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The Most Common Excuses For Not Being Listened To

This post was most recently updated on July 31st, 2016

https://donnamerrilltribe.comHave you thought of the most common excuses for not being listened to?

Maybe you’ve been struggling to “get the word out” on your blog, in your video campaigns or with your great coaching program.

But it just seems like nobody’s listening to you.

I’m really happy to have Ikechi Awazie doing a guest post for me today that is going to address your struggle to being listened to.

Ikechi’s self-proclaimed ambition “is to stop people from playing small as it does not help the world.”

He is a really gifted inspirational writer, and I visit his “Be A Light To The World” blog all the time.

In his words, it “is about reaching out to someone with a story that stimulates action, significant change and living life intentionally.”

He helps readers through stories and inspiration to make a difference in the world.

Today’s post certainly lives up to his mission.

Without delay, let me turn this over to Ikechi.

I think you’ll quickly see why I asked him to contribute to my blog.

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The Most Common Excuses For Not Being Listened To

I am grateful to Donna for giving me the opportunity to be a guest author.

What a surprise I got when I was told to make a difference in her blog. It is so wonderful.

Ok now, let’s get going.

Different! Alone! Everything around me is grey. It was the same old feeling, back again. I was in the middle of the group but I might as well have been a million miles away from these people.” – Tim Relf, Stag

It is strange being in a crowd where no one knows your face or cares for your purpose.” – Pierce Brown

The group of people in front of her was jovial and paid her no attention. The group behind was much the same. She was alone without being alone.” – André Alexis

What do you think about these quotes and how does this reveal you?

You are a creative writer or superb artist.

You are an ingenious entrepreneur or exceptional manager.

You are a remarkable blogger or innovative marketer yet the world just doesn’t care.

You tried your best to make a difference but no one seems to neither give a thought to your existence nor even appreciate your work.

You really are lonely.

Now this is strange.

  • Why is it that you don’t get the attention that you deserve?
  • Why do people think that what you have to offer doesn’t matter?
  • Why can’t people love you for being you?
  • Can the problem really be YOU?

If you are struggling with this issue, you are not alone.

It is common to point a finger at others and blame the world for your situation.

It is easy to see the world with gloomy eyes and think the world is so cruel.

It is normal and human nature to make excuses.

However, the problem begins when you turn these excuses into a habit just because you aren’t ready to leave your comfort zone.

What do I mean?

Here are some common excuses that you have probably made when no one is listening to you.

“It is not my fault”

Maybe you really are not the one to blame. After all, if you have put so much effort in your work then, you deserve so much attention.

You believe that what you are doing is interesting and worth talking about. It is so unique plus special that it deserves so much praise.

So if no one is listening to you, then it is not your fault.

Ok! for a change, try taking responsibility for your actions and you will see that your whole world will be different.

Your perception will change.

You will find out that there is something that you don’t know.

You will then understand the problem, get the solution or seek help from experts.

“It is so tough”

It is sure difficult to get people to listen to me. It is so hard to get people to follow me and my work.

Well sure, it can be difficult to influence people or even get them to believe in your work but the problem is that you have created something that isn’t real.

You have allowed your thoughts to convince you that people are difficult to influence. You have developed a mind-set that people don’t like you.

Sadly, this mind-set has affected your action and distorted your vision.

Now just imagine, if you believed otherwise.

What if it is not difficult to influence your audience?

What if you knew that in this present dispensation, your audience is not that far from you and is desperately waiting for you to solve their problems?

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Let me tell you that it is not difficult to be an influence. You can make people to believe in you.

“There is too much competition”

There is so much competition everywhere and this is why no one is listening to me.

How am I my supposed to make a difference when there is so much experts in this niche?

Yeah!

Having so much competition is bothering you that you fail to see the big picture.

So your competition might be better than you but none of them can ever be like you.

That is your advantage.

Before you is your Personality, experience and skill which has a unique combination and will enable you to make a difference.

Besides, how do you know someone is better than you when you have not even tried at all?

If the best business are those that thrive on serious competition, then the best place to make a difference and get people to listen to you is in a noisy environment.

Think about this.

“No one is going to listen to me”

If all you do is talk about your own interests and no one else.

If you don’t solve a problem that is a struggle for others.

If people perceive that you don’t care about them, then no one will listen to you at all.

If you see yourself in one of the examples above, don’t panic. You have a chance to make a difference.

Think about adding value…

  • be an inspiration;
  • talk about things that will help those that matter;
  • make sure that you learn to listen first, then engage, connect and then make a difference by serving others.

