This post was most recently updated on July 31st, 2016
Have you thought of the most common excuses for not being listened to?
Maybe you’ve been struggling to “get the word out” on your blog, in your video campaigns or with your great coaching program.
But it just seems like nobody’s listening to you.
I’m really happy to have Ikechi Awazie doing a guest post for me today that is going to address your struggle to being listened to.
Ikechi’s self-proclaimed ambition “is to stop people from playing small as it does not help the world.”
He is a really gifted inspirational writer, and I visit his “Be A Light To The World” blog all the time.
In his words, it “is about reaching out to someone with a story that stimulates action, significant change and living life intentionally.”
He helps readers through stories and inspiration to make a difference in the world.
Today’s post certainly lives up to his mission.
Without delay, let me turn this over to Ikechi.
I think you’ll quickly see why I asked him to contribute to my blog.
The Most Common Excuses For Not Being Listened To
I am grateful to Donna for giving me the opportunity to be a guest author.
What a surprise I got when I was told to make a difference in her blog. It is so wonderful.
Ok now, let’s get going.
“Different! Alone! Everything around me is grey. It was the same old feeling, back again. I was in the middle of the group but I might as well have been a million miles away from these people.” – Tim Relf, Stag
“It is strange being in a crowd where no one knows your face or cares for your purpose.” – Pierce Brown
“The group of people in front of her was jovial and paid her no attention. The group behind was much the same. She was alone without being alone.” – André Alexis
What do you think about these quotes and how does this reveal you?
You are a creative writer or superb artist.
You are an ingenious entrepreneur or exceptional manager.
You are a remarkable blogger or innovative marketer yet the world just doesn’t care.
You tried your best to make a difference but no one seems to neither give a thought to your existence nor even appreciate your work.
You really are lonely.
Now this is strange.
- Why is it that you don’t get the attention that you deserve?
- Why do people think that what you have to offer doesn’t matter?
- Why can’t people love you for being you?
- Can the problem really be YOU?
If you are struggling with this issue, you are not alone.
It is common to point a finger at others and blame the world for your situation.
It is easy to see the world with gloomy eyes and think the world is so cruel.
It is normal and human nature to make excuses.
However, the problem begins when you turn these excuses into a habit just because you aren’t ready to leave your comfort zone.
What do I mean?
Here are some common excuses that you have probably made when no one is listening to you.
“It is not my fault”
Maybe you really are not the one to blame. After all, if you have put so much effort in your work then, you deserve so much attention.
You believe that what you are doing is interesting and worth talking about. It is so unique plus special that it deserves so much praise.
So if no one is listening to you, then it is not your fault.
Ok! for a change, try taking responsibility for your actions and you will see that your whole world will be different.
Your perception will change.
You will find out that there is something that you don’t know.
You will then understand the problem, get the solution or seek help from experts.
“It is so tough”
It is sure difficult to get people to listen to me. It is so hard to get people to follow me and my work.
Well sure, it can be difficult to influence people or even get them to believe in your work but the problem is that you have created something that isn’t real.
You have allowed your thoughts to convince you that people are difficult to influence. You have developed a mind-set that people don’t like you.
Sadly, this mind-set has affected your action and distorted your vision.
Now just imagine, if you believed otherwise.
What if it is not difficult to influence your audience?
What if you knew that in this present dispensation, your audience is not that far from you and is desperately waiting for you to solve their problems?
Let me tell you that it is not difficult to be an influence. You can make people to believe in you.
“There is too much competition”
There is so much competition everywhere and this is why no one is listening to me.
How am I my supposed to make a difference when there is so much experts in this niche?
Having so much competition is bothering you that you fail to see the big picture.
So your competition might be better than you but none of them can ever be like you.
That is your advantage.
Before you is your Personality, experience and skill which has a unique combination and will enable you to make a difference.
Besides, how do you know someone is better than you when you have not even tried at all?
If the best business are those that thrive on serious competition, then the best place to make a difference and get people to listen to you is in a noisy environment.
Think about this.
“No one is going to listen to me”
If all you do is talk about your own interests and no one else.
If you don’t solve a problem that is a struggle for others.
If people perceive that you don’t care about them, then no one will listen to you at all.
If you see yourself in one of the examples above, don’t panic. You have a chance to make a difference.
Think about adding value…
- be an inspiration;
- talk about things that will help those that matter;
- make sure that you learn to listen first, then engage, connect and then make a difference by serving others.
Now, let’s see if really no one will listen you.
Are you experiencing loneliness?
What excuses have you made when no one was listening to you?
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