    Donna, great point about using it as an outlet which can be a huge benefit. Yes, also be wise as to how much stuff you place on such a location. Once you post it can not be taken back, even if you erase such a statement, most have ways to view it.
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    • Donna.Merrill
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      February 3, 2014 at 12:53 pm #

      Hi William,

      Thank you! Yes, Facebook can be used as an outlet for support. I remember when you hurt your leg. There was so many people praying for you and giving you support.

      -Donna
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  33. Sharon February 22, 2014 at 10:04 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    so sad to hear about you losing your friend. Pets are awesome its just such a sad thing when we have to say bye. They truly become one of the family, just as valuable as the people in our lives, only wish they could be with us longer. (you were blessed to have 20 years with your baby) I too believe FB can be a great place for support, and not just through our normal avenues, through the wonderful new friends that we meet and connect with online also.
    Thanks for sharing, Sharon

    • Donna.Merrill
      Twitter:
      February 23, 2014 at 12:45 pm #

      Hi Sharon,

      Welcome to my blog!

      Yes, those fur babies are part of our family. It was sad to make that choice and to see her go, but after 20 years with her, I feel blessed.

      Facebook is great to meet and engage with so many people. Now here we are as new friend. Isn’t that great?

      This is why I just love to be on social media.

      Thanks for stopping by and will be in touch soon.

      -Donna
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  34. Leslie Denning
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    May 5, 2014 at 2:54 pm #

    Hi Donna. I knew your dog was in a bad way, but I apparently missed the day she had to be put down. So sorry, from one animal lover to another.

    You make a great point about Facebook. The first year I was on, I couldn’t believe how many birthday greetings I got. I know I can ask people to pray for me, share fun stories, and console other people. It’s such a great platform for that.

    Thanks for sharing this information and your insights.

    All the best,

    Leslie
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  35. Tina
    Twitter:
    February 6, 2015 at 4:50 pm #

    Sorry for your loss Donna and what a great post. I am glad you were not allow and you got the support you needed. I too must have missed that post. Many blessings.
    Tina

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