Now, let’s see if really no one will listen you.

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Are you experiencing loneliness?

What excuses have you made when no one was listening to you?

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70 Responses to The Most Common Excuses For Not Being Listened To

  1. ikechi
    Twitter:
    December 20, 2015 at 3:11 pm #

    Hi Monna

    So sorry for the late response.

    It is so great and awesome to be a guest author in Donna’s blog.

    I too have one point felt that I had nothing to offer till I began to connect with other awesome bloggers who made me realize that my voice had the power to make an impact.

    Thanks for the lovely comment. Have an awesome weekend.

  2. Monna Ellithorpe
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    November 28, 2015 at 3:10 pm #

    Hi Donna and ikechi,

    Congrats for your guest posting on Donna’s blog and providing such a great topic. I used to think that I had nothing to offer and didn’t try because of the competition but lots of things have changed, with the most important thing being my mindset.

    As you said, there is no other out there like you and therefore, you can and will have a different voice and view about what you write and teach.

    Thank you so much for this great post.
    Monna Ellithorpe recently posted..NaNoWriMo 2015 Winding DownMy Profile

  3. Donna Merrill
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    September 11, 2015 at 10:33 pm #

    Our thoughts are very powerful. So true, we have to appreciate our uniqueness and strive to become better each day.

    -Donna
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  4. Deborah A. Ten Brink
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    August 14, 2015 at 9:45 pm #

    Thank you so much, Donna for inviting Ikechi as a guest blogger. I really enjoyed this post!

    The quotes you chose to share, Ikechi, really hit home. Thankfully, I learned a long time ago to take care of myself and be aware of my mental thought processes. I have to take care of me and my thoughts. Thoughts are very powerful and can either help us or hinder us.

    I totally agree that if we can only celebrate our uniqueness, we can then see that we really have no competition. We should strive to be better than who we were yesterday and not compete with another person.

    Deborah
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    • ikechi
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      August 24, 2015 at 6:04 am #

      Hi Deborah

      You are so right. Our thoughts are very powerful and determine whether our actions become positive or negative.

      One must learn to appreciate his uniqueness and become better each day. Thanks for sharing your insight. Have a swell week.

      Ikechi
      ikechi recently posted..Why Your Story Will Always be a BestsellerMy Profile

  5. Hema Unnoop
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    July 18, 2015 at 6:39 pm #

    Hello Donna and Ikechie,

    First of all congratulations for writing a guest post at Donna’s blog. Truly inspiring.

    I was guilty! This is exactly who I was a few years ago. I had people around me yet felt lonely. Always had a victim mentality. I would never step put of my comfort zone. I would endlessly complain and make excuses. Always looked to blame somebody out there.

    Thank goodness I have come to the realization that my situation would never improve if I kept hanging on to my lame excuses. To be honest I haven’t totally rid myself of making excuses…but I am on the right track and gradually letting go of my old boring ways. I now know that my excuses rendered me powerless and left me unhappy. I am now true to myself and I atttract people and experiences I want in my life. Couldn’t be more happier.

    The points you mentioned in this post are so relatable and can be applied to all areas in our lives. Thank you for such a valuable, well thought of post. Off to share 🙂

    Thank you Donna and Ikechie. Wishing you guys a lovely weekend.
    Hema Unnoop recently posted..Top 6 Side Effects Of Constant ComplainingMy Profile

    • ikechi
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      July 20, 2015 at 4:24 pm #

      Hi Hema

      I am glad that you are moving forward and making a difference.

      We all face the temptation to embrace excuses and most of us do fall prey but the good thing is that we can accept our actions and make the necessary changes.

      I am glad that you were inspired by this post and thank you for such a lovely comment. Thanks for sharing and do have an awesome week.
      ikechi recently posted..Stop Doing This To Your DreamsMy Profile

  6. Andrew
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    July 16, 2015 at 9:31 am #

    Hey Ikechi,

    Great post on Donna’s blog. Being listened to is a major thing and in a sense, you have to earn it. And I think the best ways to earn it is to write stuff people want to read, not being afraid and accepting challenges such as “too much competition.”

    I find that too many people make too much excuses. And they’re looking for someone or something to blame. Doing that will not get you anywhere at all. Great post. Great message.

    Thanks for having him on here, Donna.

    Hope you both have a great day.

    – Andrew
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    • ikechi
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      July 16, 2015 at 1:45 pm #

      Hi Andrew

      You are absolutely right and most people love to play the blame game rather than sit tight and Take responsibility for their action.

      True that when you write content that helps people in a solving their problems, you get their attention.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. Take care.

  7. susan cooper
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    July 14, 2015 at 7:47 pm #

    Hi Ikechi, I am so happy to see you here on Donna’s blog too. I just love your blog “Be a Light to the World” you are always so positive and so inspirational. Once again you have hit the nail on the head here with this post too. Which is take responsbility and stop letting those self defeating thoughts get to you. But your bullet points on adding value by being inspirational and helpful to others as you listen and learn….you are right my friend, this is what gets people wanting to listen to you. Building that relationship and making that personal connection. Thanks for sharing!

    • ikechi
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      July 16, 2015 at 1:30 pm #

      Hi Susan

      I am so glad to see you too.

      Yes! building strong and genuine relationship makes a difference. You get to connect with people on a personal level.

      I am humbled by your words and I want to say thank you for the support.
      ikechi recently posted..Stop Doing This To Your DreamsMy Profile

  8. Mary Sloane
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    July 12, 2015 at 6:01 pm #

    Well I am afraid I resemble those remarks! Too often I have used those excuses to quit or just go off saying I guess I don’t know enough yet!

    I am finding, as I reach out and really try to help people, that they pay a lot more attention to what I say and they share my blog posts and tweets.

    Just simply cannot gesture… mean it or move on!

    There is no room left for being tentative! No one wants someone who is “hoping” they can help! Time to really make that difference that I know I can make!

    Thanks for the inspiration!
    Mary Sloane recently posted..8 Ways to Power-Up Your Conscious MindMy Profile

    • ikechi
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      July 12, 2015 at 11:44 pm #

      Hi Mary

      Happy to meet you

      Well I am glad that you have able to reach out and make a
      difference with your audience. You are not alone. I do remember that I started out by making excuses, trying to blame others for not getting attention.

      However once I was pass that hurdle, I noticed that I was getting much attention because I was finally being of service to others.

      Love your point and it is true that no one wants someone who is hoping to help. People are looking for timely solutions.

      Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Have an awesome week.
      ikechi recently posted..Stop Doing This To Your DreamsMy Profile

  9. Nisha Pandey
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    July 12, 2015 at 4:36 pm #

    Hi Ikechi,

    Another wonderful post! I regularly follow you on your blog. There is so much to learn from this, not only for entrepreneurs and other professionals but also for the commoners – in their day to day lives.

    Thanks Ikechi for this wonderful post and the valuable info. And thanks Donna for bringing up Ikechi here.

    Have a great week ahead both of you!

    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 12, 2015 at 11:39 pm #

      Hi Nisha

      Coming from you, I am humbled by your comment.

      Yes you are right that anyone who intends to get attention from his work will benefit it. I do want to thank you for taking the time to read the post.

      I am also glad that you enjoyed the post. Thanks so much. Have a swell week.
      ikechi recently posted..Stop Doing This To Your DreamsMy Profile

  10. Andy Lockhart
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    July 12, 2015 at 4:32 pm #

    Great post, and those excuses are all out their. Mindset is such an important part of this game. When you work on your own, it becomes harder as there is no one there to give you that rah rah.

    Thanks

    Andy
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    • ikechi
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      July 12, 2015 at 11:34 pm #

      Hi Andy

      You are right and this is why relationships matter. Without relationships, it becomes difficult to get the attention one deserves.

      It is easy to make excuses and point fingers at others but it is better to accept responsibilities which then leads us to solutions.

      Thanks for sharing your awesome insight. Have a nice week.
      ikechi recently posted..Stop Doing This To Your DreamsMy Profile

  11. Sue Bride
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    July 11, 2015 at 1:23 am #

    This post is very timely. I’ve just got off the phone with a colleague in a “support” organization I’m active in. Subscriptions are down because it’s not listening to its members, or respecting how much they can contribute because of their first hand experience.

    Instead we’ve created or found other sources to offer help, produce information, and to receive support ourselves.

    I tend to blame myself for not doing well with something but I’m stubborn and keep going anyway. I just know that there’s more for me to learn still.

    Thanks for the post ikechi and to Donna for introducing us to you and your very interesting site.
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    • ikechi
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      July 11, 2015 at 7:53 pm #

      Hi Sue

      Well that is strange and I do hope that the support organization understand what they are missing by not listening to their companies.

      Sometimes, I am amazed at how some organisations treat feedback as if users don’t know what they are doing.

      You made some interesting points and I agree with you 100%. I am glad to meet you and thanks for sharing your insight. Have a swell week.
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  12. Dylann Andre July 10, 2015 at 1:32 pm #

    So grateful and bless to read this post. It’s very great help for me. Thanks a lot for sharing.

  13. ikechi
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    July 10, 2015 at 1:26 pm #

    Hi Kathryn

    Welcome and glad to meet you.

    I am quite happy that the topic attracted you and sparked your curiosity.

    I am also glad that you liked the post and i love your summary. Your points are so opt.

    Thanks for sharing and taking the time to make such an awesome comment. Have a nice weekend.
    ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  14. Kathryn Maclean
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    July 9, 2015 at 8:31 pm #

    Donna and Ikechi- nice to meet you.
    I was at first caught by the title, something every good title should do.

    When you start out blogging even after you think you have
    tried to make a “difference” you get no appreciation.
    Why? Is it you? If you see the world with gloom that is what
    you will draw to you. Changing your excuses and leaving your
    comfort zone along with changing your mindset will help.
    Taking responsibility for your actions and your perception changes
    Talk about things that will help other, listen to people and help
    them out. You won’t be lonely long, and people will listen to you.
    Great post.
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  15. Linda Schrier
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    July 9, 2015 at 5:33 pm #

    H Ikechi,

    It is so true that when we blame others for our problems, that the real problem is us and not somebody else.

    We can’t succeed if we are too busy blaming others.

    We always need to work on ourselves to have the right mindset. I am a firm believer that if I have a problem then get some help or even if I have a task that I can’t figure out then I out source it.

    What a great post with massive value.

    You have an awesome day and weekend ahead,

    Linda
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    • ikechi
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      July 10, 2015 at 12:36 pm #

      Hi Linda

      What great belief that you have shared.

      You know I too believe that no man is an island and we should always see help from others.

      Excuses don’t produce any result and when we take responsibility for our actions, we open doors to opportunities.

      Thanks for sharing your insight and do have a swell week. Take Care.
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  16. Luna Darcy
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    July 9, 2015 at 9:51 am #

    Hi Ikechi and Donna,

    Such an inspiring post and very true, too.

    I remember way back asking the same questions to myself. Although the main difference is I did not blame other people at it, I blamed myself (Yes, I beat up myself too hard sometimes and I’m working on it!). Either way, blame does not solve the situation and does not do me any good.

    I agree with you Ikechi, that when we speak, we have to be light to others. Let our stories be their inspiration and motivation. That’s when I started my site, Organized Lunacy. I long to find people who’s going through the same situations as I (or even worse) and build relationships with them.

    I’m off to your blog now Ikechi. Glad you guest posted here at Donna’s!

    Thank you Donna for providing us content from people we can be really inspired and learn a lot from.

    Have a beautiful rest of the week to both of you.

    Luna
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    • ikechi
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      July 9, 2015 at 2:48 pm #

      Hi Luna

      Your comment is so wonderful and I agree with you totally.

      We are the light to others. Our stories are to be a blessing to others. Our life should give people hope. If we allow Excuses to come in, we will never fulfill this goal which is why we must be responsible for our actions.

      Thank you for sharing your insight and I loved your comment in my blog. I am humbled by your kind words. Have a swell week. Take Care
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  17. Akaahan Terungwa
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    July 9, 2015 at 3:36 am #

    Hi Ikechi,

    An awesome post that sure inspires and forces me to listen to you 🙂

    Why?

    Because, sometimes back, I used to ask the same questions you have attempted to answer here. I knocked my head against the wall, denied myself sleep and did all i could imagine to change my predicament.

    Nothing happened!

    Then, one day, I attempted living my life in a service oriented way. I saw the whole world as a ‘problem field’ which I singularly had the solution to…like magic, people became interested and since then, it has only gotten better and better each and every day.

    My trick?

    1. Identify a problem that is complex – so complex that the average folk has no answer to.

    2. Give out your answers in a service oriented way that beats all else.

    3. Shout to the ends of the world – let the whole world know that you can solve their problems.

    This has never failed me. In addition to the awesome points you’ve beautifully explained above, the sky is certainly only the starting point!

    Sincerely, you rock!

    Always,
    Akaahan Terungwa
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    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 9, 2015 at 1:38 pm #

      Hi Terungwa

      Your experience is so valuable and shows a practical example of how to overcome the obstacle of getting attention.

      We all can relate to your story. At a time my blog felt like a ghost. It seemed my voice was mute in the blogosphere but when I started thinking about how to solve people’s problem, people began to recognize my work.

      I do like your tricks as they are spot on and it does solve the issue of attention.

      Thanks for your lovely comment. Have a swell week.
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  18. Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
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    July 8, 2015 at 3:34 pm #

    The excuse making is certainly part of the reason that one is not listened to. Excuses are opportunities to not take responsibility for your own actions, or lack thereof. When we take responsibility we are more genuine, when we are more genuine we get more interactions.
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  19. Dennis Seymour
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    July 8, 2015 at 11:00 am #

    Hi Ikechi! Great to see you here on Donna’s blog! (Thanks for having him here Donna)

    I can relate to this. I’ve had my own moments throughout the years that I would just tell myself one of those. A different one each time haha.

    I guess it’s a natural journey until we learn to just screw it and do something about it 🙂

    Thanks and keep inspiring Ikechi!
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  20. Yatin Khulbe
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    July 8, 2015 at 7:57 am #

    What a wonderful post, Ikechi
    It is very to make excuses. It takes a lot of effort to get noticed. Getting noticed doesn’t mean that we touch the ladder of success from day one. It is a systematic process. Every big thing takes some time.

    Whenever we enter into a new land, we start questioning our ability by thinking about the giants in our industry. But, we forget one basic thing: The giants were also beginners. Nobody can steal our real identity.

    Ya, we must add value in our content. If we are providing the valuable content, readers will definitely pay lots of love in return. So, we must not lose hope.

    Thanks Donna for sharing Ikechi’s wonderful thoughts. Have a great day, buddies 🙂
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    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 10, 2015 at 12:12 pm #

      Hi Yatin

      You are so right and you reveal a certain truth that occurs when a newbie enters an industry. Yep it is normal to question and compare our ability with the experts

      However since there are many ways to see a point, this gives newbies an opportunity to make a difference in their industry using a different angle.

      You are also right that providing great content will get us on the radars of our audience but it takes a lot of work.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. Have a swell week.
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  21. Rachel
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    July 8, 2015 at 3:10 am #

    Hey Ikechi / Donna,

    I agree, you got to give a little first. Listening to others is an amazing tool And people do love to have a chat. It is so easy to ask questions and be inquisitive about people. But make it genuine. Don’t have that motivation to engage just to get your ideas or marketing ideas across.

    I enjoyed the “there is too much competition”. When we know we have our own unique style all we need to find is our confidence to elbow our way into the area where all the greats are and be patient and consistent. I totally enjoy one subject being trashed out by so many different people who are gutsy enough to add their own spin on things. The confidence with their take on a subject really inspires me.

    I can’t say that nobody listens to me, because I don’t believe that at all, but I am very aware I am new to blogging so once again it is about believing in myself and work really hard. I point blank refuse to be ignored or not heard. Big smile, I do this with passion rather than aggression.

    It is so tough – I don’t see it that way. I see there are so many people who have been in the business for a while and if you want to be up with them you must continue to have faith in your own ability.

    When I first started blogging (only nine weeks ago), my one main concern was – was I going to feel inadequate about my work in comparison to others? What really surprised me was I couldn’t wait to read other posts with similar content and was glad that I did because my take had similar ideas but a different style. And I really embraced that. This insight is like one of my key weapons.

    But it is like anything, in a big crowd if you want to be heard you have to make some noise. Hey Ikechi, great post, it got me thinking about how I think about things. I really got a clear vision on where I am going and where I am at. I am ready to fight with my eager words to be heard. Another great post as usual. Talk soon.

    Rachel

    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 10, 2015 at 11:56 am #

      Hi Rachel

      Wow! Your experience is so awesome.Even though you are new to blogging, you are making a difference in the blogosphere.

      Yes I am glad that you have a strong resolve and I love your message in your blog plus your writing style. Like you said, I do know you are getting attention because your message is thought provoking

      Too much competition does not mean that you can’t make a difference. In fact , a competitive environment helps you to find your voice.

      Thanks for your word of wisdom. Have a swell week
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  22. Chioma Anozie
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    July 7, 2015 at 6:00 pm #

    Hi Donna and Ikechi,

    Wonderful post. The title caught my attention and knowing what Donna’s blog is all about, my curiosity was quipped.

    Getting people to listen to you both in real life and on the blogoshere can be a really hard task. Most times you have to earn the right to be listened to. And this is why many fail, because they do not know how to go about it. They speculate that nobody will ever listen to them and let that fear paralyze them from doing anything.

    Your second and third reasons are the most common excuses people give for not being able to get attention to their projects or blog or life. But I have found out that fear is the root of all excuses. if one can let go of that fear and persist in doing what they love doing, the world will take note. It might not be instantly but it will definitely happen.

    Thanks for sharing your insights, Ikechi. And thanks Donna, for featuring Ikechi’s guestpost on your site.
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    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 8, 2015 at 1:00 am #

      Hi Chioma

      Yes! I do agree that fear is the root cause of some of the excuses people put up to stay in their comfort zone..

      I have some of my friends that have wonderful dreams yet the let the world dictate to them whether their dreams are a reality or wishes. They also feel that no one will listen to them. It is painful and I have seen how fear can really make one give up easily.

      However as you mentioned, once one can get rid of his dreams, the sky is just the limit.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. Take Care
      ikechi recently posted..Be An Inspiration: A Cartoonist Turns 609 Rejections into A Success StoryMy Profile

  23. Emi July 7, 2015 at 5:54 pm #

    Hi Donna & Ikechi!
    This is really great article, I believe it all comes to mind set and of course your interest.
    When a person is not interested in the topic there is nothing you can do to change that.

    Thank you guys and have a wonderful week!
    Emi
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    • ikechi
      Twitter:
      July 7, 2015 at 11:19 pm #

      Hi Emi

      I am glad you like this article and you sure are right. Having the right mindset sets you for success. When you have the mindset of providing value, people will definitely take interest.

      No one has the time to read content that isn’t able to solve their problem or spark interest.

      Thank you for sharing your insight and I am glad to meet you.

      Take Care and have a swell week.

      Ikechi
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  24. Adrienne
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    July 7, 2015 at 4:34 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    I was thinking to myself, what an interesting topic this week until I saw that it was a guest post. I’m not surprised that this is from Ikechi, he’s someone who is always helping us with his inspirational posts.

    Hey Ikechi,

    As I was reading through this my first thought was well, you have to take responsibility for yourself. Then I read on and you said it yourself. Whether the circumstances are our fault or not it’s not the point. It’s how we view things that sometimes take us down that particular path.

    I agree that we have to change our mindset if we intend to get anywhere in life. I personally know that what holds a lot of people back is their lack of confidence. I think when you take the time to study personal development and really understand how this all works then it’s a beautiful thing when you all of a sudden not only feel the changes within you but see the results on the outside too.

    Really great share today my friend, thanks for this and so good to see you here at Donna’s blog. I hope you both have a really wonderful week.

    ~Adrienne
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    • ikechi
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      July 7, 2015 at 11:08 pm #

      Hi Adrienne

      It is normal for humans to make excuses. It is very easy to point fingers at others. However , once one switches from excuses to responsibility, it is a whole new play field.

      I do agree that confidence is a big issue and this has made so many people grap on to their comfort zone. Confidence is needed to make a difference and stay on the course.

      You make an awesome point about development and changing one’s mindset and I agree that there is a life transformation when one’s mindset is changed.

      Thank your for the kind words and I am glad that you find my articles inspiring. I am humbled by this compliment. I am glad to be a guest in Donna’s blog as she is so awesome.

      Kudos for sharing your insight. Have a swell week
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  25. Chery Schmidt
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    July 7, 2015 at 4:11 pm #

    Hello Ikechi, nice to meet you here on Donna’s blog. I just loved your article, Oh So true, nothing happens by itself Huh? It is up to you and no one else to t yourself out there and NOT Play that Blame Game!

    Thanks for sharing and do have an amazing rest to your week.
    Chery :))
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    • ikechi
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      July 7, 2015 at 9:25 pm #

      Hi Chery

      Thanks for the warm welcome and glad to see you too.

      I am happy that you enjoyed the article and could relate to some of the excuses. Yes we are the authors of our destiny and as long as we don’t take action, nothing is going to happen in our lives except stagnation.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. Have a wonderful week.

      Ikechi
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  26. Don Purdum
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    July 7, 2015 at 9:59 am #

    Hi Donna and Ikechi,

    Dealing with the mindset issues is a key one. Many times these issues are nothing more than a deep insecurity or fear that is not necessarily rooted in reality. Unfortunately, they end up earning the results they deserve because they subconsciously planned it.

    Blogging for business is a very challenging and unique thing. It requires us fully understanding ourselves, our business and our customers.

    It requires us going deeper than we’ve ever been challenged to go and discover so much more than we ever thought we needed to.

    No matter the business, all business is rooted in data, mindset and confidence. Confidence is earned one little step at a time. In fact, I was just thinking a bit ago that my next article may be on how confidence affects our marketing and business.

    I hope you guys have a great week!!!!

    ~ Don Purdum
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    • ikechi
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      July 7, 2015 at 10:45 am #

      Hi Don

      You are right and I agree with your points.

      When it comes to business, mindset is very important. Having confidence and getting rid of fear has a lot of benefit in blogging.

      It is true that all business are rooted in data, mindsetband confidence which is what seperates those who are successful in business and others that struggle.

      What a great idea to talk about confidence and how it affects marketing. Looking forward to your project.

      Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Take Care.
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  27. Renard Moreau
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    July 7, 2015 at 9:59 am #

    [ Smiles ] As far as I am concerned, there are people who will listen to you; it is just, that it might be a smaller percentage of people.
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  28. Robin Strohmaier
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    July 7, 2015 at 8:14 am #

    Hi Donna and Ikechi,

    This is a great post and topic, Ikechi, and you have offered excellent advice.

    When I explain the tremendous benefits of a blog to new clients, two of the most common statements that I hear is “I’m not sure I need a blog” and “I’m not a writer.”

    It is difficult to convince those who appear defeated before they begin. Like anything we attempt to do, we need to take the first step to reach our goals with no excuses.

    Thank you for sharing your insights, Ikechi, and thank you, Donna, for introducing me to Ikechi!

    Have a wonderful week ahead, and Donna, enjoy your week on the West Coast!

    ~ Robin
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    • ikechi
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      July 7, 2015 at 10:23 am #

      Hi Robin

      Oh! It is true that when it comes to blogging, the common fears are that one needs to be a writer and blogging isn’t for everyone.

      It is strange but I do understand your clients. It is a filter that is already erected in their thoughts. I do hope that in time they will the big picture and start blogging.

      Thanks for sharing your insight and glad to know you too. Take Care and have a swell week.

  29. Angela McCall
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    July 7, 2015 at 12:08 am #

    Hi Donna and Ikechi,

    The most common I heard from my friends is: “No one is going to listen to me.” Right away they concluded that no one is going to listen to them when they haven’t even tried the first thing about blogging. And then here’s another one — “I’m not a writer how do I blog?”

    Well, I said, “If you can speak you can write. Write your voice!”

    The good thing about Blogging is…it is entirely different from being a Journalist. Journalism is more of a serious type of writing, like writing for the government, or for a Law firm, or writing a U.S. Constitution. Oftentimes, Journalist writes for the newspapers and magazines with real formal grammar and make sure no spelling errors! In Blogging, you can be more informal. It’s rather loose and you can speak your voice and the main thing about this is — interactions!

    Anyway, great post. Good to meet you, Ikechi. 🙂

    Cheers,
    Angela
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    • ikechi
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      July 7, 2015 at 3:42 am #

      Hi Angela

      Wow! those are two common excuses that I have heard too myself among people.

      I still have friends who still believe that before one can blog, he must be a writer. Now I am not surprised because I use to think the same way too till I changed my mindset but think about all the people who could have made a difference with their voice but are distracted by excuses.

      You are right about blogging. Blogging has a space for everyone and it not restricted by age or career. It is one place where there is room for growth and you are not pressured into being perfect.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. I am so thrilled to meet you. Have a wonderful week. Take Care.
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  30. Mark
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    July 6, 2015 at 7:27 pm #

    Thanks some excellent advice!

    And it really makes a lot of sense!It’s so easy to point fingers and try and play the blame game!

    But in the end, at some point, we have to look in the mirror and face the person
    looking back at us!

    Because that person truly holds the key to our future success or failure!
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    • ikechi
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      July 6, 2015 at 8:09 pm #

      Hi Mark

      Ah! You said it so well. One really needs to sit and take a review of his action rather than point fingers.

      True that the key to success and failure is in one’s hands and only him alone which is why I find it strange that people can blame others for their failure.

      Thanks for giving me a dose of insight. Take Care bro.
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  31. Brenda Lee
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    July 6, 2015 at 6:06 pm #

    Hi Donna! Hi Ikechi!

    This is a fabulous post. Over the past several years of blogging, I often questioned myself. “Are they listening?” “Why don’t they comment?” “Do I have something to offer my readers?” Finally, I found the answers I was looking for. I started writing better content and sharing more of my experiences. My articles starting reaching people and they told me. Sharing ones experience and then opening it up for others to share theirs is one mission of my site. I love to hear from my readers and love to hear when I help them.

    It took me quite some time to get to this point but I live by this “If you write good content, they will come.” I’m never alone ever again.

    Thank you for this inspirational post, Ikechi. Thank you, Donna, for having such a wonderful guest!

    Happy Monday to both of you and have an awesome week!

    B
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    • ikechi
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      July 6, 2015 at 8:04 pm #

      Hi Brenda

      I am glad that you shared your experience plus you were able to solve the problem of getting people’s attention.

      Yes I can relate to your situation. I too felt the same way when I started blogging. I thought that people were not listening. Little did I know that I was not reaching out to my audience. I was not solving their problems.

      Everything changed when I owned up and made a change.

      Thanks for your words of wisdom. Have a swell week.
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  32. Umapathy July 6, 2015 at 5:45 pm #

    Hi Ikechi,

    Wonderful post from you. I believe people who are lazy will find excuses. I believe in the following quote

    ” If it is important to you, you will find a way. Else, you will make excuses”.

    Thank you for Donna for this guest post.

    Both of you have a great week ahead.

    • ikechi
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      July 6, 2015 at 8:00 pm #

      Hi Umapathy

      Thanks for the kind words.

      Love your point and I agree that if you really and desparately need help, you will always find a solution. Excuses is the first point of action when you ain’t ready to leave your comfort zone.

      I appreciate your comment. Thanks for insight. Take Care
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      • Donna Merrill
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        July 10, 2015 at 2:28 am #

        Hi Umapathy,

        You sure have got that one … excuses cup up all the time when we want to leave our comfort zone as Ikechie has mentioned.

        Every time I come up with an “excuse” a red flag goes in my mind and I have to work my way around it.
        -Donna
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  33. Marquita Herald
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    July 6, 2015 at 5:08 pm #

    Well said and I think what your message applies to many areas of life … the worker who wonders why they never get the attention or promotions they deserve, the author who can’t figure out why no one is buying their books. Taking responsibility and building relationships are key, but it still takes time to establish one’s self. As I’m sure you know even in straight up advertising the standard rule is that it takes a minimum of 7 impressions before people actually connect with your message. The challenge for bloggers is we need to make sure we’re actively delivery a consistent message so readers will want to return again (and again). Thanks for the inspiration Ikechi and Donna!
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    • ikechi
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      July 6, 2015 at 7:44 pm #

      Hi Marquita

      I like the word “Consistency” and you are right about it. No one can just trust you the first time they see you. Sure you might be received warmly but to take the relationship further needs time.

      I agree with you that anyone who intends to share his message needs to take the time to build strong relationships only then can people begin to give him attention.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. Have a great week.
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  34. Atish Ranjan
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    July 6, 2015 at 4:26 pm #

    Hi Ikechi,

    Nice write-up. Loved reading it. I believe that when you make excuses, you are creating distance between you and success.

    To get success, the very first thing is to stop making excuses. As you said in the article about the excuses people make to not being listened to, is just a psychological thing that people start thinking after listening to many demotivating kind of things.

    It’s important to make things possible by your hard work rather than thinking to get everything ready made.

    Thanks for writing this mate.
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    • ikechi
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      July 6, 2015 at 6:41 pm #

      Hi Atish

      Thank you for the kind words.

      You are right and I believe that the more excuses one makes the farther one is from achieving success. I agree with you 100% that our mind deceives into thinking that others are to be blamed for our challenges.

      Unless one is able to take responsibility for his actions, he can never be able to see the solution to his challenges.

      Thanks for your insight and do have a swell week.
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  35. Enock Machodi
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    July 6, 2015 at 2:26 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    This is very inspiring.

    I’d also wish to emphasize on building relationships that last. If I get to know you I can help promote your posts as well as leave comments on your blog. So, you will have 1) Found someone to listen to you; 2) Someone to engage with your posts; and someone to promote your posts to an audience that’s new to you. Soon people will start counting on you. It’s just plain and simple. So whoever you know matters a lot. So take time to connect with other influential bloggers and be of value to them.

    Great post Donna – and it’s been a while since I visited your blog…been busy but I’m all good!

    Thank you!
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  36. ikechi
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    July 6, 2015 at 1:35 pm #

    Hi Donna

    Thank you for giving me the opportunity to be a guest author in your blog. I am glad that you find my blog so inspiring. I am humbled by your kind words.

    Yes I have the spot light so do not worry as I handle your blog today. Do have a great time at the West Coast. Take Care.
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  37. Donna Merrill
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    July 6, 2015 at 12:58 pm #

    Ikechi,

    I want to thank you so much for being here as a guest on my blog. Every time I read your blog, I always come away with a peaceful mindset. I’m sure my readers will love this post and connect with you.

    I am flying out to the West Coast this week, and Ikechi is kind enough to handle my blog. I will try to pop in whenever I can.

    -Donna
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